|you missed the part where I said it's not the porn that bothers me, it's the lying. The only reason I think it's wrong is that he does it by himself and tries desperately to hide it from me. He even thinks himself that looking at porn is wrong, and that's why he hid it. He was terribly ashamed. The first time it happened I even told him i'd look at the stuff with him, but he didn't think that was a good idea.
Having a few drinks a month isn't bad. Having a few drinks a day 5 days a week isn't healthy. Looking at porn occasionally is fine... It's perfectly normal to fantasize about others on occasion. It's when someone has to look at it every day that it becomes a problem. I'd also rather him share his fantasies with me instead of acting them out online. Our sex life is great, and i'm no prude.
Sex is something sacred and bringing other people into the mix, either real or online, takes away a little bit of its meaning. I also have morals and values which I stick by. Regardless of whether others agree with them or not doesn't matter to me.