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I registered here because I need some advice and help. This is a horribly frustrating matter and is bothering me greatly.

For one thing I am 19 years old, such things like ed dont happen to people my age (or should). Most of my friends are happily enjoying the height of their sexual ambitions, and here I am. As I get older my sex drive is waning, im 19 and no longer concerned too much with it. My lack of sex drive scares me, I still have days where I am "in the mood" but not often.

Today I attempted once again, I wasnt in the mood and wasnt able to perform, she nor I could do anything, I said I wasnt really in the mood and well... I feel like I am a disgrace to manhood, if I am like this now, how ill I be in 30 years?

I am in pretty good health, im 6'4 185 pounds who gets regular exercise. Medical exceptions good be my unusually low blood preasure or perhaps it does with my blood sugar (i hadnt eaten anything that day and it was midafternoon).

I'm tired, confused, frustrated and mostly scared. I dont know what to do.
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replied October 21st, 2004
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Don't worry about it. Just give yourself some time. It shouldn't be something major, but yeah don't stress about it.
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replied October 21st, 2004
You're so young... I wouldn't stress over it, if I were you. Are you currently experiencing a lot of stress? Don't force your body to do anything that it's not ready to do. Just let everything flow and relax. I don't think you need to be on any medication. Try some natural stuff. A friend of mine tried a dietary supplement called maca, from buymaca.Net (i think). He was taking it because of stress and lack of interest in sex and maca actually worked too well for him and he had to cut down on dosage.

Hope things work out for you.
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replied October 24th, 2004
Im going to try and get some levitra from the doctor.

Its really starting to make me feel pathetic. My current girlfriend agrees, she says she isnt frustrated with me but I think she is.
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replied October 24th, 2004
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You also might want to talk to the doctor about any organic cause of your impotence.

There are a few things that might be giving you trouble. One is prostatitis, which is an infection of the prostate that causes swelling and interferes with erections. It can usually be cured by a course of antibiotics. Another is a urinary tract infection, which can be tested quite easily and treated. Obviously getting to the source of your problem (be it mental or physical or a combination of both) is better than treating a symptom.

You could also have a hormone imbalance, which sounds possible since your sexual drive isn't there (some men who experience organic impotence still have the desire, but not the physical reaction). Talk to your doctor about all your options. It could be a sign of a more serious problem.

Of course in the short term getting the spark and intimacy back into your love life with a little help will put your mind at ease as well, so definitely check out levitra, cialis and viagra.

Take care.
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replied February 20th, 2009
It's happening to me too...
I am 23, in excellent shape, and was once quite the sexual Mustang. For the past two months I have not been able to perform sexually. I have the drive but I just cannot maintain an erection long enough for sex. I'm scared to the doctor and have him describe Levitra to me at such a young age. If I am going to start taking Levitra now I will probably be taking two whole bottles a day by the time I am 30.

Help please!
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replied March 15th, 2009
ME TOO!!
I am starting to realize that it is just the stress that is causing this. Women always say "just relax!" Easy to say if you don't have a penis that needs to be hard to have sex!!!! I cannot get my mind off it, I think all of the blood is in the wrong head! I am trying a blend of herbal suppliments to see if they have any success. Arginine, Valerian, Maca, Ginkgo, and St. Johns Wart. It usually takes a few weeks...so I am going to see the doctor on Monday. I will keep the other stressed guys posted. I hope its just stress!
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replied March 22nd, 2009
I'm having the same problem.
I just can't get hard enough to penetrate and its becoming really frustrating for the both of us.

At first I thought it was just nerves, and my lack of experience, and hoped it would get better. But, we've been trying for over a month now and nothing has changed

I would really like to try cialis or viagra, but I don't want to become dependent on it.
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replied March 23rd, 2009
New Guy...My doctor told me there is not dependancy issues. You should definitely get a physical first though. Everyone is different...I knew I didn't have an issue phsyically. My Blood Pressure was good...and I am in good shape( not to sound like a jerk). I was just really nervous. The girl I am with now is really physically intimidating...beautiful. I had not been with another women in 8 years! I am sure you have read my history on this...you responded to my previous post a week ago. So, I will save you the details again. I saw my doctor... I was very honest about everything. He was awesome about it all, and I feel soooooo much better. I am not thinking about it. I have had sex every day this week...she thinks I am absolutely amazing! I have a hotel room for tomorrow night with a romantic dinner. I know I sound like I am bragging, but the truth is I am getting over the mental side of this...slowly. The less I have to worry about my penis, the better! I keep trying to do nice things for her....make sure she has an orgasm first. Etc. It keeps my mind off myself. I guess guys like us are too sensitive about our partner's needs...so we worry about not meeting their needs. The reality is...BE SELFISH! Good luck...talk with your doctor. I will keep posted here if you need a buddy to chat with. I am much happier this week than I was last week...not just with sex...work and my hobbies are improving. Blumkin
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replied March 24th, 2009
Hi Blumkin, thanks for the reply. So are you taking viagra or cialis? or did you just get past this on your own?

I saw a doctor today. He can say with almost 100% confidence that its not a physical problem.

He recommended that i go a week or 2 without having actual intercourse as the end goal. get her off in other ways and vica versa. This will completely eliminate the chance of "Failure". After a few of these sessions, to try to have sex again.

I told my girlfriend this idea, and she got really upset, thinking that its not going to change anything in the end, but she has agreed to go along with it.

He said if this doesn't work then he can prescribe me a very small amount of viagra just so i can have at least one good session of sex to hopefully get over this mental hump (no pun intended lol)
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replied March 24th, 2009
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New Guy, I am not a doctor...and I do not want to overstep the bounds of this forum medically. However, my problem was the exact same. I tried all kinds of natural remedies: arginine, ginseng, goat weed, etc. The thing with my ED was in my mind. I sat around and thought about it all day. As soon as we started fooling around...I got an erection. But when we went upstairs...I started to think about everything. Went away instantly. Your girl is going to have to be understanding about this...she cannot be upset! This is going to make it harder for you. I told the doctor I had managed to get my hands on Viagra without a perscription, which he was totally understanding about. Some doctors do not like prescribing ED meds for phsychological issues, but my issues are completely gone. My anxiety came from exactly that....performance anxiety. Anxiety is a precursor to depression...so curing the performance anxiety has lifted my head out of the fog! Once again...I am not a doctor, but this is only my experience. I am taking Cialis...which is way better than the Viagra. I take one of those things daily for the time being. I can have sex anytime...all the time. The viagra would wear off after a few hours. I would really try to get this taken care of ASAP...go see another doctor. I worried myself to the point I would not leave the house bc I knew people would ask me what was wrong!

I have no clue why your doctor would be cautious about giving you a sample pack? You cannot become dependant on them, and there is no long term effects. I am going to keep using them as long as I need it. Hopefully I can get over this, but I am definintely not going to take the risk yet. The sex is way too good. Blumkin
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replied May 20th, 2009
I am 24 fit and healthy but have develeped a fear of becoming impotent even though it has not actually happend. when i think of sex with my wife i get hard, when i look at porn i get hard and when i get busy with the wife i get hard and she gets off to but through out the day i think what if next time i dosent work for me, has any one else had anhy thing like this before, any advice to help me get over this would be awssome
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replied October 10th, 2009
im 18 years old ive bin with my g f over a year now we have bin living together since the first month. when we first started having sex it was amazing i could stay hard for hours we would doit like 4 times a day. For the past six months or so we would attempt to have sex and id go soft almost right away or i wouldn't even be able to get fully hard to start. i went threw a short period of time when i would stay harder but would bust a nut almost right away. this is really frustrating 2 both of us and has put strain on our relationship. i love this girl more then anything in the world and i dont want to loose her she means the world to me and more. when i go soft i can tell she gets super upset, mad, frustrated, and she feels its her at times. which its not its me ive went 2 the docters because its gotten me very depressed and concerned about my health my doctors keep telling me its just depression and gave me zoloft. i think it might be prostatitis idk what 2 do this has bin driving me crazy.
Please help
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replied October 22nd, 2009
yeah i have a problem like that also! im 18 and my gf and i have sex at least 3 times a week and we do it more than once when we do it like i usually get soft after but then get hard with in 5 minutes or i stay hard and we do it again. but lately i get soft and cant get hard again until like 20 minutes or more. the other day i almost didnt get hard when we where about to have sex. She is really hot an turns me on but i just cant get hard somtimes now. this never use to happen. does anyone know its wrong???
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replied October 27th, 2009
Hi guys, bit of an embarrasing question for a guy my age, im 25 and have been with my fiance for over 2 year. And i still find her as hot as the day i met her, which is very hot. Trouble is over the last 7-8 month i start to worry about losing my erection during sex and even when we dont have sex. My heart starts beating like mad and alot of the time i try and put sex off and say im tired etc. Only recently i talked to her about it as its starting to impact on our relationship and makes me feel like im half a bloke and makes me depressed. I went to the doctors and had a testosterone level check, and everything is normal. So im convinced its all in my head, but no matter how hard i try i cant stop thinkin about it. Can anyone suggest any techniques or meds to stop my mind wandering to the dreaded thought?
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replied October 28th, 2009
ive bin going threw tis for a while so i dont know. this really sucks because it causes more drama which just makes things worse because i think about it more. she acts like im not worried because i get mad and go in the other room when she gets mad but she dosnt understand how much this kills me. ive bin asking her 2 do those exercises that make girls tighter because it makes sex feel better for both of us but she takes it as im calling her loose even when i explain 2 her. i also eat her out till shes almost there then try 2 get her 2 climax as quick as possible as i sex her. i also have her play with her clit as we have sex all things 2 make it feel better for her
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replied October 28th, 2009
The stress you are feeling can very well be what is causing the drop in your libido.

Anxiety and stress are great ways to reduce your libido... throw in some depression to boot, and VOILA, you have zero interest in sex.

You may want to try some weight training. Squats and bench press work out the muscle groups that produce large amounts of testosterone.

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replied November 2nd, 2009
you sure that will help. i bench everyday and train mma nearly 4 times a week but never thought about workin large muscles. i'll try it out. thanks
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replied November 5th, 2009
the vein of my part are so weak
i am 24 year old, i used to masterbuted a lot in my childhood now i m not able to get hard even for master bution what should i do?
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replied November 28th, 2009
I have no problem getting hard With the Girlfriend or when i turn on some porn. But when im going outside my girl as a quick fling it just wont work iv tryed not getting drunk, having only a shot or two to get my blood going and notting at all & the girls are sexy too but i just cant get it to go up when im with someone else.

Give me a good tip to over come this. Im thinking of just having a back up viagra or something of the nature for the next time.
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