Joined: 22 Aug 2003 Posts: 4921 Location: Right here at work!
Baby's Dad Is Selfish Posted: 10-09-03 15:47pm
My sister called me and said that her
babies dad called. His name is daniel...
Only because its her birthday and asked if
he can see her!!! He hasnt seen her in
like 5 months, and never cares too. She
tried making him visit her all the time
but he was always "too busy" and now out
of the blue he says "can I see my
daughter?" she said "ill see" but shes
going to say no. The only other time he
called was on fathers day so he can see
her on his day. She said no to that too.
She says she shouldnt have to jump at his
call when he decides to visit her, he
asked how big is she and if she can talk
yet. And she said "well if you saw her
more often, you would know" and he was
like yeah well...I dont know. Ill call
you later. The baby doesnt even know him.
She only knows jose. He makes me so mad
for leaving her.
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KMartinez
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 04 Sep 2003 Posts: 18
.... Posted: 10-09-03 16:38pm
That stuff makes me so mad. Hes a jerk.
How is your sister and how old is he? Its
great that she a has a sister like you by
her side.
I really hope that id I got pregnant my
boyfriend wouldnt leave me.
It makes me very angry when father do that
and if that were my babies father i'd tell
him to (in caps) go to hell!
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nikki_caro
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 22 Aug 2003 Posts: 4921 Location: Right here at work!
Posted: 10-09-03 17:51pm
Lol, I know. She is 17 and he is 21.
They got together when she was gonna be 16
and him 19 gonna be 20 so then she thought
he was gonna be there. And he wasnt. He
is such a bad person. And he lives 15
minutes away!!!
I cant stand dead beat dads! Especially
ones like him who think they can see a
baby when they want. Not when hes
supposed to.
But my sister is fine. She is doing good
and we all help out like a team! We take
"shifts" hahaha, she has all day and part
night, my mom has the other part of the
night, I have mornings before work and
after work. To hold her and play with
her. And whats funny is the baby hates
men! She clings to jose good but any
other guy, she will cry her head off! I
hope shes like that til she 27!!!!
Hahaha
i hope no other girls get stuck with guys
like that though....
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Mommy_2_b
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Joined: 01 Oct 2003 Posts: 811 Location: Brookfield, N.S.
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Posted: 10-10-03 05:54am
That is so horrible I hate fathers like
that - then again I know a few mothers
like that too that leave everything up to
the fathers. ... I donno some people
just aren't meant to be parents...
~melissa
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Mesmerizeu15
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 11 Aug 2003 Posts: 2729 Location: Pittsburgh,PA
Posted: 10-10-03 09:04am
My boyfriend and I moved from il to pa
together about 3 months ago. He says he
is going back there for thanksgiving
whether me and my son come or not, and it
will be his first thanksgiving...Ugh!! I
doubt that he comes back, because he
hasn't established many friends her yet,
but he has a great and I mean great job.
I am worried, but I am hoping that I will
be strong enough to make it on my own..I
am sure that I will be posting a lot if he
does end up leaving. I guess I should
stop being such a health forum huh, I am
just stressed..When I came here and was
waiting for him to come too follow me and
his son, he cheated on me 4 times..And
once in front of my mother... I dont
trust him but I love him and he is my
everything...But some men like the one you
are talking about are just plan self
centered..Sounds just like my boyfriend,
doesn';t care about anyone but
himself...Ugh!!! Thanks for listening!!
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nikki_caro
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 22 Aug 2003 Posts: 4921 Location: Right here at work!
Posted: 10-10-03 11:11am
Girl if your guy cheats, leave him!!! You
have to! He doesnt care and he takes your
love for granted!!!! I already told jose
if in like 5 years and we have two kids
and he cheats, hes gettin the boot! And I
told him I was gonna pull a lorena bobbit
on him. I call him down there "chorizo
and huevos" and I said the huevos first,
then the chorzio and its all gettin cut
off!!! And he was like fine, if you cheat
im sewing you up!!! Hahaha it was funny,
but I dont take lightly to cheaters. My
dad cheated on my mom like 6 times his
whole life and she kept taking him back,
but then they divorced and they remained
best friends, which is why she keeps
searching for him. A relationship is
nothing without trust.
As for daniel, he never called and my mom
told alma, dont even give him the time of
day to call or even ask to see the baby!
She is way better off without him. But
his best friend gustavo came to her party
at chuck e. Cheese last night and got her
a cute rocking horse that sings! And he
comes by alot to see my sister and the
baby. Daniel doesnt know cuz its his
friend and nobody is going to tell him
either. Its what he gets.
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Mesmerizeu15
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 11 Aug 2003 Posts: 2729 Location: Pittsburgh,PA
Posted: 10-13-03 10:18am
Nikki, thanks for the advice, I am just
not that strong.. I am not strong enough
because I love him with all of my heart,
and I guess you could say that I have a
fear of being alone. Last night he got
mad at me because I wont give him head and
he says our sex life is boring..And we
have sex quite a lot. I wish he could
respect my discission...When I was younger
horrible things like that happened to me,
how can I make him realize?? I love him,
what are ways to make each other happy?
He makes me so mad sometimes, I feel bad I
am talking about this one someone elses
post...
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nikki_caro
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 22 Aug 2003 Posts: 4921 Location: Right here at work!
Posted: 10-13-03 14:54pm
Its ok if you changed the topic on here,
it was my post anyways! Hahaha
you do realize that because hes saying the
sex is boring and hes not happy, hes only
gonna go elsewhere and get it from someone
else. Sorry to say that but he will. And
he already cheated on you. So he might
always do it again. Have you asked him
why does he cheat on you? I know if jose
did that, I would be very upset and I
would end it right away. But I would want
to know why he cheated. Does he remind
you that he loves you and makes sure you
know he wont cheat again? This really
isnt a healthy relationship you are in
right now. Is there other ways that you
can spice up your sex life so that he wont
go get some from another girl. You should
not have to lower your standards in a guy
because you are afraid to be alone. You
shouldnt have to put up with this kind of
treatment. Let him know you have rules
too. If he gets all mad because you wont
give him head and starts tripping then say
fine, you wont get sex either until your
attitude changes. And if he doesnt
understand, ask him "what is it don't you
understand?" and if he yells or cuts you
off...This is what I do: "ok, listen. Im
explaining this to you very clearly and
when im talking you don't interrupt me.
Let me finish what I have to say and I
want feedback so that you do understand
me." im very stern.
How can you say you love him with all your
heart, yet you don't trust him? You don't
need this guy and youd be better off alone
than putting up with all this. He can
either change or there is a better guy out
there for you.
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nikki_caro
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 22 Aug 2003 Posts: 4921 Location: Right here at work!
Posted: 10-13-03 15:13pm
Also letting him cheat, then come back to
you...You are risking std's. Think if hes
that much worth it that one day you can
get infected with some kind of std,
because you cant be alone.
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Mesmerizeu15
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 11 Aug 2003 Posts: 2729 Location: Pittsburgh,PA
Posted: 10-13-03 15:28pm
Humm...What to say, what to say, what to
say....First off, larry cheated on me when
I was pregnant and before I got pregnant
when we were doing the long distance
thing. He cheated on me when me and my
son moved here and was waiting for him
too. I know everyone here, and he knows
nobody. I check his time sheet, I make
sure I know where he is going and what he
is doing...Do you really think he would
medical question around with our baby in
the same room??Or in my house where he has
nobody here?? If we break up he knows he
is getting shipped a thousand miles
away...I do tell him that, and that is
what I stuck to last night, I said fine if
that is how you feel go get it somewhere
else and I went to sleep and he slept on
the couch, I locked the door...I do love
him, and I do trust him to an extent...I
know when he is lieing, and I know when he
is telling the truth, I can trust him when
he says he is going to do something.
These past couple months I have had no
suspessions...I am just keeping him tight
that is all...I can't really explain it, I
guess I was just hoping that you knew
where I was coming from, hope that you
doo..Thank you for your support
sweetie...(and ya know, maybe us fighting
is me, I can be a real health forum!!)
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nikki_caro
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 22 Aug 2003 Posts: 4921 Location: Right here at work!
Posted: 10-13-03 15:38pm
Oh I do know what you are going through,
but id rather not have to be checking his
time sheets and giving him the third
degree and everything. One time jose was
working and he had lunch with a girl
because they were at lunch at the same
time and she asked for him to sit with her
(and I do not trust the girls he did work
with) so he never told me, only my mom and
sister and they told me so I got it out of
him because he doesnt lie, and if he does
lie...He tells me thenext day(he is a
dork) and I got so mad at him, I yelled at
him and everything and I said he was going
back to arizona and everything. And we
talked it over and hes fine. So now he
works at a ranch with horses and there are
no girls there. Good thing. I told him
he can have lunch with a horse! Haha he
cheated on you 1..2..3 times? And you
took him back? Wow thats alot. I wouldnt
do it, but if you fine with that, then
good for you. I could not be able to
picture jose screwing another girl and
then taking him back. Thats just not
happening for me. But good luck. Hope
everything works out.
