Liz, sweetie you said nothing wrong!!! Rachel is not feeling the way she is because of you, it is because she made a wrong decision and now realizes that you were right and more than likely her parents hate the fact that you were right and they were wrong and they see how upset their daughter is. You told her how you felt and that you were still going to be there for her, that isn't wrong or anything to feel guilty about! You are an amazing friend liz and I wish more people were as honest and supporting as you are! Don't beat yourself up about this, because really it is their fault and ignorance that is making their daughter feel like crap not you!!



Much love
-jessika-

Shshsh

Hun don't let what he is saying make you feel bad!! If she would have listened to you then she could walk up the stairs and she wouldn't be so depressed!! You are entitled to what you feel and you had every right to tell her so!! This is not a "standard" abortion at 6 weeks, this was a viable baby!! She should be counting her blessings that you are still supporting her even though you are way against it!! Maybe she, your boyfriend and her parents should take the blame since they coaxed her into this crap!!! Liz, really sweetheart, *do not* blame yourself or let anyone make you feel like this is your fault! They all need to grow up and take some doing it responsibility for their own actions!! I am sorry for cussing, but I am really mad that they are trying to blame her feelings on you! It hurts her because she knows their is a dead child in her body and she is to blame, it is just like that plain and simple!!

Much love
-jess-

Shshs

Its no problem hun!! I am glad that I could help! Her parents sound a little flighty to say the least, I don't know what it is about some of them. The thing is though, if you end up pregnant you are way too independant to be coaxed into an abortion like rachel, she is dependant on her parents. As for taking seana in, she is my one of my best friends in the entire world! If I needed her, she would be there for me and do anything and thats what I think friends do. Just like you and rachel, you did everything you could, you even bent some of your religous beliefs to help her and even though it came back to bite you in the butt, you still stand there and help her! You are a true inspiration to me!! Taking in seana to live with me seems so small compared to what you did for rachel, but it all means something to someone, whether it is at that time or later, it will eventually mean something!

Much love
-jess-

No way liz! U did nothing wrong! Not a single thing! I think u r great for still standing beside her, because if anyone treated me like that I would most likely say well f*** u 2. But thats just me. I don't take kindly to idiocy. I can be a very intolerant person. But I think what you did is great and dont let anyone tell you otherwise. I think you are a super person and everyone (including me) should try and be more like you.

Shshs

Sitting here with a classmate, we read this. We decided that we don't feel that anything you said was wrong. Abortion is wrong , and if that is what she was going to do that then that was her fault. Dont feel bad because you have done or will do nothing wrong. I think that this goes for myself to, if you believe in something stick to it and dont allow other peoples feelings to discourage you. Good luck!! I am here for u if you need me(caps!)....


Mezzy

Shshs

Hey liz! Im back and I read your post. I think what you put is not bad at all. You meant no harm so dont feel bad. You are a great friend and she will realize it. She just knows what she did was wrong and will get over it soon. As long as you know you try to be there, you are doin great!

Shshs

That is so great liz!! I feel like that at church too! Like I always used to hold grudges on people and not like them, but at church the pastor was like you need to forgive! How can you ask for forgiveness for your sins when you cant forgive other people!? I was like oh my gosh thats me! So im nice to everyone even more now! Thats great and its so true! You are so sweet and im sure you make a great friend to the other girl! Just keep doing what your doing! And dont feel bad!

Shshs

Hey liz, thats great gods working in your life! Its a beautiful thing. Its reminds me of a song at church, the words were something like "one day every tounge will confess you are king, one day every knee will bow, still the greatest gifts remains for those, who gladly worship you now" yes I do beat myself up for everything! But we shouldnt. You seem like a great person liz!!!!

Thanks! Yes we do still go on dates! This weekend we stayed in and watched movies and got a pizza.This weekend we are going to see another movie, next weekend is his birthday so we are going to dinner! I have a busy schedule with alot of money to spend! Hes great. But we love to bug each other too! Hahaha

Sweetie you did nothing wrong! You stated your opinion. And you did it in a manerly, nice way. I could understand if you had been rude or something that she would be mad. But you werent at all. My suggestion is just to call her or go see her. Tell her that you really didn't mean it to seriously upset her you meant that you love her no matter what. And that your with her all the way. Thats what friends are for rite? Chances are she'll come around. And she'll need your support because she'll be having a lot of emotions that she needs help to handle best of luck ~melissa

I agree with melissa 100%. I feel that you should not only go talk to her...But go talk with her parents also. Depending on how close you are with them it will make them understand.

My freshman year, my best friend got pregnany by a 19 year old. She was 15, making 16. I was extreemly close with her family and her boyfriend. We were like 1 family. Anywayz, I told her mom that I didnt think abortion was right. Her mom was forcing her to have the abortion. Although she still had the abortion, she felt incredibly depressed afterwords. But then she came to the realization that it really wasnt time for her to have a child. Neither her nor her boyfriend was stable in any way to have a child. She was only 2 weeks pregnant when she had the abortion.

Since then I dont really know if she regrets having the abortion. I dont commune with her any longer. She is now a senior in high school doing the things she would not have been able to do if she had had the child. I (in caps) still do not believe abortion is right. If you are woman enough to have unprotected sex, than you are woman enough to take care of a child. Like jennifer said...You made your bed, now lay in it!!

Sarah

Stay strong sweetie!! We are all here for you if you need us!!

Shshs