Ok I know I am being a health question??? I just wanna know if the baby is ok someone please answer me

Hey. I'm not an exzpert but I am sure everything is ok. Maybe just at this point you are having a little trouble but I don't think it's anything serious. Maybe just go a lil slower next time and if the problem persists or worsens, see a doc.

Hey girlie- I found a little bit of information for you!

when should I avoid sex?
Assuming your pregnancy is normal and low-risk, you shouldn't have to say no to a roll in the hay. In fact, many couples continue their sex life right up to their baby's delivery. Neither intercourse nor orgasm poses a threat to a healthy pregnant woman or her baby. The thick mucus plug that seals the cervix during pregnancy helps guard against infection. And the baby is well protected by the fluid-filled amniotic sac and strong uterine muscles.

However, if you're having a high-risk pregnancy or your practitioner anticipates any complications, you may have to forgo sex. (and of course, if you notice any unusual symptoms during or following intercourse, such as pain or discharge, call your doctor or midwife before having sex again.)

because orgasm can cause mild uterine contractions (as can the prostaglandins in semen), most doctors and midwives will advise against intercourse if you have any of the following conditions: an increased risk for miscarriage

• placenta previa or a very low-lying placenta

• a history of preterm birth

• premature labor if you're less than 36 weeks pregnant

• unexplained vaginal bleeding or discharge

• abdominal cramping

• an "incompetent cervix"

• a dilated cervix

• ruptured membranes (your water has broken)

• an unhealed herpes lesion in either you or your partner, or the presence of any other sexually transmitted disease. In this case, abstain from sex until you and your mate have been treated and a follow-up test shows you're both free of disease. If your partner is hiv positive, and you have sex while you're pregnant — especially without a condom — you could be putting yourself and your baby at risk for contracting the disease.

If you have to forego sex, don't despair: you can still kiss, engage in creative foreplay, give each other long massages, and share your feelings for each other.



can I have sex while i'm pregnant?
Absolutely. With a normal pregnancy, you can keep doing it right up until your water breaks. Do check with your doctor or midwife first if you've been treated for premature labor or if you're having any problems with your pregnancy, such as a shortened or dilated cervix, leaking amniotic fluid, placenta previa, or bleeding, or if you have a history of miscarriages. There are some instances when you should avoid having sex.

But as long as your pregnancy is normal, you won't hurt the baby by making love, even with your partner on top. The thick mucus plug that seals the cervix helps guard against infection. The amniotic sac and the strong muscles of the uterus also protect your baby. Though your fetus may thrash around a bit after orgasm, it's because of your pounding heart, not because he knows what's happening or feels pain.

Will it feel as good?
Even better for some women, not as good for others. Increased blood flow to the pelvic area can cause engorgement of the genitals and heighten the sensation. But the same engorgement gives other women an uncomfortable feeling of fullness after intercourse ends. Also, some women may have abdominal cramps during or after intercourse. Your breasts may become enlarged and can be more tender, which can cause discomfort when they're fondled. You may have more vaginal discharge or moistness, which can make sex either more pleasurable or can result in some vaginal irritation. If you notice a sudden change in the amount of vaginal discharge or a foul or unusual odor, check with your practitioner. You could have a vaginal infection or your bag of waters may have broken. When your water breaks, you may feel a slow leak rather than a gush of fluid all at once.

I haven't really been in the mood since I got pregnant. Is this normal?
Yes, it can be. The big changes in your body are bound to change your sex life. Some women, finally free from worries about conception and contraception, feel sexier than ever. But others are just too tired or nauseated to make love, especially in the first trimester. The second trimester is often marked by a resurging libido. Your desire may wane again in the third trimester as birth, labor, and your belly loom large, or you may simply feel unattractive or tired.

Will my partner's sex drive change?
Most people find their pregnant partner as attractive as ever. But your partner's desire may be dampened by concerns for your health and the baby's, apprehension about the burdens of parenthood, fear that sex can hurt the baby, or even self-consciousness about making love in the presence of your unborn child.

Is oral sex safe?
Yes, oral sex won't harm you or your baby, provided you're in a monogamous relationship where both you and your partner are hiv-negative. In fact many consider it a nice substitute if intercourse is deemed too risky. If you're not sure what your partner's hiv status is, then you need to use a dental dam (a sheet of latex that you place between your genitals and your partner's mouth) because there's some evidence suggesting that a person may be able to transmit hiv through micro-abrasions or tiny cuts in his mouth.

Which positions are the most comfortable?
Here are some time-tested positions and tips for making love while you're pregnant:
• lie sideways. Having your partner on top demands increasingly creative gymnastics as your tummy swells. But lying partly sideways allows your partner to keep most of his weight off your uterus.

• use the bed as a prop. Your bulge isn't an obstacle if you lie on your back at the side or foot of the bed with your knees bent, and your bottom and feet perched at the edge of the mattress. Your partner can either kneel or stand in front of you.

• lie side-by-side in the spoon position, which allows for only shallow penetration. Deep thrusts can become uncomfortable as the months pass.

• get on top of your partner. It puts no weight on your abdomen and allows you to control the depth of penetration.

• have your partner enter you from a sitting position, which also puts no weight on the uterus. Try sitting on your partner's lap as he sits on a sturdy chair.


Have faith — where there's a will, there's a way. With a little experimenting, you and your partner are sure to find a technique that works for you.

Hope this helps,
-kristin

Idbaby do u really tyoe all that stuff out? Man its alot, and its everytime someone asks a question you type a novel lol....I mean its very nice but man thats alot of typng and alot of reading.

She prolly just copys and pases lol but she always has good answers.

<3
gaby

Lol, hell no. Sometimes I will type some of it, but a lot of the time its copied and paste. There are times, I will type stuff out of my dozen of pregnancy books. But, I will always and I mean always find the answer. hehe.


-kristin

Thank u kristin!

You're welcome sweetie, did it help you at all?

-kristin

Kristin is like a dictionary!!

lol nah she just knows how to use the internet!

Yes it did actually, I think it was hurting because he was going too deep in me, sometimes he gets a little wild and will go fast and hard, I feel that is why it was hurting like that. I hope its not going to stay like that cause I dont think I could stand not having sex! Haha I turned into a little nympho since I got pregnant, it does feel more intense though! Sorry maybe a little tmi!

I have read so many books on pregnancy, first I use the internet, then I go to my books, and between the two...I will find you an answer.

you know what though, make sure you dont go too hard. When my boyfriend and I had sad when I was around 14 weeks pregnant we had sex and then I started to bleed. It was really bad. Be careful!

-kristin

While I havent had any bleeding I will take your advice! Didnt you said you miscarried between 18-19 weeks?

Yes that is true.

I guess just watch for any bleeding what so ever during anything.

Sex is suppost to be good for you and the baby hehe. Hopefully, it will stop being so painful.


-kristin

Hey you might know the answer to this, can being constipated have anything to do with the pain because I was constipated a little the other day and I remember one other time before I even got pregnant I was constipated and sex seemed to hurt a little. Just wondering if that could be a cause of it? If that is the case then I am a-ok today because I finally got all of that out of me, haha sorry tmi again!

Hey becca-yes, I think that might be one of the reasons, you may be experiencing pain. Dont worry about tmi...Nothing bothers me hehe

common reasons for painful sex in women

infections like cystitis and thrush. Usually causes a burning pain, soreness or low abdominal pain.

Menopause causes hormonal changes that can lead to poor lubrication in the vagina. This can result in a feeling of tightness or a ‘pinching’ sensation during sex. Hrt often improves lubrication and prevents this problem.

Allergies to products you use on your clothes or skin, like soap and talcum powder, can cause a burning pain. Changing the products you use will cure the problem.

Scars after childbirth or from surgery can cause a brief but sharp pain as the man enters the woman. Ensure you take full advantage of postnatal check-ups and mention any concerns to your health visitor.

First experience of sex often causes a short, sharp pain as the hymen is broken. Very occasionally parts of the hymen remain after the first sexual experience and can cause ongoing discomfort during sex.

bowel problems like severe constipation may result in a pain deep inside the vagina or on one side of the vagina.

Womb problems may cause a mild to moderate pain deep inside during sex.

Stress or anxiety may result in the vagina feeling tight and dry. This can create a vicious cycle where the woman fears the pain, leading to greater anxiety, leading to more pain.

Tiredness or lack of arousal – the woman may be too tired to enjoy sex and so unable to respond to arousal. Sex when this is the case will feel uncomfortable because of a lack of adequate lubrication.

Vaginismus is a condition where the muscles at the entrance to the vagina shut tightly, preventing penetration. This is usually a psychological problem brought about by a previous trauma – for example rape - or other concerns about sex. Attempts to have sex are often extremely painful and are usually abandoned.

Hey thank you so much kristen you have been so helpful to me, I hope you dont think I ask too many questions! Thank you! :d

~becca

You are welcome. So next time try getting it all out, then have sex. If you are still having pain, then you know that isnt it. Oh dont worry becca, I am more than happy to be able to help. I like finding answers to questions anyways. I always get to learn something new, or I get to help people. Hehe.

-kristin

Yeah constipation could definately be the reason! Try to eat more fiber and drink more water...That should definately help! A good way to get fiber is when you are hungry during the day...Eat dry cereal! Find one that you like and you can snack on! But yeah....Fiber and water build "bulk" and that makes you go easier!