I'm a 41 year old male, divorced for one year, haven't had sex in 18 months. After dating a dozen different women I finally have found one that I am connecting with rather well.

The fortunate part of this is that she is very sexual, a 36 year old whose main source of pleasing her man is through sex. We have tried to have intercourse twice but neither time have I been able to reach a climax.

I can masturbate and achieve orgasm and have also done so from oral sex with her. I realize that my hand has become my best friend in the last 18 months and wonder if the conditioning there has something to do with it. Don't misunderstand - I love being with this woman and want to do what I can to be able to ejaculate inside her.

She sees this as a possible main issue, as sex is huge for her. I have other stressful situations that compound the situation, as always worrying about my children at home while i'm with her (but they are older and capable of fending for themselves.)

i don't want to be alone, and I surely want to be with this woman. She makes me feel like I want to feel, emotionally and physically.

I've read so much on the topic and wonder about input here.