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JohnsWifey
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Joined: 01 Nov 2004
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Location: Milwaukee, wi
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Biracial Dating
Posted: 11-20-04 11:13am
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I know this is somewhat off the subject
but I just want to know how all you girls
or guys feel about biracial dating. I
ask because im white and I have never been
with any other race but black. And a lot
of my family always has something to say
about it, like im prejudice against my own
race.....It really hurts to see that just
because I choose to be with a black guy,
my family has to look down on me....I mean
its not my immediate family but aunts and
cousins and stuff....But I dont see what
difference is if im with a black, white,
purple or green guy as long as im happy
right? I've been with my babysdaddy for
5 years now and im 6 weeks pregnant with
our first child. Im scared to tell half
of my family because I know what they are
all going to say and I dont want to have
to deal with none of that bullshyt....But
it hurts even more to think that they
might not accept my child because he or
she is going to be biracial. I just dont
know hoe to go about any of this. I mean
I can be minding my own business and my
moms boyfriend will see some "white" model
on tv and be like hes a nice lookin guy
but I forgot angel wont talk to him
because hes white or something to that
matter. It just hurts....So if anyone
has any advice on how to go about things
and any other advice, please share it.
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KaiGela
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Location: Anywhere (:
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Posted: 11-20-04 11:29am
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My family would kill me. It's an asian
thing.
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Tazzy D
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Location: , va
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Posted: 11-20-04 11:34am
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I hope you seen my avatar. Look my father
wont even talk to me now. Yes it hurts
but first of all you love yourself, your
man, and you love you child. You wouldnt
want that stuff around your baby anyway.
I get looked at all the time but I dont
care as long as I am happy that is what
matters to me..Dont never be ashamed to
spread the most important and joyful thing
in your life and that is your baby... My
boyfriends whole family excepts us and on
myside just my mother and my grandmother
and my brother that is it.. So I feel
you. Just stand tall and keep your head
high because you are in love........ Good
luck
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bluebubble888
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Posts: 499
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Posted: 11-20-04 11:35am
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There is only one race. The human race.
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JohnsWifey
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 01 Nov 2004
Posts: 117
Location: Milwaukee, wi
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Posted: 11-20-04 11:41am
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Yeah I see your avatar and I figured you
were going to be one of the first people
to respond....I really dont care what they
say or anything anymore because im happy
and my man is happy and my moms id kool
with it but its just that im a real
emotional and sensitive person and I know
if I tell them they will say something and
then I will go into a depression state
because I aint going to know how to deal
with it and I dont want to do that because
its too early in my pregnancy and I dont
want nothing to happen to my child....My
boyfriendsside of the family is kool with
us and everything but its just my immature
ass family...I mean its only a couple of
people but its just the point...But thanx
for the support girl...
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ashley84
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Location: Fl
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Posted: 11-20-04 11:49am
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It doesn't matter if the person is purple
with three eyes, as long as you love each
other and they treat you like a women is
meant to be treated.. It is your life who
cares what your family says as long as you
are happy. My family wo8uld never dare
tell me who I can date.. Because it is my
opinion and no one elses..!!! :d
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Tazzy D
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Posted: 11-20-04 11:49am
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Like I said I feel you... There is always
going to be an problem out there with an
opinion that is why they have that saying
opinions are like suckers everyone got a
saying...
Well look at it this way you all ready
expect the worse so you should be ready.
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mommax3
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Posted: 11-20-04 12:20pm
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| bluebubble888
wrote: | | there is only one race.
The human
race. |
hoorah!!
I am as white as they come and my husband
is mexican
but we are just people
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l2at24
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Posted: 11-20-04 12:46pm
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I don't know what to tell you. I went
through the same thing and you just have
to go through it. It sucks. It's very
important that your baby isn't exposed
that kind of negative if/when you can help
it. My family used to say very cruel
things. I have been married now for 6
years and have 2 beautiful babies and my
family loves all of us. I know it
doesn't always work out that way. I wish
the best for you and your little family.
:d
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JohnsWifey
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 01 Nov 2004
Posts: 117
Location: Milwaukee, wi
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Posted: 11-20-04 23:54pm
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Thanx for all the support guys....But I
realized that I dont have to tell anyone
because my mom is so damn happy that she
took it upon herself to tell everyone
already...Lol
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dandygirl18
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Location: California
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Posted: 11-21-04 00:52am
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Well don't let anyone get you down.
Especially being pregnant and all. Also,
do what makes you happy, its not worth all
the worry. Plus if your mom told everyone
I am sure that makes it easier for you
lol.
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JohnsWifey
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
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Posts: 117
Location: Milwaukee, wi
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Posted: 11-21-04 02:01am
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Yeah it makes stuff a lot easier for
me...Now I need to get john (my man) to
understand that the mood swings and me
gettin mad over little shyt now is because
im pregnant....He just cant and wont
understand the fact that emotions go up
and down through pregnancy...Its all me
tryin to control him just because I have
hs child now....I just dont know what to
do anymore....
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dandygirl18
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Posted: 11-21-04 02:10am
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Hey hun,
if you ever need to talk just pm me. I
know how guys can be. Lol. I got one of
my own  keep in touch
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JohnsWifey
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
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Location: Milwaukee, wi
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Posted: 11-21-04 03:58am
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You know I always pm you dandygirl....I
tell you almost everything between me and
john
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PattyV
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Posted: 11-21-04 17:47pm
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We do not choose who we love.It is just a
matter of your heart telling you what is
right!If your guy is a good,decent
guy,don't worry what everyone else
thinks.My sister-in-law has the most
beautiful,kind children and a terrific
husband.He just happens to also be
black.He has never dated black women,just
his choice.When I see him,i do not see a
black man,i see one of the best human
beings I have ever been priviledged to
know!If some members of your family do not
accept him or your children,that will be
their loss.You just be happy and do not
focus on those small minded people.Do not
give them the satisfaction of upsetting
you,enjoy your lives together and be
happy!Best to you all!Patty
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mommax3
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Posted: 11-21-04 18:30pm
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| pattyv
wrote: | | we do not choose who we
love.It is just a matter of your heart
telling you what is right!If your guy is a
good,decent guy,don't worry what everyone
else thinks.My sister-in-law has the most
beautiful,kind children and a terrific
husband.He just happens to also be
black.He has never dated black women,just
his choice.When I see him,i do not see a
black man,i see one of the best human
beings I have ever been priviledged to
know!If some members of your family do not
accept him or your children,that will be
their loss.You just be happy and do not
focus on those small minded people.Do not
give them the satisfaction of upsetting
you,enjoy your lives together and be
happy!Best to you
all!Patty |
y.E.S!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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Nikki n Rudy
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Location: Fort Worth, Texas
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Posted: 11-21-04 18:35pm
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This might be a weird question..But
biracial also means dating anyone outside
your own ethnic background right? I'm
with a hispanic and im white. My sons are
mixed. I have always thought it was ok to
date who you wanted.
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Tazzy D
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Posted: 11-21-04 18:42pm
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| nikki n rudy
wrote: | | this might be a weird
question..But biracial also means dating
anyone outside your own ethnic background
right? I'm with a hispanic and im white.
My sons are mixed. I have always
thought it was ok to date who you
wanted. |
it is okay to date who you want in our
eyes but back in the day people were
raised to stay in there own race, and some
people still believe that until this day.
Like my dad
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Tubby
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Posted: 11-21-04 18:45pm
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Last edited by Tubby on 11-22-04 11:47am; edited 1 time in total
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mommax3
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Posted: 11-21-04 18:52pm
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| nikki n rudy
wrote: | | this might be a weird
question..But biracial also means dating
anyone outside your own ethnic background
right? I'm with a hispanic and im white.
My sons are mixed. I have always
thought it was ok to date who you
wanted. |
yes biracial is any other race that you
date outside of your own, doesn't have to
be a black guy/girl and a white guy/girl
i am white and my husband is mexican and
we are a biracial couple, but who
cares?!!?
You be with who you want to be with
and ignore that tubby person, they like to
cause problems inall the e health forums
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