i dont know i have asked my husband about the gay thing and he says he is not i dont know . he says that it would turn him on watching another guy touching me and then he would participate it is a bit uncorfortable but says i would like it in the heat of the moment. Troubling question?

to be honest just do it.
your probably uncomfortable because your not sure if its a trap question.

but if he really wants it then give it to him , he gets what he wants and your not in the wrong for getting what you want.

I don't recommend letting the husband get away with a threesome. I let him do it once with another girl and it ended up hurting me so bad. He practically ended up making love to her all night long and I couldn't forgive him for years even though we were still together. Now he wants a threesome with a guy but if I let him get away with it I know I won't be able to handle it. Today he told me that if we can't do a threesome, then why have sex at all. He says it gets too old and boring when being married for 15 years. Is that how guys are? Does it really get old?

ugh..thats a ridiculous excuse..its like come on hunny you knew what you were getting 15 years ago when you married me...why the HECK will bringing another man in the bedroom spice things up,idk it just grosses me out to think of sex so casually..like idk where that mans been...i hope not all men are like that..otherwise i'm done, i've made it crystal clear to my bf that while hes with me there will be NO THREESOME..period..the end no discussion i'm sorry i cant do it..i'm not emotionally wired to handle stuff like that, i'm with him because i love him..i cant separate sex and love...for me it goes hand in hand..and i know for a FACT that if i ever saw him touch another woman..our relationship would be done..bc thats just not something i could move on from...if he thinks its boring take a trip to the sex shop buy toys or something just make it clear to him that you are willing to do whatever to spice things up but you draw the line at bringing another person into the act

You might enjoy a threesome. God, we women get it hit both ways, don't we? We're told enjoying sexual experimentation is immoral from the religious conservatives, and we're told it's degrading by the feminist liberals.

Sometimes, listening to my friends, I can understand why men are so unhappy in their marriages.

All I can say is that I got past that, and realized that Hey, my man is not the only one who wants to do dirty, fun things. I do too!

And its been alot more fun ever since!!

think twice about your own sexuality religion stifles this exploration. Look at how the bible views women verses men it is totally unfair. It has always been taboo for men to be bisexual and more OK for women to experiment. I think If you know yourself and your husband and you have tried talking about it and watch maybe some movies just to play with the idea. If it works follow the rules and coming from a male who want to have a threesome I would follow. I want to share wild experiences with my girl and she played with the idea but she is too scared. I love her and respect her and if it happens it happens. Probably won't but I will always be true I only share. sounds sick to some but you probably never contemplated anything abstract and deep. No story book images just love and people who are religious who are ok with war then they hate on people with strange lifestyles. sorry about my rant it is just I cant stand religious people they are the most mentally ill. They are hijacking this site as if they are the most sane. I used to be a hardline christian but it messed me up. still love god but I know myself and I like myself and god loves me. Sex is for procreation and fun. pair up to mate or live then have fun. Sex is fun fun fun get some books on it he is not a bad guy because he talked about it and you should not be little his fantasy as if it is a flaw.

This is how I feel about it...whether it counts or not..someone may agree...

3somes...all fun and dandy if the 3 of you are nothing serious... if there is a marriage then I do believe in a unity of 2 and not 3...it will only cause drama... dont let men fool you..the guy who truly loves you will never get bored of you/ same with women.

3somes are something that should be done while you're getting your wild oats out before you are committed!! JUST MY WISE OPINION!!

*Keep your hearts safe ♥*

i agree with xBeautiifulS0ULx, if your committed to your other half than why would you want a 3some.

if you turely love the person your with the thought of someone else seeing them naked never mind touching and having sex with them would hurt you.

iam with my man 2years and the thought of other girls coming onto him gives me the green eyes lol.

if your husband loves you he shouldnt ask you for a 3some ehhh you should be enough for him.

Dont do anything you dont want too.

Ive had 2 threesomes with my boyfriend, both female and both my choice.. First was with my best friend, and after it happend i truely hated it. It was about a year ago and it still bothers me time to time. The second female we hardly knew, that was 3months ago, i also hated that after, but that one was alot different, like i said we hardly knew the girl and they was alot of grief etc after.. Its all over with now but me and my boyfriend have agreed not to have anymore threesomes, we are happy enough with just each other thats how it should be!! You dont love that person if you arent happy with just them for your sex life.. I dont regret the threesomes because me and my boyfriend wouldnt be where we are now, we are alot closer which is strange because threesomes can pull people apart..

I just want to say you should stick to your guns because I didnt and I had a threesome with my husband and my friend and even though there was no sex he was kissing her alot and it just makes me so sad that his lips have touched another womans. He said oh I just want to see what its like and I dont want to kiss her just feel her body and suck on her breasts, I was mislead and he was kissing her while I just laid there, and I am still angry and I know its the biggest mistake I have ever made.The worst part is if you do it and say ok I will try for you, and then the next day you change your mind he makes you feel as though you have breached a contract, adn you are th one left feeling like crap. SAY NO and stick to it.. Peace TM

you know whats really awkward? when someone approaches a couple asking for a threesome.





I guess my BFs ex was into it, mmf, ffm, orgies... they participated together and supposedly had lots of fun but thats not for me. my BF understands but unfortunately his friends do not. in six months 3 people have asked to join us and I'm left saying "what the f***?"

I'll just assume its because his last gf was into it and his friends are assuming I'd be into it but its really strange. his female roommate for one.... ugh, soooooo awkward. her behavior after his refusal made it worse. apparently she is slightly psychotic and decided one morning when he woke up to ask if she could come back to bed with us, he said no, he later told me and the next time I was over she started pounding on the door while we were having sex. of course it was a mood killer and we stopped, he went out to ask what her problem was and she insisted it was all only a joke, but it wasn't just a "knock knock" it was a good 3 minutes straight of pounding. this lead to a huge fight and then another a couple weeks later while I was still in bed saying "what the f***?"



luckily, one of the others I've never met(though i did see pics, she is an overweight goth that shaves her eyebrows off and draws them on, ugh) and the third I only met once and she was disgusting and had a bf anyway and seemed like she was on lots of drugs.


again, luckily, his roommate got back with her ex and has been getting laid on a regular basis and isn't going psycho anymore because we wont let her join us. its kind of frightening though how much she depends on sex, I mean, I understand its enjoyable but to throw tantrums when you're not getting any.... thats just too much.

Don't let your man force you into anything you are not comfortable with. If you want it then fine, but it is your right to abstain from something you feel is not for you. If he really and truly loved you he would not be insisting on forcing his will on you. This would be an absolute dealbreaker for me.

Thousands of couples have threesomes every week. It's not unusual or wrong. It is however dangerous to the relationships. You cannot participate in the threesome without 3 fully willing people and hope to have it come out ok. You need to establish what you both are comfortable with in the act. Who gets to touch who, have sex with who, how, and when. You need to realize the 3rd in your threesome is not a toy. They have desires and their own agenda and they can be hurt just like you can. Pick them carefully, call things off if you have doubts. Lastly be prepared for the end. Threesome's end relationships. It's just responsible and respectful for you to talk with your partner about what's going to happen if things stop working in the relationship after the threesome.

if a man wants to have a threesome (using a male or female) he obviously has a desire to be with other women and doesnt love you enough to see you as being sacred.
i would dump him and get someone who will love you and see you as a sacred woman protect you from monsters like the one you have....

I'm not laughing at you on this one, but my husband has asked me that once and I had the same thoughts as you did. I sat my husband down and asked him why he wanted a threesome? and we talked it out, it had nothing to do with me at all, actually he wanted to try something new and wanted my views on it. well lets just say the threesome never happened, but he did realized how much it hurt me, so it was never brought up again

I feel obligated to give my husband a threesome because I had one with my ex. I was in a very controling marriage with my ex and thankfully got out of it. I am not that person anymore, but he wants to try it. He is even looking at websites. I feel like I have to along with it, but I don't want to. I'm just not the type of person to speak up. I don't know what to do. Basically I don't want to start a fight or dissapoint him. This is a man that if he gets upset enough he can just cut you outta his life; no matter how much he might miss you. Just to prove a point.