I'm about to be 17 and I am 3 months pregnant. My boyfriend is in jail and serving 2 months. A couple days after he got locked up, I found out he had been lying to me. He was saying he was staying at a GUY friend's that I knew. I found out by 4 different people that he had been picking up this girl,I specifically told him to stay away from, and taking her every where and staying at her house. When he called I confronted him and he admitted it, apologized, and started crying and pleading. Well the next day I found out he had sex with her 3 Times(including oral for her) and had told her we were broke up, they also was unprotected. This girl is not a normal one, she is the get-around-girl. Meaning, not only if she had a disease, he would have it down there and in his mouth. Those days that he cheated on me he had been coming to me, not only risking my life, but my baby's too. I despise him so much for this, but I would hate to have an abortion then find out later that it was the only kid I could have had. It just seems like my luck, to have miscarriages or complications. The decision I want to make, is to have the baby, but take all his rights as a legal father, away. I know its wrong, but if he didnt care to think about the baby when he was havin sex with her, then what's the problem. Besides, Idon't want my child around him and the diseases he'll catch if he continues. Help me make up my mind........TornDecision!!!
I don't have experience in these kinds of situations, but in my opinion you should leave him and start a new life with your new born child. He slept with another girl and may had got a disease, yet he didn't listen to you when you told him to stay away and to stop taking her everywhere. You should worry about your child first and leave your boyfriend alone because maybe in the future he wouldn't listen to you like he did in the situation with the girl.
As I was reading your message I feel your pain. I was in a similar situation at your age which was 11 plus years ago. I did in up having a miscarriage and it was not fun. I was 5 months pregnant. it's not something you want to experience especially if you plan to keep this child. Being pregnant is not easy and your body should be important to you don't let stress and no good people cause you pain.
you kno what i have to say, dont stress what he is doin and the situation. the more you are stressed out the more there is a chance for complications. im 16 an pregnant and im probably going through more sh*t than you. i cant get health insurance and i was dropped from my parents and my bf dont have any either so it wouldnt do much to get married, and even worse, the state wont help me cuz they feel my parents should pay for the bills then, but he cheated on me and i just said whatever cuz there is no point. I stopped having sex with him and fortunately they check you for diseases and hiv when you have your first real visit at the doctors. if yours didnt, go somewhere to get tested just in case. unfortunatly if you are planning on getting child support money he is goin to be able to see his child. you really dont need him or someone like him there are many people out there that will help you and it may be easier and less stressful to take responsibility on your own.
Unfortunately, depending on the state you live in, if you want to get child support from him, he will have visitation rights until he royally screws up. I would suggest talking to a family lawyer before you make your final decision. One of the reasons I had an abortion was because my ex would have had custodial rights and I didn't want any child to go through what I went through with him. And he was also in jail, so that doesn't necessarily matter. The way the courts are set up, you get rights on the assumption that you will keep your problems away from your children.
It wouldnt do anything good if you still go for him. You've seen for yourself how bad he is. How he have been cheating on you. Love yourself first, now that your pregnant, try to focus in things that would be better for your and your baby's health! Good luck.
If your not intrested in child support then dont write his name on the birth certificate and tell him you were cheating so that he wont look into it.. Your better off than if you were to continue with him and have this person screw you over for the rest of your life.. Its very easy to get stuck in a situation with a person like that..
They'll make him pay child support now, or in 12 years. Either way he'll get nailed with it.
If he tries to take the baby, take him to court and say he's an unfit father. Since being in jail is a bad start, i'm sure the judge with think so aswell.
Or, if you don't even care about childsupport yet, you can either give the hospital a fake name when you give birth, or you can tell them that you dont know who the father is, sounds nasty but when it comes to your kid....You know what I mean!
My boyfriend passed away 2 weeks before I found out, i'll get a check every month for him doing so since i'm having his baby. But, i've decided to give the hospital a fake name anyways, so his dad won't be able to have any rights.
im in the same situation, im 12 weeks pregnant and ive found out my boyfrend (babys dad) has cheated on me 3 times wiv the same girl. he was unprotected and i dont no what to you, but since then i have been having sex wiv him cuz i didnt no this, i only found out yesterday and im disgusted at the fact of havin sex wiv him now..
but the best thing u can do is go and have urself checked out if u have had sex wiv him since he cheated on u.
thats what im going to do