I can't really help you on the sex part of your question because i'm a virgin. However, it seems to me that if you and your boyfriend are close enough to be having sex you should be close enough to bring up embarrising questions such as yours. If you want to try something new then why don't you just bring it up? Let him know that he doesn't have to if he feels uncomfortable but you thought it might be fun.

Well, for the oral sex topic, ask him. He might even be waiting for you to mention it first. If you two are close, and have been together for a long time i'm sure he would be understanding about it. Sex is a bigger step than oral, and not so dangerous! :d just bring it up casually sometime, he may feel uncomfortable if you put him on the spot in bed. Secondly, I am not a virgin. I have had that problem too... And since you two have been having sex for a while, its not because your not used to it, or hes extremely large ( a lot of guys like to think that )... But you might not be using enough lubricant... Try that. If you use latex this would occur too, because it oftens irritates. Wish you luck!

Sorry, I forgot about the cramps... It might be a position that you are used to. Try some new ones, sometimes we just act up on certain occassions. If it presist, see a doc! No biggie...

Oh hes not my boyfriend...I put my guy (oops) hes my husband! And id feelf weird because I had always told him, even before we were married that I never wanted anyone to go down on me. And he said ok, he never did it so hes ok with not doing it. But now I feel like I spoke too soon because now I would like to try. I might ask him then.

Babybooz thanks about the lubricant. Ill try that. We did use a condom recently and that irritated me alot! I said "take it off!!!" because im on birth control.

Thanks too dominique!

Shshs

Give a guy head is soo much fun and most guy like it and having a guy go down on you is almost better then sex and since your married just set him down and him if you can try some thing new and tell him that u have been thinking and that u wonder what it well be like if he went down on you and tell him you want to know if he want him to let you give him head when it come to giving head slow start with the head working your way down and suck and hell tell you harder if he thinks it needs to be harder and when a guy gaze down on you it is like having sex but instead of useing a dick he uses his toung

i hope u enjoy

I would certainly recommend that you and your hubby talk about this subject...One of the best things about my husband's and my sexual relationship is that we feel free to communicate about every aspect of it. We never feel inhibited, and consequently, have great sex! As for oral sex specifically, I must say that it is the most wonderful feeling in the world. I have never acheived orgasm from actual penetration alone...And I always have the best (even multiple) orgasms from oral sex. Try it, you'll like it!
As far ar your cramping and discomfort goes, I would recommend seeing your physician, just to rule anything medical out. And lubricant is a good idea...Also...Condoms suck, i'm allergic to the spermacide they sometimes have in them, and have been really ouchy after using them in the past. Good luck!

Hey this is jamie a man. I never did that till a women touched my lips and told me she wanted to feel them some where else and for some reason that did it. I also think talking about it is great but you are a little nervous about it and I will admit being a man in the heat of the moment you could ask for just about anything and we would do it so you could try that or do as one of my femlae friends did with her boy friendthey experimented with food grapes and whip cream off of eachother but he never went down on her untill one day they both were worked up she sprayed a little whipcream down there and he did it with out relizing it at first then he asked her if it was ok to continue. I hope any of these things help you out. Jamie

Hmmm, well I think that everyone has great ideas here! I hope that being married that you could talk about these things because deep down he is probly wishing that you would just "go down" on him too. So maybe you could 69?? Then you both would get enjoyment out of a new experience. Have fun

I know this has topic has bin around for a while. But liked to put my 5 cents into it. This is for the lady who does and yet who does not want it. I am a 68 year old women. Very active in my sex life with my husband. Had the same dilemma in the beginning of my marriage. Never knew how to approach the subject. So I started to nibble a little lover and lover on my husbands body, just little kisses here and there. And that all she wrote. He got the message. Bin married for close to 25 years. Never have bin more satisfied then from the day we started this. At our age there are days he just cant get an erection the way he used to. But as he can satisfy me, I do the same for him by having oral sex with him. In a marriage there are no secrets and talking about the needs you or he may have will be the best way to keep it good. As long as both of you can satisfy each other, he or you will never wonder what it could be like. You need to find ways of talking to each other and not let shame about any subject stand in your way. I will be 69 in a few more days. But have no intention to let it stand in my way. Age is a date on my calendar, not in my mind. You are a women who wonders, do something about it. You may be surpised of the reactions you will have have from your guy. Good luck. The birdlady

I have been in the same place witht he whole oral sex thing. I just put in the movie american pie and when I got to the part when the one guy eats out his girl friend, I was like wow maybe that wouldn't be so bad. He got the clue and it was great.

Good luck