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Q: Is the Spark Dying?
asked by: firefly02 on October 16th, 2004
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I started dathing this guy like over three months ago, and we have already said the "i love you" and he's the one to have said it first, but things seemed so awesome at the start, we do have long distance relationship but we usually get to see one another quiet often, with the exception of few spans here and there, but at the beginning I remember we use to go to sleep he always had to have his arm around me, and was always telling me how much he missed me and that stuff, but now its so rare, part of me is bit worried that the long distance relationship might be getting to him or something, but part of me just thinks it might be the whole comfortable factor, that now he just feels he doesn't have to try as much...What do you think? Bad sign or just comfortable around me now? Thanks a bunch
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bellax0x
replied on October 16th, 2004
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Could be either, try talking to him about it

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gaby
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Daile
replied on October 18th, 2004
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I know how you feel. Me and my boyfriend have been together for four months now, and the same thing is happening. We used to be close to each other, and always touching and stuff, but now we're doing the long distance thing, and it isn't the same when we're together anymore. I asked him about it the other day, like why he wouldn't hold my hand anymore and stuff like that, and he said he didn't want to embarrass me. Apparently one of his smarta s s friends said they didn't believe he could get a girlfriend, and now he thinks he isn't good enough for me!! It's sooooo frustrating, because nothing I say helps!! Does anyone have any ideas on how to make him believe me? I really love this guy, and I want him to be comfortable with me. Please help!

Daile
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domini
replied on October 20th, 2004
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Hi,
first of all it isnt anything you are doing wrong. What his friend has said about him not being able to get a girlfriend has really upset him and probably feels a bit low in himself. What you need to do is build up the confidence in him. Even though you probably do make him feel special just try by being a bit more affectionate.
What you also need to make him realize is that mroe than likely this other person is jealous that he has a girlfriend and is trying to knock his confidence so they can feel better themselves. Dont worry about because if you truely love him things will be ok and you will get through the problem.
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bellax0x
replied on October 20th, 2004
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Very good advice domini!

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gaby
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