Am I Getting the Brush Off? Posted: 10-10-03 08:49am
I am 34 and in my hole life I have never
been this stumped about a guy, I need help
trying to figure out if this guy I just
meant is blowing me off or if he is truly
as busy as he says he is? I just meant
him a couple weeks ago and we really hit
it off, I talked to him every night last
week and I went to his house last thursday
and we both had a great time and there was
alot of feelings there. He kept telling
me how glad he was to have me there and
how he was digging on me, he even had his
friends come over to meet me and he kept
saying he just wanted to tell everybody
and he wanted to take me places to show me
off, it was great. He asked me to go to a
party with him on sat and to call if I
could make it well I called friday night
no answer called 2 more times still no
answer, called on sat morning no answer,
left for his house called on the way no
answer.(i didn't go to his house because I
felt awkward just meeting him).
Called on sunday got his room mate he said
he was hunting I told him to have him
call, monday I get his room mate he wasn't
there still I asked the roommate if he had
gotten any of the messages I left he told
me yes, and then I asked if he didn't want
me to call anymore that is fine and the
roommate said I don't now anything I am
just the roommate and then he said he
would tell him I called. Tue my
girlfriend called down there and finally
he was home she asked him what was going
on and he said that he really liked me and
that he wasn't trying to brush me off he
has been just so busy and his room mate
doesn't have his rent money and told him
he was moving so he has been doing side
jobs and working late so he can pay the
room mates half, plus he has to put out
300.00 a week in child support so that is
why he hasn't called and he wasn't for
sure if he could call because my going to
be ex is still there, so he told carren to
have me call and I did and finally got
ahold of him and the 1st thing I told him
is that if he did want to see me or if he
didn't want me to call him just tell me
and he told me no it's not like that I
would like to spend more time with you and
he told me what he told my girlfriend on
the phone and he didn't even know I was
sitting there when she talked to him so
his storys were the same. We talked on
the phone for awhile and he told me to
call after 8:30 on wed and if he wasn't
there he had no clue were he would be well
I called on wed,thur and no answer again!
I am stumped I guess I just don't know
what to think is he busy is he brushing me
off what should I do?
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nikki_caro
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 22 Aug 2003 Posts: 4921 Location: Right here at work!
Posted: 10-10-03 12:48pm
Well you can believe him that he is just
very busy and get used to the fact that
this is how it might be all the time or
you can think that he's making it up and
is out and about without you on his mind.
So is it worth it to sit and wait when
until he can find time out of his busy
schedule to finally call you? Or do you
want to find a new guy who has time to be
with you? This is on you. You can either
keep calling and get the busy signal or
you can go out and wait for him to contact
you. Youve done your part of tracking him
down forever but he hasnt shown much
interest into calling you back. Looks
like you have alot of time to call him
every hour and hes never there. You even
gave the roomate 21 questions. You should
wait it out a little bit because you are
pushing it too fast and give him the
chance to pursue you. Thats when you will
find out if hes into you, or hes blowing
you off. Next thing, hes gonna leave you
a message "we are moving it too fast, I
need time to think it out" time is what he
never has. So think if hes worth it, or
if you should keep fishing.
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Suzy
Active User, Really EHEALTHy
Joined: 20 Sep 2003 Posts: 530
Posted: 10-10-03 16:45pm
Dear jwig,
this guy sounds interetsed in you, just
not interested enough to treat you with
the respect you deserve. If you really
like this guy then let him chase you,
don't call him, if he really wants you he
will be on that phone so fast your head
will spin. If not then he really isn't
worth you running around not knowing if
your here nor there. Do not let men treat
you in this way, because this is exactly
what some men are like. Some men even
love the thought of a woman chasing them
and that they are hard to get. This just
leaves you hurt and confused.
Good luck,
.::suzy::.
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jwig69
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 10 Oct 2003 Posts: 8 Location: Michigan
Posted: 10-23-03 14:09pm
Thank you for the very good advice
nikki_caro and suzy, I waited a week
before I called again just to see if I
would actually get to talk to him and I
did, the first thing I asked him is if he
knew who I was and he told me no, so I
told him and he was all happy to hear from
me but didn't have a whole lot to say so I
asked if he wanted me to let him go and he
told me yes because he had to call his
kids so I told him no problem and we hung
up. I am not going to call again because
I got the feeling he really did'nt want to
talk to me even though he was excited to
find out it was me on the phone, so to
save what is left of my dignity I have
made the decision to stop calling and
waiting and go on, there is more fish in
the sea and I am going to find someone
worthy of putting all my time and effort
into.
(he doesn"t know who he is missing out
on)!!!!!! Thanks you guys again so much
would like to hear from you again
julie
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LadyL
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 23 Oct 2003 Posts: 18 Location: NJ
Right Decision! Posted: 10-23-03 14:54pm
Hi jwig69! You have definately made the
right decision by stopping the calls to
him. I have learned that no matter how
busy someone's life is, they can always
find time to call someone if they really
wanted to.
