I dont know what to tell you sweetie. I guess if its something you think will help you in the long run, at least you'll know your baby is not with some stranger also you'll still be with your baby everyday. On the other hand if you love greg and dont want to give him up then somehow your mom is going to have to realize your child needs a father.

Do you want that though... Aside from greg dont think of greg right now think of this.... Could you let your mother be a mother to your child? Give up your maternal and parental rights? Why cant she just help support you being a mom rather than become the mom herself? Will she kick you out if you choose no? You can always apply for medicare and what not which is government insurance, or greg can get it thru work if he become legal....

Your bond between your child and you mother sadly is more important than your bond between you and greg but you must keep greg in the picture even if she decides to adopt the baby greg still has parental rights until he signs them over.. Does he get to loose on on being a dad? Thats not fair to the child in the long run....

It is good that you told your mom! However she seriously needs to open her eyes to whats up!

Shes driving me insane! Ahah

i mean she let u live in this situation now she wont let you stand up to your responsibilities?

Keep letting me know whats going on hun trust me I wanna help
and if all else fails come to sd and live with me and paul!

The thing is my mother had told me that legally greg doesnt have any parental rights because he is illegal himself. I do love him, but he still has not called me since yesterday's fight (in the morning). Im not able to call him until 6 p.M. Because he is at work, but im not sure if I want to because I want to see if he really cares. I dont know why but I have this instinctive feeling to run away and hide my self and my baby. Even though I know that is not the best thing for my baby (i could care less about myself, just my baby) its gotten to the point were I would rather have some stranger raise my baby rather than my mother. Shes very slippery and is almost two faced, just the other day she told greg that she was happy that I found a good man but was upset that she couldnt find someone like him herself, and now this!

Dont take off hun u dont have the financial means are u going to ur doc appts? I'd do ur research and find out if he has rights....

Sorry to barge in this, but I was just wondering what you meant by greg is illegal too... Did you mean that he is a minor as well? Actually there are rights that you and he have under the law simply because you are this childs parents. You can become an emanicapted minor and be eligible for any assistance the state can offer. This might not sound like a great life, but you wouldn't have to do it forever. You can finish school even go to college and still have your family.

Whatever you choose to do, do it because you want to. So many young mothers think that they can't do this, but they really can. There are so many options for you so that you can keep your baby if you want to. Please look into it.

No no hes not a minor he hasnt gained status in the us yet

Theres something very serious u can do about not being able to start a life of ur own and what not. If greg is the father of ur baby then all u have to do it go get married through the court its easy and fairly affordable. Getting married legally emancipates u therefore u would be an adult. U would have to get ur own place or u would have to pay ur mom rent bc ur an "adult" but its the best idea I think. Thats what I plan to do ... Since im a minor and my mom is leaving for iraq when and if my fiance ever gets me preggy thats what im gonna do. I hope I helped and if u have any more questions or anything feel free to pm me

Now I am not entirely sure on this...But I believe if you are the kids father citizen or not, you still have rights. That doesn't make sense, just because one person is from another country is crap. It's your kid, it's your kid. Your mom needs to lay off a bit. Yes you got pregnant young, ok so not the smartest thing. But you are her child and ya know what caca happens. Life deals you a hand of cards, you play them and what you get is what you got. You can change your life any way you want to. It sounds like you really care about the baby, I admire that. Keep that strong will alive, sounds like you will need it.

I dont think it's that bad. I mean, do you live with her? My mom wants to adopt my baby, too, and I dont mind because I still live with her, so it doesn't really make a difference to me. Deep inside I know its my baby.

I don't want to sound critical but this situation doesn't sound too good. I would think you need to find some assistance to continue school, get a job (if you don't have one) this is going to be a rough time. I was 17 pregnant 18 married. I would never tell someone to go get married, or have a baby to keep a guy. A baby runs a guy off faster than anything. Your bf is an older illegal immigrant, whom you seem to have a shaky relationship with. I wish young girls knew how hard is it to raise a child with or without the father, there would be many more legs closed !!
It's going to be nothing but hard work for you but you can do it. Get as much assistance as you can(i'm not a fan of gov. Assistance i.E welfare)
but help is help. My husband joined the navy and it was he best decision because we are able to take good care of our baby, without ever taking a handout from family, always had our own money,apt/home,car,travel,insurance. Everything we need, though military is not everyones choice. So there are things you can do keep your baby if thats what you want to do, having a child is a life altering thing some people think it's just a cute thing to do(have a little baby). It's hard work, and reality sets in fast ! I wish you the best.

If your mother really loved you she would help u out not tell u that she wants to adopt your baby.. I was 19 when I had my first son my parents maid me give my first baby up for adaption and it was hard now that im 23 and have my second baby I see that giving up my baby was for his own good but if I had been stronger I would have kept him but then again I would not have my son alex. Ilove both of my baby that I had even thought I am only raising one of them but im now married to a great guy who wouldn't have it any other way. Well later :p