Right Time For Pregnancy/baby? Posted: 10-19-04 17:48pm
So....Here's my situation. I am currently
a college senior, graduating in may. I'm
21 almost 22 years old and in good health.
I have been married for almost 2 years
and have been with my husband for 7. We
are very happy together. Financially, we
are doing okay. We have student loans,
but no credit card debt, a decent
apartment, and some savings.
So to get to the point...I have been
having baby fever for the last several
months. I love children, have spent a lot
lot of time with them, and I really want
to start considering getting pregnant. My
husband is 3 years older than me and wants
children soon as well. I am trying to
think about this logically, and I keep
telling myself that it's not right yet.
We've been planning for me to go off the
pill when my husband graduate college in
october. But I can't help but get
incredible pangs! It seems so far away.
I even got a kitten to try and get rid of
some of this and it hasn't helped. I want
a baby. I am psychologically healthy,
don't have any love issues or anything
like that, so it's not like I just want a
baby so that i'll have someone to love or
something. I can't explain it. I just
really want a child. I want to be a
mother, I want to see my husband and I
create a new life together....I want to
take care of a child, I want it all.
How do you know when it's right? Is there
any "good" time to have a baby? Advice?
Is there anything you wish you'd done
differently? Any things I should just
focus on now to make the pregnancy and
motherhood easier later? Any thoughts at
all? :d thanks in advance,
jessyka
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jessamyn
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Posted: 10-19-04 19:56pm
First I was going to say no no no to you
because I kept seeing you want a baby baby
baby then I saw child and mother... As
long as you know you and your husband are
in it for the long run and are emotionally
set to become "parents" then I say do it
girl i'm 5 months pregnant and workign and
all that so school shouldnt get in the way
for now... Your ready your commited...
Goodluck!
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pitterpatter
Active User, Really EHEALTHy
Joined: 15 Aug 2004 Posts: 619 Location: United States
Posted: 10-19-04 23:47pm
First off let me tell you I understand how
you feel. Before my husband and I
started trying we had to talk a lot about
it. I am going to be a teacher and even
though I can sub, if I got pregnant
chances are I wouldn't want a full time
job and I wouldn't be able to get one for
awhile. If you talk to your husband and
he's cool with everything and you've made
a plan for what you will do than you
should be fine. To be honest though a
lot of people say to wait. However, I
wanted to be a younger mom and I wasn't
going to wait till I was 30 and birth
defects jumped. With that said I say go
for it. Besides, if you waited till it
was a typical person's idea of a "good
time" you'd be retired and old! Do what
makes you happy and just make sure you
have a plan for your future. Make sure
you will be able to spend the time a child
needs with it's mother and father. If
you can make sure your child won't be the
one that comes into my class acting up
because of attention issues than go for
it!
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Dancinchick0587
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 17 Oct 2004 Posts: 211 Location: Blaine, Mn
Posted: 10-20-04 00:07am
Go for it! If it feels right and your
husband whats this 2. You have everything
in order I would say go for it. Start
taking prenatal pills before you get
pregnant. Even if you do start trying
now, its not for sure that you will get
pregnant right away. It might take
months. Good luck ill wish you some baby
dust!
-kindra
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Dancinchick0587
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 17 Oct 2004 Posts: 211 Location: Blaine, Mn
Posted: 10-20-04 01:06am
One more thing, if you think your ready
and everything. Before buy this book
called what to expect when your
expecting its a amazing book and goes
into detail about everything. Also gives
you advice on what you can do 2 prepare
your self for your pregnancy 2 come.
Good luck again!
