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Q: Plz Help Me

asked by: drei on November 1st, 2004

New User

Hey guyz I just wanna ask u for some advice
i had been going out with this girl for a bit more than 3 years and she always told me how I was all that she ever wanted and that she was really happy with me...Just recently she broke up with me and I really want her back.
I know ive done a few wrong things but I never intended to hurt her...I usually dont say when things bother me and I just keep it inside but sometimes I can say things I dont mean...And she tells me that she still loves me but she dont wanna be with me and shes been going out a lot and shes always talking on her cell and when I asked her who she was talking to she says its none of my business...We have been thru so much caca together and now she dont want me anymore...We almost had a baby that she aborted because she didnt feel ready to have a kid...I cried so much over it trying to convince her to keep him...And now shes been hanging with this latino dude and when I ask her who is he she says hes just a friend but she tells other pple that they are dating
hes short and ugly(not saying this cuz im jealous but other pple say it too)...And I was talking to her and he was hitting on her with me right there...I felt like killing the fu**er...Just didnt say one word cuz I respect her and I didnt want to hurt her
she tells me that she just wants to have fun and meet new pple...And maybe she'll come aback to me...
I feel so worthless and I cant get over what has happend
i tried to tell her that I have changed and that I know what I did wrong and that it wont happen but she just wants to make me suffer...Shes so saddistic...I love her so much and it kills me inside knowing shes with that a**hole...I have spent so many days crying and she says that im over reacting
i dont know what to do anymore cuz I feel that im letting go of everything around me... Plz help me

Replies(2)

FairyLexi

replied on November 1st, 2004

Experienced User

What did you do that made her desided to leave you?

BbyBlu0602

replied on November 5th, 2004

Active User, very eHealthy

Well, I can see that you honestly do care about her if you respect her enough to let her be. My advice to you would be, let her go and see if she comes back. If she doesn't, then it wasn't meant to be. Despite whatever you had done to her to hurt her, I can see that you have a good heart. There's nothing you can really do. She just needs to think about everything and realize either that she wants to be with you or that she wants something else. As for that latino guy that people say she is dating, he's probably just a rebound. She just got out of a relationship with you and she's just rebounding. I'd wait a few days and just leave her alone...Not talk to her or anything and then just out of the blue give her a call and tell her that you guys need to talk. It would be better if you could talk in person so she couldn't just hang up on you. Then, explain to her that you know you did her wrong and hurt her and explain your feelings to her and how much you care about her and if you really love this girl, you would be willing to change whatever it is that drove her away. If that's the case, then tell her that you'll change whatever that is...But only say it if you mean it. Remember though, you aren't trying to get her back by telling her all of this, you're simply just stating your feelings about everything. Then, ask her to think about all the stuff you said and hopefully she'll come to her senses and you guys could have a second try at your relationship.

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