Ive had a long distance relationship too.. The first few weeks of bein away are hell.. But later u get used to it.. N it builds up the relationship if u trust him n both of u keep in touch n show u care for each other.. When he leaves.. Keep ureself busy n as the days goes by.. U wont miss him as much... Keep ureself busy on things u like to do

hope this helps

Hi!!! Thanks!!! I don't think i'll get used to it though...I don't think I want to get used to being so far away from him. I do trust him with all my heart, and I know he trusts me. We talk every morning b4 he goes to school, every afternoon when he gets out of school, and for a couple hours every night. Oh... I just miss him

teresa

I know that more of you are in long distance relationships!!! Someone has to know what i'm going through.... Start posting ladies!!! Please!!!! Thanks!!!

teresa

Enjoy the space now, you might want it later and you will not be able to get it!
Sincerely,
sandy

I've been in a long distance relationship for almost three years. I completely agree with the other posts. The first few weeks completely suck but then it becomes much easier. You'll get used to your relationship and in the end it will just make it stronger. I'm not going to lie, long distance relationships are hard work but in the end they're totally worth it. It also helps to establish some type to routine with him. It's nice to have some type of schedual to look forward to everyday. Something like having a set time to call everyday works. If you work hard at a long distance relationship you probably won't regret it. Good luck and keep looking forward to february.

Three years? Wow!!! How old are you? (if you don't mind me asking.) how far away are the two of you from each other? I know, today when my boyfriend (jason) went back home, it was much easier to tell him goodbye than it was the last time. I also already see what you mean about the set routine. We talk on the phone at around the same time(s) everyday. Knowing that jason will be coming to visit in a week or two helps keep me strong and gives me something to look forward to. Ha ha, yeah, everyone is telling me to enjoy the space while I can! (i'm sure someday i'll feel the same way.) I am trying my best to look forward to feb. But time is going by so slowly! Anyways, good luck with you and your relationship. Keep posting ladies!!! Thanks alot... It truly helps to have ppl to talk with about this :d

teresa

First of all, is this a ladies-only forum?
If yes, I am deeply sorry for intruding.
I find the topic distance relationship highly interesting.
How can someone claim to be 'together' with someone when s/he is away?
Can you say it is 'love'?
Is love too weak to bear the distance, or is it strong enough to bear it?
Are there more distance-relationshippers out there?
I ask that, because I want to be understood, and to understand my self clearer..
Because I declare myself to be in a relationship. But my story is a bit complicated, and I don't know if it is appropriate to post it now, because a) is it women only here? (i would not mind, but would you?) b) idk if anyone would be interested anyway..

I just want to get to know many different point of views about this topic, hope anyone is as interested as I am (or is it a wrong forum, and can anyone tell me where to post then?)

anyways, thx for your attention.

Hey!!! Yes...You are very welcome on this forum (in my opinion!!!). Anyways... I think that you are still very much together (when you are in love) even when you are far apart!!! I couldn't stand it though.... I moved back to v.A. To be with my boyfriend and now we have our own apartment and have a baby on the way!!! I'm extremly happy and being seperated form him was seriously one of the hardest things i'v ever done!! Feel free to share anything you wish....I'll be here to listen (and give my opinion, if you'd like). I don't have a computer at home so i'm not on very often...But when I come to me aunt's house I always check my e-mail. Hope to hear from you soon!!!

:wink: teresa

Well, hello teresa. Thank you for your nice reply.

And congrats on the baby d^^b
you sound cheerful, I am glad :)
well, I will just tell you a little bout my story.
I believe in the one, true love.
I only once was in a relationship, and that was not out of love, but because I wanted to help the person.
I always thought there is no one for me (because I am too complicated, you know, I am an artist.. Sometimes very inconfident).
Anyways, at christmas 2002 I got my love to know, we are 'together' since almost a year soon. I got her to know via mails, we regularly mail-phone-chat(webcam)-sms-write letters, everything possible. We never met in person yet. This all might sound illogical, or childish, u can name it all. But I have the feeling, I know it is her. The problem is.. She is living in indonesia, I am living I austria (europe). Almost the whole earthball is between the two of us. Sometimes the distance is unbareable, sometimes I think I can't go on like this. Yea, there are some tipps in the net to survive a distance-relationship, first rule, keep in contact on a regular base. This is what we do.. But sometimes. I don't know, its just very hard.
One thing is, we have to meet soon, and this will be summer 2005. At least that's our theory..

I think I will stop here now, I don't wanna bore you (if its boring).
If I shall tell you more, just drop me a line.

And teresa, thx again for the nice welcome :)

Hey!!! I really don't have the time to say all that i'd like... But I guess that will be okay!!! Your story is a very sweet one. (you just know it when you find "the one". If she that one then you two will end up together... I promise!!! Good luck to both of you and keep me up dated!!! You are an artist?? What kind?? My boyfriend plays guitar (he's really really good, sometimes it gets annoying lol). Oh...Heee heeee....We heard the babies heart beat today for the first time!!! Yay!!! By the way what is your name and how old are ya??

:wink: teresa

Hello again teresa :)
thx for the nice reply.

Sorry for not introducing myself properly, my name is david, i'm 22 years old. You can call me dave.
Geez, that can't be coincidence, I am guitarist too, hehe.
Which kind of style does he play, does he earn his living with it?
Annoying? Hehe, you could give my angel some warnings and tipps how to overcome this 'artist-side' :lol:
if he is really that good, i'd love to hear something from him then, cuz I think i'm quite good too.
You heared your babies heartbeat?
Yeeey :) that's so cute. You really must enjoy life now!
K, I will keep you updated if there are some news.
And you tell me news also, especially concerning the baby!!
Thank you again

take care

So what's the latest--- dave??? Teresa???

Hello badsal,

if you'd asked a week earlier, you'd have got a good reply.
Last monday my dear has stopped the contact...
Why? Seems the distance beats us..
Yesterday I called her, and found out that she thankfully was not in such an awful condition (cuz I could hardly catch any sleep those days, and did not eat much, cuz whenever I ate something, I felt sick..).
During this time of pause we both had a lot time to think about things. We will have a chat on saturday, discussing about further steps. The only thing we decided yesterday is that we will keep in contact.
I don't think that there is a turning back, ike having the distance relationship. It hurts so much knowing this, but I just don't think that I can go through it. My hopes for the chat on saturday (realistic hopes, I got many hopes, but they are mere dreams, and lets stay in reality for now) are that we still stay in contact, build up an excellent friendship, let things flow, meet in summer and see how it turns out, without thinking too much about negative things, and not letting the mind be controlled by emotion too much.

I'm sorry to let you down ladies&guys, but I think I am too weak for this topic, the distance is too strong. :cry:

take care..

P.S.: hey, teresa, what's up? How are you?

Aww well good luck. Try to stay friends and you never know what might happy.

Hello,

believe or not, I have met me wife when I was 18. Year later I moved far, far away. We have been in a long distance relationship for over 10 years and have seen each other about 4 times, first time after 5 years. Well, we finally got married 3 years ago.
If you ask me, i'll say - long distance relationships can work.

Sfinx

Honey, I know what your going through, im going through it right now. My boyfriend and I have been together for over a year, and in december of 2004 he moved to ca and I live in michigan, so we've been apart for a while and have only got to see each other twice since. And the 1st time saying goodbye is always the hardest. The 1st time when he came here it was only for 5 days, and having to say goodbye killed me, and the 2nd time I went there, was for 3 weeks and I just got back home a week ago, but having to leave him was the hardest thing I have ever had to do, looking back and seeing the look on his face and the tears rolling down his face, as I walked away from him, it just broke my heart. So I know how your feeling, but if you love each other then the wait is worth it. Love can overcome anything, if you work at it, and dont let anything get in your way. Well I hope everything is going good for you two, the best of luck!

Hi. I too know the strain of a long distance relationship, however, I do know that they work, and sometimes make the relationship better! I met my bf, soon to be husband 3 years ago this june. We moved in together 9 months later and then after a year and half of living together, his job transfered him out of province. He is only a 3.5 hour drive away, but at the same time, its still alot of driving to go see him on the weekends and his work only pays for him to either come home for a week every 6th week or for me to go there every 6th week. That first 6 months of him being away was the hardest. But this year we are in the possition that I can travel to see him and since he went back up there in march ( home every year from dec 24th till feb 28) I have seen him at least every 2 weeks and sometimes every week. Its wonderful we talk every morning when he gets home from work and then I call him every night before he goes to work. It sucks but at the same time, the distance helped our relationship when it was needed as things were spiralling out of control here. We are much more in love and miss each other terribly now. We also plan on getting married this summer ( eloping ). Anyways all in all I can say that long distance relationships work, so long as you work hard at keeping it together. My bf is coming home in a week for vacation, and we are taking the week to just get away from it all and travel, and have us time, I cannot wait. So to all you ppl out there who are in a long distance relationship, dont give up, they do work and know that if you can live apart from someone and it works, than it can work for life. Good luck everyone and feel free to write back. *hugs* mary

I have also been in a long distance relationship for over 2 years. I live in the states and this person lives in the uk. It is definitely hard and the 2 of us have been through a lot together. After 15 months we met for about 3 days. It was wonderful. I had to know basically at that time was it worth going throught it all. In august it will be a year since that trip. I love this person dearly and i'm willing to wait. Unfortunately there is a lot of baggage between this person and myself but I truly love this person enought to wait.
One thing I have learned is you both have to be willing to go the long haul.
I'm praying it works out.

As everyone in this forum I am engaged in a relationship with a girl that studies in montreal canada but lives in georgia us and after 4 months she left home for vacation. It's been almost 2 months apart and I think I am loosing my mind. As I wakeup my first thoughts are about her. I wait her calls, wait email, wait to chat some and see her on webcam. I write her poetry almost everyday and send ecards. My whole life revolves arround her and I know it is not right but I can't help it. When we were together for 4 months we saw eachother everyday and talked on the phone too but then she left and at first we were talking few times a day, then less but at least our conversations were long (5min to 1h or even 2h). As time passed she started going to summer school and working and our time of talking was cut down. Now we don't talk often (about 4-5 days per week) and lengh was cut too (1min to 5 min and sometimes a little longer). She never wrote me poems and letters are very rare. When we were not talking for few days I was getting crazy. I was getting stupid thougths and worried all the time and even now. I asked and still ask her to call me more often since I can't call her because she is in school and working with flexible graphic. She called me next day briefly and few more times but now it is back to old thing. In 2 months I saw her on cam 2 times. She always says that she is too busy and has very busy schedule. Me I can't understand how she can't find a moment for her loved one and maybe cut something to spend more communicating since it is very very important to me. So far it goes her way and I don't know what to do? She is coming for 3 days in montreal and then leaves for a month or month and half back.
Maybe anone had similar situation ot can tell something related. I love her so much and I am getting tired of being on the last priority but don't want to lose her.
Please help me, tell me. I need help.
By the way we are already engaged and planing to get married next year. And I said that to my parents where as she didnt say to her side about engagement and marriage.
Thanks everyone for reading this and hope someone will help to clear somethings for me. Bye all,