Hi everyone my name is tara. I'm 21 years
old I have a two year old and a baby on
the way due in feb. I originally found
this site when searchign for a back pain
forum ( I broke my back a year ago) but I
also found this and it looks like this
site is better than any other out there
for help and support during pregnancy.
I'm having a boy they think and my due
date is feb 28 however I will have weekly
ultrasounds the last two months and when
my dr and I feel its safe they are going
to take him early to avoid me going innto
labor and causing more damage to my back.
I do have one question my daughter is 21/2
she will turn 3 in march so far she is
excited and keeps asking when baby brother
is going to be here. She gave her
pacifier up so baby brother could have it
and also potty trained so that baby
brother could have her diapers. do you guys think
she will change? She has been really into
her dolls for a long time and I will
include her in as much of the babies care
as I can to help her adjust is there
anything I can do now to start preparing
her for what the real changes will be when
he is finally here?
Thank you guys in advance you guys seem
like a great group from all the post I
have read.
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bellax0x
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 10 Jun 2004 Posts: 3572 Location: Jersey Baby!
Posted: 11-06-04 08:52am
I think as long as you try to include her
as much as possible in thebabies life she
wll be grerat!
<3
gaby
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mommax3
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 06 Nov 2004 Posts: 1134 Location: Virginia
to Newbie Posted: 11-06-04 08:57am
Hi, my daughter is 2 1/2 and will also
turn 3 in mar (mar 6th) she has already
went through this once, although i'm sure
she thinks her little sister has always
been here since she was only 14 mon old
when #2 was born. Now I am due this mon
(nov) with baby girl #3. I posted the
names and stuff just now on the baby
names.... I like the way she gave up the
pacifier for her new brother (i could
never get my girls to take those, I guess
that is a good thing, but sometimes you
wish they would!!) and that she potty
trained for you for the same reason. I
recently potty trained my oldest too, they
learn fast at that age, don;t you think?
I am glad I didn't try to push her to do
it sooner, the only thing is she wears
pull up to bed still, she'll have 2 nights
on a row here and there that she will
wake up with it dry, but never long enough
for me to think she is ready to go
without!! I really don't have any advice
on how to help you to get her ready,
sounds like you are doing good, just make
sure that you take time out for her when
the baby is born so she doesn;t feel
rejected, and depending on how gentle she
is you could sit right beside of her and
let her hold the baby after the first wk,
or if you are bottle feeding you hold the
baby and let your daughter hold the
bottle, I know rheana really likes to be
involved with things, you can let her
throw the diapers in the trash, put the
diapers and wipes where she can reach them
and she would probably even bring them to
you when you need to change baby brother's
diaper. Also get her to know when she
needs to be quiet for her brother to get
some sleep so he can grow strong like her
and they can play together later on.
Hope any of that helps. I think my
youngest will be jealous of baby # 3, but
rheana did fine when olivia was born.
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sheeridinprincess
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 05 Nov 2004 Posts: 98 Location: Oregon
Posted: 11-06-04 20:07pm
Thank you for all your ideas on how to
include her. At first I was going to
breastfeed but I had alot of trouble with
my daughter she just wouldn't do it and
its looks like I will be facing major
surgery within a few months of the baby
being born so i'm going to bottle feed
that ways she can help more. I can't wait
to see how they interact!!
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mommax3
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 06 Nov 2004 Posts: 1134 Location: Virginia
Newbie Posted: 11-06-04 22:15pm
No problem, I can't breast feed either, I
had reduction surgery in 2000, then had my
first baby in 2002... The milk is there
it is just too painful and takes too long
for the babies to get enough, but I tried
with both, but i'm not going to with # 3
it will be fun, my 2 1/2 yr old is already
saying "my emma is kicking momma in hers
belly?" and my 1 1/2 yr old rubs or pats
(or hugs and kisses) my stomach and says
emma, but I also caught her rubbing her
own tummy saying the same thing!! Lol
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sheeridinprincess
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 05 Nov 2004 Posts: 98 Location: Oregon
Posted: 11-06-04 23:21pm
Lol my daughter does the same she likes to
hug my tummy then she will cross her arms
and say shes holding baby brother. We
took her to the dr with us and she asked
what we were doing and I told her we were
going to see baby brother and when we were
done she was so mad that we weren't
bringing him home yet. Lol
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mommax3
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 06 Nov 2004 Posts: 1134 Location: Virginia
Posted: 11-06-04 23:38pm
Rheana just told her daddy that her tummy
hurts because her sissy is kicking her
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jessamyn
Supporter
Joined: 18 Aug 2004 Posts: 4101 Location: San Diego, CA
Thanks: 11
Thanked:3
Re: Newbie Posted: 11-08-04 19:11pm
Well first off hi tara! Omg normally I am
like glued to this forum but have had a
rough past couple days so like I took a
break so welcome welcome welcome i'm jess
18 and 23 weeks pregnant
tomorrow..Congrats on the boy i'm having
one too! Omg your daughter seems soooo
incredibly cute. Seriously I can just
picture it some young children liek get
jealous of new babies and some really do
just want the big brother/sister role...
My friend has a 2 year old and a 4 months
old and austin the 2 year old all he wants
to do is help he is just like a little man
its sooo cute
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nippz
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 11 Sep 2004 Posts: 2173 Location: ,
Posted: 11-08-04 19:50pm
Err can't answer your question but
hey tara, i'm ka, 14years & 31.3wks
preggo w/ a girl due jan7th. Welcome.
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sheeridinprincess
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 05 Nov 2004 Posts: 98 Location: Oregon
Posted: 11-08-04 21:41pm
Thank you guys for your welcome. You guys
look like you two are the main people on
the site along with some others.
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nippz
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 11 Sep 2004 Posts: 2173 Location: ,
Posted: 11-08-04 21:48pm
Lol nah, me and jessa are just monsters on
this forum haha.
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jessamyn
Supporter
Joined: 18 Aug 2004 Posts: 4101 Location: San Diego, CA
do you guys think
she will change? She has been really into
her dolls for a long time and I will
include her in as much of the babies care
as I can to help her adjust is there
anything I can do now to start preparing
her for what the real changes will be when
he is finally here?
