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Have you discussed your feelings with him? Have you told him any of this? What was he like in the past (with other girls)? If you have discussed it what does he say?

He says sex is overrated that hes done it some many times its nothing special.I know im good in bed, that im not a waste of time or anything like that{ dont take that wrong im not conceided } but it makes me feel horrible about myself.... Especially my body and the way I look, I have no self confidence. It leaves me feeling unwanted. I just dont know what goes through a 21 yr olds head on why he doesnt want to have sex. I could seriously have sex 5 times a day. I feel im in a sexual peak and need to be fullfilled. Id never cheat on him though. I just need some understanding! Weve talked about it .... Quite often and he seems to just brush it off. I just dont understand

Hes gay

Well I have to agree with you. This is abnormal for a guy his age. Sex is not at all over-rated if with the right person. Even if he is very sexually experienced and has done everything sexually at his age, he should be around a peak and since the sex is new with you, it should be something he looks forward to unless there is some underlying reason. Ask him point-blank if he is even attracted to you. He may be attracted and just not want sex. If he is not attracted he needs to find someone else. There also might be some sort of medical problem with him or perhaps some underlying reason he hasn't told you (i.E. Bad past experience, std, etc.).

I realize sex isn't everything in a relationship. You should be with someone you care about because if you are in it for the sex it will never workout. But..............If the way he handles this problem and communicates with you makes you feel unwanted and it effects the relationship and he will do nothing about it, you need to find someone else because it will never last.




Sit him down (again), and explain how it makes you feel unwanted, unattractive, etc. I have never heard of any male that age thinking that sex is over-rated. Ask him if you attract him. Tell him how much this bothers you and that you have needs too. I am not saying break up if he doesn't want sex (that is your choice), but if he seems uncaring of your feelings and unwilling to find a solution to an abnormal problem, you need to look elsewhere. Good luck, let me know if I can be of further help!!

Or dump him and go get laid by someone else- but you probably wont get to my suggestion after doctor ruths answer above----

He says he is attracted to me, but at the same time I use to be anorexic. He didnt comprehend it was a disease I had. Now I am better and well.. Weigh more I am 5 foot 3 and 125 lbs im am by no means fat but he does make rude comments like how I used to be skinny and sexy, so I get the point he likes a supermodel thin type but I wasnt happy with myself then, im not now either but I feel healthy. Explaining this is difficult. So I wonder if its a physical matter. I dont have "rolls" , but im not a perfect six pack... Hard body.But im not fat,i have struggled everyday for the past couple years not to starve myself. I have thought about him being gay, but I dont see that at all. Does this problem lie in me or him? Please help

Medicaly there isnt anything wrong with either of us, and weve been together for 3 years.When there is intimacy hes good. He pays attention to all the right areas and doesnt seem to be turned off .
Thanks again

Ypu if he is abusing you verbally and mentally the its your fault for hanging around and taking it-its also his for being a dip caca-i think hes not gay he just doesnt want to do you any more---its always hard to let go of someone thats paying part of the bills---there is everyone happy a serious answer from your new leader

Weve talked about breaking up and he doesnt want to. Hes not a sensitive guy so im sure hes not trying to keep me around for the hell of it. Also he works 14 hrs a day 6 days a week, could this be a factor?I know what your thinking..[ are you sure hes working ] im positive. We work for the same company. Any ways I dont think its a personal issue with myself such asa, him not wanting to do me. I am pretty sure there are some underlying issues. Does anyone deal with this also or going through the same thing...... What would be in your head? Is it a pregnancy issue ?
Thx

Maybe your problem is you dont listen ----i gave you your answer in my last response-=

Hey come on now sometimes it isn't so easy just to dump someone you care about just to go get laid the next day. All I am saying is that if he doesn't seem like he his putting forth real effort to work this out, he isn't serious about a future with you. This is an abnormal problem. But yea, working that much can definitely have an impact but it seems if it were he would tell you he was too tired for sex and not say it is over-rated. Fyi......5'3" 125 lbs is good. No worries. Most guys I know (including myself) like a girl who isn't skin and bones. We like some curves and a healthy looking girl!

Thanks south!! And trap, even though trap your kinda mean. Im sensitive! So you have to be nice! But thanks a bunch!!

Blunt is not mean-

No problem! Lemme know if ya need anymore help! Good luck

Oh boy, the start of the same old story. Been there, done that. Sex/lovemaking is a physical/emotional attraction between two. Complacency has much to say about why couples lose interest in each other. Don't let this happen to you. Not that sex was my issue, but my complacency in my marriage led to its end after 18 years.

Seems like your boyfriend has settled in to a groove that shouldn't be this way for your age group, and I highly doubt he is that experienced to begin with.

Seduction/passion/romance for a woman, will always help in the department of lifting the mood for sex. However, for men, it's different. Wham! Bam! Though I must say, now at 41, I live for the passion and romance as it builds the intensity of the things to come.

I don't really know how much to tell you about this, but you need to discuss your feelings with your boyfriend. Tell him to get off his lazy butt and understand that you have needs as well, that the three pump method only works for that quickie during lunch breaks. Teach him what pleases you. Perhaps that will make him more interested. Communicate - very important. Don't give in to this - make him listen and acknowledge what you have to say. You are just as important here as he is.

I could write a book about this to you, but the sox/yanks game 7 is coming on shortly. If you want to hear more, let me know.

Ok I know this was way wrong....But me and one of our good friends were talking and he mentioned sex. I just couldnt help myself, all he kept saying was if this and that etc. Well we got on the subject of my sex life and I told him it was almost nonexistent. For the past couple days hes been cracking jokes at my bf! I love this, maybe itll put something in his head he is realling missin out! His friend tells him everyday that hed take me from him in a heartbeat, that he needs to be more "fulfilling" some im getting a good kick outta this, ill keep ya posted! Just wish for me to get some soon!!!