Am I the only girl who actually loves giving oral? I love getting it too; but the things about oral is that it is very easy to take it from an empowering thing for the actor to an empowering thing for the reciever. In other words, if the man who is getting oral is laying back on a bed or something and his partner is giving him oral, as long as the reciever isn't holding his partner's head aginst his crotch, the giver is really in the position of power. It takes a lot of trust to stick your penis inside of an orifice that has teeth inside of it!

Now if you just shove yourself inside of your partner or force her to do it in some other way, then it's degrading. And I don't see how you'd trick her into giving you oral. If you realy wants some, you're going to have to give some to her. Try 69ing! A, it's fun. B, it's a position of equality for both of you. You start off giving her oral, and as she gets into it, she'll probably grab you. I did anyway. From there, just encourage her to kiss you down there, and she'll probably figure the rest out for herself.

Shaving will definately help her if it's her first time. And if it's her first time, she's probably terrified of doing it wrong! So stop being so mean about it! I first did oral on my boyfriend after we'd already been having sex for 5 months, and i'd been getting oral from him for even longer. He'd told me he didn't really like recieving oral sex, but I really felt that I should at least do it for him once. It took a lot of courage, but finally I did it one day when we were just laying there. Oral for me is empowering, I am in total control. Now, he loves oral, just because I actually care about it when I do it; and because I take total control of his body in the process. Most girls do oral all wrong; they just go up and down over and over. As a "newbie", I paid attention to his body language (and vocalizations ;). Thus, I became very good at it very quickly.

I swallow; it's not degrading in my opinion because I was in control the entire time; and who wants to clean up semen?

Penis tastes good ;)

I hope she chomps on your weewee.

how can u think that swallowing is not degrading? im having such trouble with this rightnow. i wish i cud get over it but i cant. its bothering me. i feel like no matter how much the guy loves u its degrading. i dont understand y he wud wanna cum in my mouth or on my face? am i a garbage bag or a toilet?

I hope you don't expect him to give you oral then, its not like you don't have any sort of discharge going in his mouth or on his face. What is he, a toilet?

Personally I don't think swallowing is a big deal. It's not degrading because its you're doing it to please your partner. If you absolutely hate it, then don't do it-- but I think it's something worth trying.

Mouth is one thing...it gives the understanding that this is a consenual act.

Face is a whole other. Face just seems like it's marking territory. I am not a tree.

Swallowing is something that is agreed upon by the partners. Not to mention, it's easy on the clean up. I'd rather cuddle or something after the act than grab the paper towels to clean.

but u dont think swallowing is degrading? i do i dont understand how u dont. i dnt know there were girls who didnt think it wasnt degrading. u feel like cumming on ur fa ce is marking a tree i feel like cumming in ur mouth is that way too. its gross. i dont understand why a guy wh loves u wud wanna do that? thats just so disrespectful to me