Oh know! That's a awkard sitution! I don't think i've ever heard of any kind of pre-birth paternity test.....Sorry! She could chart our her cycle though and kinda see who she was having sex with around the time she concieved.....How far along it she?? Just count back from there?? It isn't fool proof but it may give you some idea!!! Good luck!!

I feel really bad for you. I remember someone telling me this before and there was a pre gebetic test that could be done, but ti was dangerous and expensive. I will see if I can research it some for you. Good luck

There is a way they can test while shes pregnant. I believe they take ambiotic fluids and test it that way. Chances are, its pretty expensive. But hey, if you're willing to pay the price.

Isn't the pre-birth paternity test able to be done by amniocentesis? I think the baby has to be 20 weeks along or further tho.

This was on a site:

"paternity testing can be performed starting at the 10th week of pregnancy and can be done until around the 21st or 22nd week of pregnancy. The procedure requires the collection of fetal sample (normally done by a physician) and either blood or buccal swabs from both parents."

there's stuff about it on the net so go surfing and see your options. It does cost $$ though if i'm not mistaken, unless you go on "maury" or it is court ordered!

Good luck!

Thanx everyone for their help

i'm 17, no job,and I don't have the richest family.....So I think my only option is to wait till the baby is born.

She has told me and the other person who she thinks might be the father about her thinking that she is pregnant.His response was that "it wasn't his and leave him the hell alone".I'm going to do my best to help her in the best way a person in my situation would and hopefully he will come around and change his mind.

You are really being mature about it. Yeah, all you can do is wait. It will be hard, especially if you get attatched to the baby and you aren't the father. But, she really needs someone right now to be supportive. If it is your baby you want mom to happy and healthy, so she can grow a happy, healthy baby. :d

Yea....Thats all i'm really woried about is the baby...The ex didn't make too many "good" decisions while we were together and I hope that me and her can work things out if it is my baby

she told me that she didn't want me going to any of the doctor's appointments or any of those things because she doesnt want me to get attached and it not turn out to be mine.


Which I can understand that...But I don't want it to turn out and be mine and I lose out on those things that one shouldn't miss out on with any of their children.I always thought I would be alot older when this happened and ready for a baby, but things hardly ever turn out the way you expect them to.I realize this is the cards god delt me and I just have to play them like I got them.

You are the true definition of a man. Don't want to burst your bubble but paternity tests cost $$$ even after the baby is born unless court ordered. Find out what u can. And once again good luck!

Just don't sign the birth certificate until your positive it's yours. Even if it turns into an ordeal at the hospital. If you sign and its not yours, you will still be legally bound. Which means you could be forced to pay child support through the courts. Also, it may be easier to get a court ordered paternity test if you don't sign. Don't worry about missing out now, the baby will never remember what happened in the first year. On the other hand, fighting effects babies mentally and physically, depending on the child. So, when the baby gets here just be cool. :d

I commend you!! I wish my child's father had half your sense which is sad considering he is 24 yrs old!! Congrats if you do become a new dad and I hope everything works out for the best!! You will be a great adult man you have already started! Your parent's did a great job!!! It is so refreshing!! Thank you for helping restore some of my faith in the male sex!!

But I heard if u don't sign the birth cert. Then u can't get a paternity test. U have no rights to. No proof that it could be urs....... U may want to check this out.

You can still get a paternity test! She will have to take u to court for child support though to have a court ordered test! G/l

Aww for 17 u sound like a good man

He can even take .H.E.R. To court for testing. She doesnt have to be the one to get in contact with child support. If he is testing that he is the father or not, he can take her instead. There was a test that a friend of mine did w/ her daughter and the father of the baby that was like 300.00 and it came back that he was the father. But not sure who they used.

Oh hun, sounds like a difficult situation, but you're handling it incredibly.

If it's possible, try and keep pleasant relations with all three of you - it'll work out better for everyone if you can all talk civilly.

I understand you're hurt about not going to the ultrasounds and so on, but it is her that's pregnant so she gets the final say -it might really upset her and cause her stress. Don't worry, you're not missing out on much: you can get a copy of the ultrasound if you want, and all the real bondin happens when the babies out.

You should be able to get the test done pretty soon after the birth. Have you asked the doctor to work out when she conceived? That might give you a better idea of who the dad is.

How are both your parents taking this?

Aww hun I feel for you.. It's such an awful situation that you are in.. Listen, if you ever want any advice or anything, feel free to pm me, or im me on aol my sn is oangelcc543

i'm michelle, 15 years old and i'm almost 15 weeks preggo with my first

Wow that is quiet the situation. Waiting is the hardest thing, but you seem to be dealing with it in a pretty mature way. Good luck to you!!!

Thanx everyone for the help and all.
Things still aren't working out well.
I'm trying everything I can to be on "good terms" with her.
More and more each day though the thought that she might not even be pregnant comes into mind.
She is telling me that she has a bf now, and that if I don't want to step up and be a father that he said he would "step in for me"
she still hasn't went to the doctor.Apparently its this friday.
It just seems like to me that she all ways says something for me to think back and wonder if she is really speaking any truth
i just hope that she wouldn't straight out lie about something of that seriousness.

Part of me wishes she isn't preg......Part of me wishes it isn't mine...But I can honestly say that no part of me wishes that this is happening to me....