I think oral sex is to the eye of the beholder so to speak. I think oral sex is very intimate and trust worthy also respectful. I personaly love it, giving and receiving. But I also know as a women if my feelings for you is demished in some way youre not getting it. It becomes gross. I know that for some women receiving is harder than giving because we have to open up a complete trust inside for you to do that. If she thinks that its morally wrong to do this thats not true. But you should probably find out if theres other hang ups about it such as knowing how to do it or maybe its the stuff going in her mouth. Let her make friends with him. Lay down naked have her put her head on you stomach and let her check him out. Dont get hard or you will ruin it. Think about doing your grandma or something. Haha.. Anyway let her feel and pick him up and look around at him, pet him (yes i'm serious). Give him a name and be silly, let her talk to him. I know this sounds weird but oral sex can be alot of fun and very fullfilling to the other person. But its also very intimate. Build on her doing it slowly dont force the issue or you will never get it.
Good luck

Maybe i'm terribly uncommon, but in my adult life i've had four long-term loving relationships and there was always oral sex. But we were amoral in the sense that we were having sex out of wedlock!

I am married now and we still enjoy oral sex. It is not unclean in the sense that it causes disease. It's fun, it's absolutely a normal impulse to use all the means at your disposal to please your partner.

If your wife thinks that normal married folks don't engage in oral sex, she's living under a rock or the thumb of the church. If she has a hang-up about pleasure, you've got bigger problems than just getting the occassional blow job. I don't believe that two people should deny themselves natural enjoyment. We were designed to be able to take pleasure in our bodies with a partner and that's a wonderfully intimate gift you give to each other.

Believe me, it's not just in the pornos. They didn't invent oral sex and if there were never another porno flick made, men and women would still be gratifying each other that way.

The other poster is right, don't rush into the gratification part if you'd like to ease her into it. Start by developing intimacy and touch and then she may open up and see it as an affirmation of your love and celebration of life.

Take care.

I love giving and receiving.... Goodluck. Maybe she is just unsure of how to do it. I hated it at first when I didn't really know what to do.

I don't think oral sex is wrong........Up until my recent relationship, which is now long term (i'm living with my bf), I refused to give or to receive......However I felt comfortable with him and I wanted to do whatever I could to please him....And so doing so made me feel better about my abilities as a partner.......I wanted to make the man I love happy. And he has a hang up too. He doesn't like to give, although he may every once in a blue moon. He sounds like her maybe. But he doesn't think it is nasty or wrong, he just doesn't like it. But I do. Bc like I said, it makes him happy, so it makes me happy. And it is so much more intimate.

Well, that's a tough one.If a person has been brought up to think anything besides missionary position,lights out ,only on a saturday night sex is dirty, you have some issues,my friend.I am not saying you cannot help her to see that there are many ways to have a healthy sexual experience.You may need to see a marriage counselor or try to see if your church has a marriage encounter group.That may help her to see that oral sex is alive and well in many of the best christian bedrooms!However,it is ultimately up to her to make it "okay" to give and recieve oral sex.If she just can't overcome her hang-up, you will have to accept her decision.She is still your wife and you will still love her,right???Not everyone enjoys oral sex and some people get along very well without it.It is all a matter of personal choice.I do not recall anything in my vows saying I must love ,honor and swallow!It is my and my husband's choice to enjoy oral,but, if we did not,we would still have a wonderful marriage!Good luck to both of you!Patty

I personally think it's degrading.. Either way, giving or recieving... The first time I expireienced oral sex in a relationship was giving.. And I was pretty much persuaded into it... So from the start, it made me feel like I was being pushed into things.. I dont kno, I feel like oral sex is pointless and degrading..

I dont like reciving oral I am kinda ok with giving but only if I feel like it and if not I do not do it

I dont like reciving oral I am kinda ok with giving but only if I feel like it and if not I do not do it

I don't think oral sex is wrong..I just don't really like it. It is kind of degrading

I do not feel it is wrong at all. As long as both parties are comfortable with it. That's both giving and receiving.

I personally love giving it to my wife. I get a lot of pleasure out of giving her pleasure. I can go from start to finish with her, and have no problems with that at all.

On the other hand, her doing me is a bit different. She doesn't mind doing it. And to me the feeling is awesome. But she will always stop short of me cumming, or she will take it out right before I cum.

I don't have a problem with that, althought I would really love to know the sensation of her continuing. But I would never force her to do anything she doesn't want to do, or isn't comfortable with.

I've always wondered what it's like from a woman's point of view doing it to a guy. Not from a nasty, porn type explanation, that's not what i've wondered. I mean just normal people doing it, and wondering what it feels like to them. Like the sensations, the emotions, and even the thoughts.

Well, i've probably said enough already. Hope I haven't offended anyone.

Zoomer

I personally like giving it and getting it the same, for different reasions. I think giving it is fun and each time I get better. The better one gets the more fun it is, and the more creative you can get. My guy gives me lots of feed back and together we blow his mind. (it goes both ways). There are only two things that are bad: when the guy takes the movement into his own hands, or stinky balls.
Darkv

Personally, I enjoy giving and receiving. I don't think there's anything wrong with it at all. I do have to agree with darkv though...Smelliness is a big no-no...And I hate it when the guy tries to control it. If he wants to be in control, he can use his hands!

Daile

May sound crazy, but is your wife a christian? My reason for asking is because a lot christians believes it to be an immoral sexual act. However, it is up to the 2 of you what you do in your bedroom. Not getting religious or anything (and definitely not to offend anyone) but in the bible it says that marriage is honorable in all and the bed is undefiled.

Amen!!!

I personally enjoy both giving and getting. When my partner and I got together 7 years ago, neither of us had done it before. We were still teenagers. We were clueless but finally got it right. One is right for one couple may not be for another. I don't see anything dirty about it, but I do no others that have a real problem with it. Is she concerned with the smell, taste or texture? I have a girlfriend that wont receive because she is to self conscious about her smell or taste. Maybe that is the problem. Talk it over with her, just be kind as it can be a very sensitive conversation. Hope this helps.

From my point of view, oral should only be given to someone you care about- you ever heard the rule about how you can have sex with anyone, but iral you save for someone you care about? Okay, maybe you havent, but thats the rule of thumb I play by. To me, oral is more than just hey can you do a little bit of this or that, but more along the lines of hey, I love you, and I want to show you that by doing this for you- I think alot of people think its dirty or messy mostly because they never tried it, or simply that they havent met someone worth making the effort for- you cant knock it until youve tried it ya know- and if you are afraid of getting "dirty"....Well, arent we all humans? We caca, burp, fart, so.........Does it really make a difference?

This is so controversial. It takes a certain personallity to be able to enjoy this type of sex. It's not for everybody. If you have a good relationship w/ your friend, don't push it.

I think its great. I was giving long before I was recieving and I always get a lot out of it, either way. It all depends on why your wife doesnt like it...Maybe she had a bad experience?

do u guys think its degrading when the guy cums on ur face or in ur mouth?