Hello,
I'm new to this forum, but I'm so glad that I found you. I've had this problem for 11 years now (it started a couple months after I got married and am now getting a divorce) and thought I was a freak. I thought that it must be all in my head since it only seemed to bother me in certain situations, the quiet ones that you're all talking about. Because it's happened before in those situations, I'd get more anxious and it'd happen. Of course there'd be no reason to be anxious since I knew the people there or I wouldn't have to speak or anything.
It was comforting to know that I'm not the only one debilitated by my gut. I've settled for not moving up in my career because I'd have to go to more meetings. I don't go to church because I don't want anyone to sit near me. Before interviews, I'm more worried about the noises my stomach might make than what I'm actually going to say. And now I've decided to go back to school to get back on my feet, and I'm terrified of having to sit through lectures and tests. I took a lot of Immodium when I had to go places, but it didn't help much. I'd also drink green tea, which did seem to calm my stomach a little.
I went to the doctor, and she diagnosed me with IBS without running any tests. I was put on Prilosec, which didn't help. I tried Lexapro, which only made me unable to orgasm and made me drink more alcohol. I tried vitamins and minerals, an expensive homeopath and an even more expensive hypnotherapist. I thought I had social anxiety since it happened in social situations. I guess it does happen when I'm alone, but it doesn't bother me then, so I don't notice it.
I finally went to a nutritionist a couple years ago who ran the saliva test. She said that I had candida and put me on a Parasite Cleanse, told me to cut out all kinds of foods I like (bread, mushrooms, soft cheeses, fruit, etc.), take psyllium powder and probiotics every day. I did that, and it did help. It helped for me to leave my husband (stress can aggravate it) because I started feeling better self-esteem-wise.
The divorce still isn't final, and we have a three-year-old son, so I'm having an immense amount of stress, not eating as well as I should and having no energy to exercise. Exercise does help my stomach because it increases endorphins, reduces stress and is generally good for you.
I wanted to post to let you know what worked for me, but also to say that you shouldn't just assume that you have IBS. I checked out a couple books from the library last week and found out that what is recommended to eat if you have IBS is the total opposite of what is recommended if you have candida. IBS people are told to eat simple carbohydrates, but that just feeds candida, if that's your problem.
I'm starting my regimen again to try to get rid of this thing. I'm taking digestive enzymes when I eat, eating lean meats, veggies, reducing the portion of rice and mixing brown with white (I can't cut out everything good), eating brown rice cakes instead of bread, no mushrooms or cheese, the only dairy will be good, plain yogurt (not Yoplait or those other kinds with tons of sugar), no alcohol, and taking psyllium every day. I got the parasite cleanse to take at the next full moon (June 1

, and I'll take probiotics when I'm done with that. I'm also taking some colloidal silver (anti-fungal) and liquid multi-vitamin every day. I don't drink liquids with meals because I don't want to dilute my stomach juices. I only drink 1/4 glass before or after when taking the enzymes. I'm going to try to exercise 3 times per week.
My friend who's a nurse said that parasites are bull, but I told her that even if this is all a placebo, I don't care because it helped me the last time I did it. I'm just under so much stress now with all of the changes in my life (including getting laid off last July shortly after leaving my husband) that I need to be more proactive about doing something for my stomach.
I have to say, though, that my stomach has been better than it was before I left my husband, even despite all the stresses. I think it does have something to do with self-esteem. I was in a loveless marriage where he withheld affection, was condescending, and didn't treat me with respect. He wasn't outwardly terrible to me, which made it much harder for me to see. It was all the little things -- not asking if I wanted a drink when he got up to go to the fridge, putting his exercise before my needs, not telling me that I was pretty -- that added up and killed my spirit. I think this has a lot to do with how I felt physically. And it sounds like many of the other people on this forum are also Type A -- I'm very hard on myself, and my friends are always telling me to give myself a break. Think about how we talk to our bodies and our heads and how we'd never put up with that kind of talk if it came from someone else.
Sorry for such a long post. I'm so glad I've found you!