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Q: Not Dealing With Pregnancy..but Sex..

asked by: Heathergirl on October 18th, 2004

Active User, very eHealthy

I have a problem, and I know other girls have posted about it...But can anyone help me?

One, my boyfriend doesn't last more than thirty seconds during sex...Sometimes he can fo for about a minute...And I know he can do something about it! There was a time when he went for about five minutes and I was so happy, even for the little five! And so for him not to try to please me...It upsets me....Bc I do everything for him...He doesn't have ask for anything in bed, and he knows he will get it...When i'm on my period he gets "pleasured" every day, sometimes twice...Bc I love him and want to make him happy...And during this time he always talks about how he is going to return the favor when i'm off my period...And then......Nothing. And then he will be like, let's have a quickie this time and then we will have a round two...Which we have never had but I am always up for...And then he says he is too tired....So I am so lost. I feel like crying bc it seems like I haven't even touched the sexual experience that I should be enjoying....He is the only person I have ever been with and we've been having sex for four months...And I just feel like a toy to play with when he needs his...And he has started to manually touch me....He won't do orally, even though I do, and this was something I refused before him....But I never get off this way...And when he touches my "clit" it is too sensitive...It feels good but tickles too, and I make him stop bc I don't know whether to moan or laugh...Lol

do I ever have a chance have being pleased sexually? What do I do????

Replies(6)

PosrscheLvr

replied on October 18th, 2004

Experienced User

First off I will say I think it's crap that he gets head twice a day sometimes and won't return the favor, that is just crap~ also he should care about your pleasure as much as you seem to care about his. From what you make it sound like he is just interested in himself. Say no and stand up for yourself girlie, you have a right to get off as much as he does. There are things that can make him last longer in bed. There is cream that desensitizes him so that he cant climax as fast, there are also extended pleasure condoms that also have the same cream as I meantioned above. Also there are techniques to try to make him gain more stamina. You can start having sex and as soon as he feels like he is going to go, slow him down and take a break, continue everytime he gets excited. Also different positions feel differnt, maybe try a position with a more shallow entry for less sensation for him. If you really want to try with this guy
stop!!!!!

Giving in to him getting all the pleasure and you getting none of it is crap. If he keeps up that he doesn't care about you, break up with his ass. You deserve to get yours to girlie, good luck.

Heathergirl

replied on October 18th, 2004

Active User, very eHealthy

Thank You...

Thank you!

Thank you for your advice...I have asked him to stop before he comes...And he is always like...We'll do that next time...We'll have a round two...And then he says, i'm tired. It's sore...Blah blah blah. And one time I litterally started crying bc I felt so....Just not loved. Lol. And he felt like an ass, but things haven't changed...He does do more of the manual stuff...When we first started having sex I would not be wet at all bc he would not touch me down there...But I would spend a lot of time on him before we would have sex. So we talked about it the other day when I started crying after sex...I had had four months of bad sex and was just frustrated...And after all the talk of 'when you get off your period' I was expecting something amazing....And it just didn't happen that way.

Also...About the whole clit thing....Is that normal? To have it tickle? Don't know if it is tickle or just a weird fee

thanks so much! I appreciate it sooooooooo much!

babyluvwu

replied on October 18th, 2004

Experienced User

I would just cut him off until he gives you the pleasure you deserve talk to him about your feelings. My boyfriend tries to pull stunts like this sometimes, he will last for about a minute or two (granted somehow he always gets me off first) then he'll apologize and say oh we'll go again in a minute then he says he's too tired to go again I always give him oral pleasure before sex and sometimes he returns the favor sometimes he doesn't. Have you talked to your man about how you feel or try to hint to him that you want oral sex too. Next time you give him oral when you are done say now its your turn and see what happens.

Heathergirl

replied on October 18th, 2004

Active User, very eHealthy

I have talked to him about the oral situation...And he said that it weirds him out...Which made me feel really nasty, bc I was like...caca...Do I smell or something! And he made a comment about not smelling like roses (girls in general) and it made me feel really uncomfortable...And he was the first person I had ever gone down on myself...I don't know. I have talked to him a few times...At first I would just get pissssed and not talk to him..And now I just hint around to like...I wish you would have lasted alittle longer....Perhaps we can get condoms that have climax control....You know I have never gotten off...Things like that....So I feel like I am beating a dead horse....

Thanks girls, for your advice. I'll try something different next time...I'm just not sure what.... : d

lilmsnick

replied on October 18th, 2004

New User

Try doing 69 I never liked the idea about giving my boo head but one day when he was doing me he said sit on my face so I was like what the heck does that mean and he explained so I did and before I knew it I was giving him head and it was not uncomfortable then I tried to do it by my self and I just couldnt stomach it but I eventually came around

Heathergirl

replied on October 18th, 2004

Active User, very eHealthy

Yea, at first I was really weirded out...And when we first got together I was like...I don't give head......And then I wanted to suprise him and so I did it once, and i've been doing it ever since....It doesn't bother me now bc I know he enjoys it...... : d

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