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Q: Lildreamer's Next Problem! Whats Left to Do?

asked by: Lildreamer on October 17th, 2003

Experienced User

Hey everyone its lildreamer...Sorry havent been in the scene for a while but im glad to be back. For those of you that are new im lildreamer and I was new here last month seeking help that I might have been pregnant. Good to know im not. I was depressed becuase my boyfriend is in juvie for attempted homicide and im in a huge huge huge fued with his family. He's broken up with me several times becuase of the lies his family told him about me. When I discovered that I was not pregnant I decided to hold off on sex until I find somebody that really loves me for me and excepts my decision. Well the same drama has been going on until last saturday when my boyfriend called me, he already seemed upset on the phone, I barely started talking to him when his mom interupted on purpose and started talking to him and then his sister started talking to him as if I wasnt even on the line(3-way call from juvie). I finally had enough when my mother took the phone and told his sister to shut up and let us talk. She went off on my mother disrespecting her and she snapped back.When my mom handed me the phone my boyfriend was upset with me and blamed me for starting the arguement. Before I could say anything he broke up with me ...Nasty style!(calling me names) I am so hurt , I cant believe it is finally over. We have been together for 2 years and 2 months. Well he called me back in 2 days crying, asking my mother for forgiveness.My mom did not except his apoligy. The next day he called and I spoke to him and he asked me to forgive him and to be with him. I wanted to say so many nasty things to him cuz he has treated me like caca since his been in jail. Sad to say I acted all hurt instead of angry. I told him if he tells his family to stop telling lies and to accept us I would be with him. Stupid me!!! I love him I really do but he cant keep wiping his ass with me!!!(sorry so blunt) I want to move on but I cant. I cant picture him with someone else. I know alot of couples whose family did not like the people they were with...They were still together. I dont know what to do cuz even if we wanted to be together my mom would not accept him for sh*t!!! What do you girls think....Come on none of that "its up to you" stuff....Really now! Im thinking of moving on but im really scared. I really think I should but I just cant.

Well thats whats up with me......Hope everyones doing greeaaat!

Any advice will be be greatly appriciated

Last edited by Lildreamer on October 26th, 2003 01:17 PM; edited 2 times in total

Replies(12)

KissyBai912

replied on October 18th, 2003

Extremely eHealthy

To tell you the truth......I think you should dump him as soon as possible. You should never have to take that kind of crap from any guy. No matter how long you have been together, or how much you love him. I know if any guy ever treated me like that, he'd have his nuts chopped off. I'm not just sayin that. I have a lot of respect for myself and any guy thats going to be with me better have the same respect for me. As for his mother.....Ooooo my mom so would have been in a fight with her! Lol. My babys daddy's mother tried to give me this sh*t at one time sayin she didnt think it was his and boy did my mother set her straight. She said sumthing like ur daughter may be a promiscuous person, but mine is not. If she says hes the father, then by god hes the father. She hasnt said a word about it since. Lol. But like I said, you shouldn't take his crap. There is a guy out there who will treat you the way you deserve to be treated. And do you really want to be with a juvenile delinquent? Why not go for a guy who is going to make something of himself? I hope this helps. I've had a couple of bad relationships but luckily I was smart enough to tell them to f*** off. Guess my momma raised me right. Lol. Pm me if u want to talk. Or my aim sn is kissybai912.

Lildreamer

replied on October 18th, 2003

Experienced User

Kissybia912 Thanks Gurl!!!!!!!!!!!

Thanx for giving me advice........Finally someone did....(lol).I know a lot of people dont like getting into peoples business like that, but I trust you girls and im asking you to "butt in". I know I should move on but it will take lots of time. It was never like this before....I was the one to be a b****. I changed for him cuz I realized I was hurting him and he flipped everything around. I know him being in juvie for attempted homicide is something I should be worried about. Ive known him for a long time and this is his first time being in trouble with the law.I know your right kissy. I want him to change and im willing to change some habits too or if not im giving him the boot!!!!!!!!! Thanx for the advice it really helped me and gave me more convidence!!!!!!!!!!

How have you been .......What brings you to the forum.......Hope everything is great.....Thanx again girl(with big smile on my face)

Lildreamer

replied on October 24th, 2003

Experienced User

I Hope He Gets His Act Straight!

Im so tired of this sh*t. My mom hates him..His family hates me...What else..Oh his ex-fling is on my nuts...F*ck her though! Now hes apoligizing for eveything and he still thinks im selfish! Uhh..Whatever!I finally told him what I really feel and if he doesnt like it.....Theres the door!!! Everything is still kind of hectic but its starting to slow down...Alittle...So I dont know! Sometimes I think about him out of nowhere and I miss the times we spent....Hes not all bad...Im not trying to make excuses for him. I just hope everthing finally settles down. His court date is on the 27th and I hope they finally give him the verdict..So he can do his time and get out. Hopefully he gets out on the 27th.

Im sorry for boring you gurls w/this stuff I know youre tired of hearing about it! But thatx for the support..Much love to all!

nikki_caro

replied on October 24th, 2003

Extremely eHealthy

Dreamer hes not going to change. Trust me. I know this. You are wasting your time for someone in jail. His family doesnt like you, your dont like him...If that aint a good sign I dont know what is. This isnt no romeo and juliet chicano style! This is more like american me! They start young and never get out. And good girls waste their time. What hes telling you is county talk. They all talk sweet because they have nothing better to do in there. Once hes out, his ex will be at his side and your asking to get hurt!

Lildreamer

replied on October 25th, 2003

Experienced User

Your Absolutly...right!

Nikki you are soo right....Today he called me and becuase I didnt sound all happy-peppy he thought I was "doing" something. He gets made if I dont say I love you romantic style. But do you think im selfish for telling him to believe me on what happened? Or im selfish for asking him to call me w/o his sister on the line and to call me some days for just time for me! He does! How should I be firm and tel him whats up (besides saying its over!). I know that nasty girl is going to be w/him when he gets out! I know it! His familt will prusade him too n-e-way. Thanx nikki ..I just need time to accept it.

smith8500

replied on October 25th, 2003

Especially eHealthy

Well

Sweeite,
i sure hope you can decided what is and do what is right. I know it's a hard thing. I know it's a bad time for you. You just have to try and pull through it for yourself.
We're all here for you!

Lildreamer

replied on October 26th, 2003

Experienced User

Chandaloss!!!!!!!!

Thank you ....I really appriciate that. Im so happy that I can count on support from you girls. Thank you guys for replying...And for taking time to read my boring story....Lol!! Much love!

Mesmerizeu15

replied on October 27th, 2003

Extremely eHealthy

I am so proud of you, I think that it is a great idea, that you are deciding to hold off on having sex. Lots of people who go throught the preggo scare, are still not strong enough to stop having sex. They use excuses like, I cant do without, but you can..That is why god invented hands. Take care of yourself, your mind, body, and soul...Take care of yourself!!

Mesmerizeu15

i am here for you if you need me...

We are here for you if you need us!!

Lildreamer

replied on October 27th, 2003

Experienced User

For Mezmerizeu15

Thanks...I really appriciate that. I made that desision becuase I dont want to be in a situation where im not sure if theres gonna be a break up cheating...You having to worry about being a single teen mother. I want to know for sure(caps) that im not alone and that he really loves me from the bottem of his heart. I dont wanna worry about drama s**t.

Well much love to u with hugs from me.....Lildreamer.

Mesmerizeu15

replied on October 28th, 2003

Extremely eHealthy

Big kisses!! :p

prettychicky99

replied on November 2nd, 2003

New User

You Go Girl!!!

Your great and so are all of the girls in this world .. Dont let one jerk mess up ur hole life.. I made a mistake of letting my fiancce rape me.. Please dump that loser. You shouldnt have to deal with his caca and his gay family. If he loved you he would show it and is family would incourage him. They would love you too. That is one messed up family if you ask me....

Hayley Rolling Eyes

prettychicky99

replied on November 2nd, 2003

New User

Hey

You shouldnt let a screw ball like that hurt you... Dont be scared to talk back to him.. Hurt him like he hurt you.. Dont let your girl power bring you down'

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