Not Dealing With Pregnancy..but Sex.. Posted: 10-18-04 17:10pm
I have a problem, and I know other girls
have posted about it...But can anyone help
me?
One, my boyfriend doesn't last more than
thirty seconds during sex...Sometimes he
can fo for about a minute...And I know he
can do something about it! There was a
time when he went for about five minutes
and I was so happy, even for the little
five! And so for him not to try to
please me...It upsets me....Bc I do
everything for him...He doesn't have ask
for anything in bed, and he knows he will
get it...When i'm on my period he gets
"pleasured" every day, sometimes
twice...Bc I love him and want to make him
happy...And during this time he always
talks about how he is going to return the
favor when i'm off my period...And
then......Nothing. And then he will be
like, let's have a quickie this time and
then we will have a round two...Which we
have never had but I am always up
for...And then he says he is too
tired....So I am so lost. I feel like
crying bc it seems like I haven't even
touched the sexual experience that I
should be enjoying....He is the only
person I have ever been with and we've
been having sex for four months...And I
just feel like a toy to play with when he
needs his...And he has started to manually
touch me....He won't do orally, even
though I do, and this was something I
refused before him....But I never get off
this way...And when he touches my "clit"
it is too sensitive...It feels good but
tickles too, and I make him stop bc I
don't know whether to moan or laugh...Lol
do I ever have a chance have being pleased
sexually? What do I do????
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PosrscheLvr
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 05 Oct 2004 Posts: 304 Location: Plano, Texas
Posted: 10-18-04 17:24pm
First off I will say I think it's crap
that he gets head twice a day sometimes
and won't return the favor, that is just
crap~ also he should care about your
pleasure as much as you seem to care about
his. From what you make it sound like he
is just interested in himself. Say no and
stand up for yourself girlie, you have a
right to get off as much as he does.
There are things that can make him last
longer in bed. There is cream that
desensitizes him so that he cant climax as
fast, there are also extended pleasure
condoms that also have the same cream as I
meantioned above. Also there are
techniques to try to make him gain more
stamina. You can start having sex and as
soon as he feels like he is going to go,
slow him down and take a break, continue
everytime he gets excited. Also different
positions feel differnt, maybe try a
position with a more shallow entry for
less sensation for him. If you really
want to try with this guy
stop!!!!!
Giving in to him getting all the pleasure
and you getting none of it is crap. If he
keeps up that he doesn't care about you,
break up with his ass. You deserve to get
yours to girlie, good luck.
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Heathergirl
Active User, Really EHEALTHy
Joined: 11 Oct 2004 Posts: 719 Location: Michigan
Thank You... Posted: 10-18-04 18:07pm
Thank you!
Thank you for your advice...I have asked
him to stop before he comes...And he is
always like...We'll do that next
time...We'll have a round two...And then
he says, i'm tired. It's sore...Blah
blah blah. And one time I litterally
started crying bc I felt so....Just not
loved. Lol. And he felt like an ass,
but things haven't changed...He does do
more of the manual stuff...When we first
started having sex I would not be wet at
all bc he would not touch me down
there...But I would spend a lot of time on
him before we would have sex. So we
talked about it the other day when I
started crying after sex...I had had four
months of bad sex and was just
frustrated...And after all the talk of
'when you get off your period' I was
expecting something amazing....And it just
didn't happen that way.
Also...About the whole clit thing....Is
that normal? To have it tickle? Don't
know if it is tickle or just a weird fee
I would just cut him off until he gives
you the pleasure you deserve talk to him
about your feelings. My boyfriend tries
to pull stunts like this sometimes, he
will last for about a minute or two
(granted somehow he always gets me off
first) then he'll apologize and say oh
we'll go again in a minute then he says
he's too tired to go again I always give
him oral pleasure before sex and sometimes
he returns the favor sometimes he doesn't.
Have you talked to your man about how
you feel or try to hint to him that you
want oral sex too. Next time you give
him oral when you are done say now its
your turn and see what happens.
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Heathergirl
Active User, Really EHEALTHy
Joined: 11 Oct 2004 Posts: 719 Location: Michigan
Posted: 10-18-04 20:38pm
I have talked to him about the oral
situation...And he said that it weirds him
out...Which made me feel really nasty, bc
I was like...caca...Do I smell or
something! And he made a comment about
not smelling like roses (girls in general)
and it made me feel really
uncomfortable...And he was the first
person I had ever gone down on myself...I
don't know. I have talked to him a few
times...At first I would just get pissssed
and not talk to him..And now I just hint
around to like...I wish you would have
lasted alittle longer....Perhaps we can
get condoms that have climax
control....You know I have never gotten
off...Things like that....So I feel like I
am beating a dead horse....
Thanks girls, for your advice. I'll try
something different next time...I'm just
not sure what.... : d
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lilmsnick
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 06 Oct 2004 Posts: 30 Location: Miami
Posted: 10-18-04 20:52pm
Try doing 69 I never liked the idea about
giving my boo head but one day when he was
doing me he said sit on my face so I was
like what the heck does that mean and he
explained so I did and before I knew it I
was giving him head and it was not
uncomfortable then I tried to do it by my
self and I just couldnt stomach it but I
eventually came around
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Heathergirl
Active User, Really EHEALTHy
Joined: 11 Oct 2004 Posts: 719 Location: Michigan
Posted: 10-18-04 21:10pm
Yea, at first I was really weirded
out...And when we first got together I was
like...I don't give head......And then I
wanted to suprise him and so I did it
once, and i've been doing it ever
since....It doesn't bother me now bc I
know he enjoys it...... : d
