Hi sami
im 43 and had epilepsy since I was 6 mnths old, I have always had a nuerologist and thier knowledge and help is very benificial , a family doctor will have some knowledge but not that of a specialist. Sami, it would be very worthwhile, even if it was only every 9mnths or so , to make an effort and travel to a town where you can see a nueroligist . I do believe that there are certain medications that ladies have to be careful using if considering pregnancy, and others like dilantin can cause excessive hairiness ,but that is a small price to pay if it works . I believe you would be best to get some guidance from a specialist before changing your medication.
I dont have total control with my medication ,but I know I would be far worse without it .
You say you cant work as you would be a liability sami, did you know that employers cannot discriminate against you by law because of your epilepsy. I know employment is tougher in counntry/rural australia than the city ,but have you considered small part time jobs or maybe providing a service that is needed in your area for example , a dog walking service.
I currently take 6 x 400mg nuerontin , 6 x 200mg tegretol and 4 x100mg dilantin per day I have employment and are grateful for it .
Good luck and try not to let it get to you.