I'm ready to have sex with the guy that
i'm seeing but i'm scared.
Not of what he will think or if it will
hurt but getting pregnant. It's my worst
fear in the whole world. Now I know I
should be on the pill but getting it is a
very hard thing for me. My mom will never
take me, she has expressed it very
clerly.She doesn't know that want to have
sex but i'm planning on sleeping w/him
once before I get on the pill or another
form of birth control. But I don't know
when in my cycle to do it because i'm
irregular.Can anyone help. Yes I do plan
on using a condom.How big of a chance is
there of me getting pregnant on my first
time?
Thank you
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Daile
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 11 Oct 2004 Posts: 319 Location: Missouri
Posted: 10-23-04 03:37am
There is a chance of getting pregnant
anytime during the month. On a 28 day
cycle, though, you're more likely to be
ovulating on day 14. If I had to pick a
day, i'd say go for a day or two after
your period ends. It's not very likely
that you've ovulated yet, and if by any
chance a sperm or two slip out of the
condom, they will likely be dead before
you do ovulate. It's not fool-proof, but
that's the best bet, I think.
Why won't your mom help you get birth
control? Maybe you should sit down with
her and let her know that you plan on
having sex with or without, but that you
would rather do it with, because you don't
want a baby. Ask her which she would
rather deal with: taking you to get birth
control, or having a screaming infant in
the house. I think she'll choose the
first!!
Daile
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fighter12389
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 22 Oct 2004 Posts: 32 Location: minnesota
Posted: 10-23-04 12:00pm
Thank you for your help you have helped me
a great deal.I'm happy to see you
suggested some times. I figured people
would just say go on the pill.To go to the
doctors and get on birth control do you
have to have parental consent and if you
do go and get on it is there any way of
your parents finding out? Like it coming
up on a medical bill or something?How do
you go a get put on it? Yes, iam new at
all of this stuff.
Thank you
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PattyV
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 01 May 2004 Posts: 1103 Location: Chicago area
Posted: 10-23-04 12:47pm
Go to planned parenthood.You do not need
parental consent and the fee will be low
cost or even free.I personally would be
happy to give my stepson any info on birth
control and safe sex.I would rather do
that than be told that there is a baby on
the way or that he has an std or
worse.Maybe let your mom know that you've
been thinking about it,she was once your
age and teen sex is not new.Try to bring
up the subject and see how she reacts,if
she is totally against any discussion,make
an appointment at a local planned
parenthood and be safe!Patty
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Jag
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 24 Oct 2004 Posts: 4 Location: NY
Re: Confused Posted: 10-24-04 19:38pm
fighter12389
wrote:
i'm ready to have sex with
the guy that i'm seeing but i'm scared.
Not of what he will think or if it will
hurt but getting pregnant. It's my worst
fear in the whole world. Now I know I
should be on the pill but getting it is a
very hard thing for me. My mom will
never take me, she has expressed it very
clerly.She doesn't know that want to have
sex
your mum knows what she's talking
about.You clearly don't know what you're
getting into.She doesn't want you to have
any regrets later.If you don't listen now,
and do what you want,you might not have
her support later and you'll feel all
alone if you get pregnant -which is a real
possibility. Abortion is not as easy as
it sounds, it leaves one with deep
regret& pain all through their
life.Think with your brain not your
hormones.The reason we have parents is coz
we need them& so unless you feel
you're ready to be a parent yourself, and
also face the dangers of std's etc, forget
it.
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darkV
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 26 Oct 2004 Posts: 43
Posted: 10-28-04 19:45pm
If you are anything like me you are going
to do what you want no matter what people
on the forum say. But we all can give you
advice to keep you safe and happy. I
think dalie has some good advice. Birth
control is very inportant and luckly we
have many choices and clinics that cater
to teens, evern ones whos parents oppose
to their actions. In my town we had a
teen clinic that gave free birth control,
paps, std tests, and advice. Look into
it. One peice of advied I can give you
from experienc is to have you and your
boyfriend get std checks before sex w/o
codoms, if either of you have been even
mild sexually active. Do this with all
you boyfriends forever! Just cause you
are clean or you think he is clean or you
are on the pill doesent mean there isnt
something creepy hidding there.
Also, if you are interested in monitoring
your cycle, even if you are irregular
(like me) then check out a book called:
taking charge of your fertility: the
definitive guide to natural birth control,
pregnancy achievement, and reproductive
health (revised edition) -- by toni
weschler. There is alot of info here but
if you want to be ready to have sex I
suggest reading it. It can be fun too and
you will get to know yourself and respect
your body alot! Relly!
