I've spoken with you before inother forum (written ). I am very sorry that your relationship is so stormy. I really wanted you to know that every person is affected differently by bi-polar illness. I truely donot get verbally abusive with my spouse. I actually love him more-(hper sexual), and buy him alot (and I mean alot) of gifts. So now after 10yrs. Of marriage, he takes my credit cards away from me when he sees me becoming "happy" as we like to refer to it. I was in a relationship before this marriage, and before I was formally dx with this illness. He was very abusive to me-both verbally and physical. I believe it is easy for anyone to be so cruel to the person closes, but I don't believe that he can blame it all on ;his illness. He has to take responsibility for his behaviour. It's to easy for him to use this as an excuse. My first spouse (common law) was a drinker, and always blamed it on that. When do they take resposibility for their own actions. You are in, regardless of reason, (and I stand strong on the fact tha he must take acountability for his actions, and not blame all on his illness), I would encourage him to go to counselling for his anger. He needs to learn how to vent, without being so destructive and hurtful. If he loves you and values your relationship, he will go as it will only help not only your relationship, but his inner peace as well--so he has nothing to lose as they say, but lots to gain. Good luck
