I Need Emotional Support!

Whether she believes greg will be a good father or not the baby needs a dad... Your mom sounds alot like mine.. When she found out about me all she could say that paul is a dead beat dad and blah blah blah even though he is an amazing dad paul like bit her head off and what now? Were living together he has a very good steady job works just for me and baby goes to every single doc appt bought me a new car hes there hes here every day.... I'll seriously talk to your mom if you want me to because I know how it is or she can talk to my mom seriously i'll give u her number or 3 way or email or something your mom needs to wake up to reality... Greg needs to stand up to her thats what I truly believe I mean my mom hated paul for him finally standing up to her since I am so scared of my parents I was just standing there quiet now she respects him and has accepted him. Paul works with mexican guys that are amazing fathers your race should have nothing to do with your ability to become a parent! I'm here for you hun thru thick and thin and trust me I know how it is! Paul will talk to anyone too for you. I'll be your emotional support thru it all. Hopefully since our stories have been sooo similar so far that they will end up the same and your mom will turn around.... My step dad still hates me but medical question him my mom is happy. And paul had me meet my biological father after not seeing him in about 10 years and him and his wife are thrilled.... Life works out in ways you'd never expect... I'm here hun!

Is your mother racist? I don't think she should be critizing him because of his race. Hispanics can provide as much for anyone as anybody else. You really need to talk to her and get her thinking straight, because he is the father of your baby. And if you know he's going to be there for you, don't let him go. It's really important to have babydaddy support if your mother is not there for you, but she should really not judge someone on race.

Im so sick and tired of her s*** the only reason that she is saying that crap is because he is not legal. It doen't matter he makes good money and he supportes himself very well. The only reason im stressing right now is because im 16 and I cant legally move in with him. I cant legally do anything with him! I love my "husband" soooooo much and I am willing to go to mexico with him (not that he suggested it) im just so sick of my mother and I dont know how to tell her that I dont even love her anymore. I know that sounds harsh but I dont even like her, much less love her! Im so frustrated!

Legal as in legal immigrant?

Well good luck with everything sweetie! Your mom does need to realize that you can't support a baby alone or with her. Trust me if she was even thinking about helping you raise the baby she'd change her mind after 2 weeks because she would wake up and realize that she is now supporting a baby as well as you and babies can be expensive. She does sound a little racist about the whole thing, I have met plenty of hispanic men and if its one thing they are good at it is saving their money and working hard for it. I know he would be there for you and the baby and he would support you 100%.

~becca

Yes his is illegal, like an illegal immagrant. He is from mexico.

You call him your husband.....But you both could get into a lot of trouble if he is found out.....Perhaps you should encourage him to start the process to become legal...........And if you consider going to mexico, your life will forever be changed.....And not positivley.......Women in mexico don't share the same liberations as they do here.....You should look into the life of a 16 year old girl living in mexico and then compare it with your own......I've been there......Don't choose that for yourself.

Have you looked into the possibility of marraige with this man? If he is someone you could see yourself with the rest of your life maybe you two should marry, he would become legal then. Although i'm not sure how it works when you are not 18. You'll have to look into it and make sure that your mom cannot stop you legally from marrying him, i'm not 100% sure about it but its possible she can.