Does Pulling Out In Time Really Help? Posted: 11-15-04 07:08am
My girlfriend wanted me to have sex with
her, without the use of a condom. She
wanted to feel me raw.
I brought up the idea of a vcf and other
various ideas for us to have sex without
the possibility of her getting pregnant.
She told me that she'd never had problems
with guys pulling out in time, in the
past. Infact, she said that she wasn't
worried about me ejactulating inside her
because she's never gotten pregnant from
it the several other times it happened to
her with past boyfriends.
Um....I'm still kinda weary...Because i'm
really not ready mentally, nor financially
to bring a kid into the world.
I wasn't sure, but I think I had heard
from somewhere, that even pre-cum could
get a woman pregnant. Is this true? And
if so, what are the possibilities that she
could get pregnant from simply pre-cum
itself?
Thanks.
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PattyV
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 01 May 2004 Posts: 1103 Location: Chicago area
Posted: 11-15-04 11:24am
Pre-ejaculate has sperm in it!!!The fact
that she has had other guys skin to skin
should be cause for alarm.Aren't you
worried about std's??You could get her
pregnant very easily by using the
withdrawal method.If you want to have skin
to skin with her,both of you should get
tested for std's and she should go on the
pill or patch.Use a spermicide and then
have your skin to skin.Sounds like a lot
of work,but your life can depend on
it!!Sounds like you are not too wild about
her idea in the first place,follow your
guts.They are there to keep you out of
trouble!Good luck.Patty
Last edited by PattyV on 11-15-04 17:54pm; edited 1 time in total
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1sttimemama
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 24 Oct 2004 Posts: 198
Posted: 11-15-04 16:23pm
D.O.N.T. D.O. I.T.....!!!! Youre smart
enough to realize you dont need a kid so
dont take the chance...Please,
please....Really dont listen to her,
pulling out doesnt work. Believe me, me
and my bf thought that was a good idea
too, and now i'm 13 weeks pregnant.....For
youre own sake be careful and smart!!!!
--cat
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JCSC2
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 21 Sep 2004 Posts: 61
Posted: 11-15-04 16:52pm
How old are you two? She dosen't sound
like the best person to be with. She
sounds irresponsible and not to smart
about sex.
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C0nfus3d_Ab0ut_L1f3
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 10 Nov 2004 Posts: 19
Posted: 11-15-04 20:09pm
She just turned 18, and i'm 21. She's
uh....Had a very sexual life.
(mainly because she hasn't had a father
figure in her life...I would guess
psychologically)
she's been used several times...And boasts
somewhat proudly about the 18 different
guys she's had. I don't care about that
past...Because over the past 8 months of
being her friend turned more...
....I've been able to shield her from that
former life. And i've come to see that if
i'm not there for her...She would go back
to her old sexual ways. I just want to
keep her from getting std's and getting
pregnant.
Alot of people say it's not my
responsibility...But if I was to leave her
and not be around to keep her from doing
that....Who would do it in my place? I
could change her...All she needs to do is
grow up some......And I don't care that
people say I should just drop her because
I care about her too much to simply forget
about her. I love her...
...I really do. And I feel more like a
protector/body guard of some kind more
then a boy friend.
It made her mad, that after reading this I
haven't (and won't) have sex with her
without protection. I'm sure she'll thank
me in the future for it. Right now,
she'll just be childish and not talk to
me. But she'll get over it.
Thank you all for clearing this up for me.
I wasn't sure if precum could get her
pregnant. I'm so glad I know now.
Thank you all again.
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PattyV
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 01 May 2004 Posts: 1103 Location: Chicago area
Posted: 11-19-04 22:31pm
You sound like a very sweet guy,hopefully
she'll see that you are being sensible and
will be okay with your decision.Good luck
to both of you.Patty
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BADSAL
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 15 Sep 2004 Posts: 257 Location: PA
Posted: 11-19-04 22:47pm
No pulling out does not work. It is very
nice of you to be so helpful to her, I
hope you don't get hurt. Does she love
you?
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kitty2luv
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 22 Oct 2004 Posts: 1089 Location: with my love
Posted: 11-19-04 23:15pm
Nope dont work cuz I might be preg from it
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oangelc543
Active User, Really EHEALTHy
Joined: 25 Sep 2004 Posts: 521 Location: TX
Posted: 11-19-04 23:42pm
You sound like a really resposible guy,
and you should continue to be careful. I
got pregnant even using a condom, so you
see, nothing is impossible.
