Maybe you are just nervous? Is she a virgin? If she isn't perhaps you are just nervous and think she has certain expectations. Nerves can greatly impact a guy's ability to stay hard. Just relax and enjoy the moment with her. Don't focus on this, you don't know there is a problem yet. After all, it is not as if you are unable to get hard ever. If it keeps occurring over and over then there could be a potential problem

No no I get hard all the time. I get hard in my sleep for god sakes.Its not like I need viagra or something.Its just very confusing. Shes is not a virgin.She was with one guy for 5 years. It must be nerves and how much I built up this moment to be.What do you think? Thanks ja

Yea well considering you can get hard at all other times it sounds like it is a nerve problem. After all, I bet it can be intimidating to have your first time with a girl who is relatively experienced. Don't focus on this though. It should be a special thing for just you and her because you care about each other. Just relax, take a deep breath and focus on the moment and nothing else. Be patient and just relax, with practice you'll be fine. Good luck, take care

Talking is helping and your advice is helping. It must be because I havent done it yet.I feel like I will be fine after the first time. See just before I tried to actually get inside we were dry humping each other with just our underware on and I was hard as a rock and felt like I was close to climax.Also both times I tried to enter her I had already had a orgasm through other acts with her that same night.Could that have something to do with it? Thanks again for the help and information. Japanese people sorry to get so graffic its a very diffacult to explain without it.

Well if you already orgasmed then you will definitely not stay hard afterwards. I mean we generally lose our erections very soon after we 'finish'. I think that because it is new to you and you are not used to it you may orgasm early. Just use protection. Don't worry practice makes perfect. It will get better. It might help you to take the dry humping and previous acts a bit slower that way you can last while longer while you are inside her. And don't worry about being graphic thats what these forums are for... Advice. Best of luck and let me know if I can be of anymore help!

I wouldnt worry too much.. The same thing happened to my best friend's boyfriend. He would put on the condom and right when they went to do it, he'd lose his erection.. Its most definitely nerves, your just scared. Wait until your more comfortable with her.

Goodluck!

Let her get on you-maybe you are afraid you wont do it right let her take the drivers seat

Just awesome advice guys I appreciate it very much. I kinda thought there wasn't something wrong because I am hard all the time.The thing that scared me was she kinda got upset last time because she thought I wasn't attracted to her but I made sure she understood that was not the case.We are just fine now. I also mentioned to her about her getting on top and she thought it was a great idea.I think we will try that. She is not a virgin but she does know that I am. I am a very honest person and had to tell her.It wouldn't be fair not to tell her that information.So thanks again for the information and advice.Anymore things to tell me just let it fly I can use all the advice I can get. Thank you ja

At the same time though, getting on top might make it worse because you can't go at your own pace. You can slow down if you need to when you are in control to last longer. Just at thought, but whatever works for you. Again, I think just practice and be comfortable with yourself and her before you experiment with different positions.

You have been an enormous help and I appreciate it very much.I will take all the advice everyone has given me. I wonder though if you think its strange that a 28 year old male is a virgin? She thought it was but she also thought it was cute.I'm not religous or anything.I just havent done it up till now.Hopefully soon I will get over or figure out this problem.Thanks again ja

Nothing wrong with that is it because you are ugly?

No i'm not ugly.I've been told by many that I am very good looking.I keep in shape and I eat right.Its not about being ugly.Its about being shy. Ja

Meh.. Props to you.. Most guys are all about getting in chick's pants.

I think its sweet that a guy waits to have sex , not many are virgins ,i sum time wish I was a virgin I love mine at 14 and im 17 now and dont get me wronge I love sex but I dont feel n e thing with the guy I am sleeping w/ now ????