Wow...I totally know how you feel! Everything you just said (except the abusive stuff) is so totally my ex boyfriend too!

All I can say is that you just have to force yourself to stay away...And eventually, with time, you will get over him. Atleast I hope...Lol seeing as i'm in the same place as you I wouldnt really know now would i?

Don't you hate it? Don't you hate knowing that he is the problem and the one that's wrong but you want to talk to him sooo bad?? My ex goes to uk and he's away..But still! I miss him sooo much. I miss the way we used to be and the way we used to be happy with eachother...

Yup, it sux ass! I want him back sooo bad but at the same time I remember how much of a jerk he is...Its like mixed feelings. Its so annoying!

I just wish I would meet somebody else already ya know? Like i'm not in love still ...I think I just feel weird w/o the feeling that I can call him or talk to him ..Or just that attention that I once got from him! I mean he lied to me about soo much stuff! He's like a manwhore...A liar...An problem...There's nothing that would benefit me..It would just hurt me more but for some reason I wanna talk to him! I just wish he would say sorry and mean it..And act like he used to! ....You are right..It is annoying!

I know exactly how you feel. Chris was a lying, cheating, health questions...But yet I still want to talk to him. Its craziness I tell you! I just wanna move on!!

You are soooo right about wanting to move on! I'm ready to just be with the guy that i'm going to marry ya know? That way I dont have to deal with all the other lying cheating no namers out there!!! I just want the perfect guy for me already and i'll be happy for the rest of my life!!!!!

Amen!

Sorry, I don't really know you or your situation, but maybe it's just the thought of "what if" I know when I was pregnant, my ex called me and wanted me back. Even though he hit me and ruined a good 2 years of my life and scarred me for the rest. I always wonder "what if" we would have stayed together? I probably wouldn't have had my beautiful baby girl then. I probably wouldn't have gone back to my bf before him and figured out that he was the one for me. But what helps me is to think of all the fun and happy times we did have and know that they will never happen again with him, but better times will happen with other people.

Aww thanks! That is good advice! I'm jenny by the way! 19 and not preggo or ttc! I'm from indiana...And i'm a freshman in college!

Girl it's really hard to get over your first love but when you meet someone better than him you'll realize that your happiness means more
he has been abusive and a liar how could you want to be with someone like that. Love is painful but it is also suppose to be happy too. You should not want to be with someone who hurts you emotionally you are worth more than that.

I know it's hard and but pain can heal itself within time your wounds and hurt will go away and you will be fine with out him believe me it happens to everyone.

Sorry you have to go through and I really hope that you can be strong enough to overcome this and you have to believe in yourself and know that you don't deserve that

You're welcome. Now I need to add a picture to my posts

I know I can do it..But it's just I feel stupid for thinking about him sometimes and wanting to talk to him sometimes or thinking about "what if" situations! I've always been the strong female that doesn't need a boyfriend to have fun and be happy and I feel like he took that away from me. Me going back to him so many times just made my self confidence and self respect decrease more and more and I don't feel as strong as I did before we met. I really thought he was the one I was going to marry. I couldn't see my future without him and he's the only person I could picture myself growing old with. Oh well..I just gotta focus more on other things besides him I guess...It just sucks because it could be perfect if he didn't choose to do the things he does...

Sent u a pm.

Think about you you you and do what is best for you you you!! I know its hard, but you have to put yourself first...And really think things through with things like this.
Kristin

Hey girlie I know how you feel I am going through something similar right know. Except when my boyfriend or ex ( not sure what we are cuz he wont tell me a direct answer) he will say ignorant things and when I try to leave he becomes so sweet and my dumd a** always falls for it. I am trying to figure out what to do. I would say is do what your heart tells you. If you ever need someone to chat you can im me on aol xcamarogirl82x or yahoo at camarogirl82 hope things get better for you. Lots of love

Thanks girls!! My aim is jenybeny13 and i'm glad i'm going through this with other girls!

I understand how you're feeling. My ex did pretty much everything your's did, and I kept taking him back. Now, two years after I finally left him, he's started calling me again. And it's good! Even though he hurt me so much and everything, and I hated him for sooo long, I think talking to him now is helping me. I mean, I have the perfect guy and would never go back, but finally knowing why he did what he did is sooo wonderful. Like, now I don't wonder all the time if I just wasn't good enough or whatever...It's helping in my new relationship, too, cause my selfesteem is going up again.

Daile

Did he tell you why he did the things he did?

Hey jenny!! I'm so sorry to hear that you are hurting because of this guy who treats you like caca!!! It's a very good thing that you realize he treats you bad and you want to get over him. I have many friends whos boyfriends treat them the same way yours does yet they continue to let it happen. I'm very fortunate when it comes to guys.. I'v never had one mis treat me...I just never have put up with the caca!!! I did go through a very bad breakup that screwed up my whole life though. I dated this guy for two years (age 15-17) and I guess he just realized before I did that we weren't meant to be. So, we broke up about a year ago. It took me 10 months to get over him completly!! I got so depressed that I quit school, started smoking weed (alllll the time) and got very sezually active I wanted him back so bad, but he just didn't want to be with me anymore, he had found a new girlfriend. I dated lots of guys after him but it seemed like i'd never find the love I had with him in another guy!! I did though!!! Three months ago (today) I met and feel in love with the man i'm going to marry. I'm 18 and he is 19. What I had with my ex was special and always will be because he was my first love (my first everything) but it was nothing compared to what I have with my boyfriend now. I said all that to say this: nobody can help you get over him, you'll get over him when your heart is ready to. Just be strong sweetie you'll make it through this...I promise you will!!! It'll probably be the hardest thing you have ever done but you'll be sooo much stronger in the end!!! You'll also find that guy that you are suppose to spend the rest of your life with, and when you do, you'll know it, and this guy you are talking about will only be a memory. Good luck hun!!! You're such a sweetheart...Hang in there!!! Please don't waste anymore of your time on this problem!!! It's time you started looking for the man of your dreams!!!

teresa