I have been with my boyfriend just over 2
years. We have had our ups and downs but
are really in love with each other but
this is now the 2nd major break up for us
and he has said that he can't see things
changing. (arguing) he said that he still
loves me and is attreacted to me, but
still he stuck to his guns and left rather
upset.
I then recieved a text that evening saying
that he was so sorry the way things worked
out, I replied with a lovely text but with
exceptance of it being over.
I have since spoken to a friend of his who
says that he was in two minds when he said
and is not sure he has done the right
thing. His advice to me was to leave it
for about 3-4 days as calling so near to
the day it finished might not give him
time to miss me. He also said that seeing
as we both know him, that I should run
once again as he is really suborn. This
is hard for me as I am not 100% sure that
he will want me back and as far as he is
concerned he has ended it. Does anyone
have any advice, it would be much
appreciated. Thanks
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PattyV
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 01 May 2004 Posts: 1103 Location: Chicago area
Posted: 10-20-04 11:40am
See what happens over the next few days.If
you both feel that things can be worked
out, give it a go.If not, just know that
you both tried to work it out.If you both
cannot come to some type of resolution
that will please both of you without major
compromise on either part.Then,you need to
do what is right for all of you.I am
assuming that you have children by your
username.It is not healthy to raise
children in an environment of conflict and
they remember more than you may think.My
stepson was 4 when his parents divorced
and all he remembers is them fighting.He
is now 15 and this is his only memory of
his parents being together.So,do what is
best for your children as well as the two
fo you.Good luck.Patty
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single mum
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 19 Oct 2004 Posts: 8 Location: england
What to Do? Posted: 10-20-04 17:07pm
Thank you pattyv for you message.
Actually my daughter is not his daughter,
but you are right, we shouldn't be
argueing around her which has happened
before.
He came over 5 days ago as I needed
closure. He said he can't see things
changing, but he loves me and is still in
love with me. Would someone just say that
to let them down gentley.
I am so confused and don't know how to
feel.
He never said the words, "i don't want to
be with you" only he can't see things
changing and that we shouldn't have to
change. I said compomising.
He has since, lost his uncle to cancer and
I sent him and his aunt a sympathy card to
his house which was hand delivered.
I also spoke to him today on msn messenger
and asked him how he was, he said not to
bad how was i? My reply was felt better
and he said he had felt better too. I
thought for a minute he may have been
missing me, but then he sent a message to
say he had to go as he needed to speak to
his mum as his uncle had died (which was
two days ago)
is it over?
