i think you need to talk to your parents. if your unable to for some reason maybe a school guidance person, or an adult relative you are close to. i know that telling your parents might be scarey but even if they get angry it doesnt meant they dont love you . i hope you get through this ok. if you need someone to talk to answer back and ill give you my email address. take care

I really dont know what to do if i tell my parents hell go to jail and i dont want that 9on my head its not all his fault i knew what sex was and was willing to have it.... but what about the kid i dont want to get an abortion plz help me

I am sorry honey but you should have never had sex with a fourteen year old. He will not be there trust me...he is 19 and you are 14. He will abandon you. I know I have seen it with alot of my friends. Having sex with you was immature on his part.

Yes, i know it was but hes startin to fall in love with me its all just so complicated i shouldve never ahd sex without thinkin about the reprocusions but i just got caught up in the moment a moment that i will be regrettin and dealin with foreve if i keep it or not.... so do u think i should just let him go??? and do it on my own??

How long have know this guy? 9 out of 10 he is saying he is falling in love with you to keep his ass out of trouble.

ive knowon him for 11 years hes my best freinds couzin we didnt mean for us to get together we just were talkin to catch up then we talked more then we met a couple times then bada bing bada boom im here... he says hed rather me keep it but he said he realizes that i have a lot more to give up than he sein hes already 18 i have all my teen years so he said its up 2 me and supports my decision but i dont know if he says that cause he feels that he hasto i dont needfor him to hold my hand i need him to be a man!!! and step up to what he sdone i hope he grows up in time cause he needs to and he has a very short temper and thats not good for ne one so i dunno i just need help cause hes not ne help
Too Young For This

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I NOTICED THAT YOU HAVE BEEN ANSWERING ALOT OF THESE GIRLS COMMENTS..... AND YOU SEEM TO BE DOING A PRETTY GOOD JOB..... YET ..... I WAS WONDERING HOW OLD ARE YOU AND DO YOU HAVE ANY BACK-UP TO SAY YOU KNOW WHAT YOU ARE TALKING ABOUT..... OR IS IT ALL FROM YOUR PAST EXERIENCE??

I am 19 years old for your curosity and I have been through some experience. I have been through experience with myself, friends, and my mom. I know alot more then some people think. I don't know as much as my mom but the difference between my mom and me is that I listen instead of judge. My advice is what I would do not what they should do. Ultimately the decision is up to them and if you read everything I have wrote then you will realize what position I was in recently.

Honey, I am so sorry you are going through this. And although you think you were willing because you knew what sex was, your really too young to make an intelligent, well informed decision on this and he knew it.

It is called statutory rape, and yes, you should tell your parents and what happens happens. Not only are you left with a "child" to take care of all on your own, he goes off and probably has sex with another young girl (child really, sorry) and gets away with this again. I know you think your parents will be angry and so be it, if they love you when they really think about this, they will realize that HE was the more responsible party he was 18 and you are underage. HE SHOULD BE LOCKED UP. Made responsible so it DOESN"T HAPPEN AGAIN. So sorry you got caught in that situation. I will pray for you and hope that you have a good life. take care sweety.

I agree....you have to wonder about a 19 year old who is on the same wavelength mentally as you, no matter how mature you are. I was 14 when I lost my virginity, and the thing I learned was that nothing is more important than you. You need to do what you feel is right, and whether you realize it or not, your parents are the ones that are gonna be there for you no matter what. They have 14 years invested, they won't give up now. This guy, if it's meant to be, will be with you in the end. As someone once told me, everything works out in the end, and if it doesn't, it's not the end yet.

Oh my,this happens all the time in this town.Those older guys sure to like to play with the young girls.I wish I could tell you its all going to workout,but it usually gets tougher.If you keep the baby,your life will be very difficult,the rewards will be there but you will be too exhausted to see them and enjoy them.As for the 19 year old,as soon as he can be sure his butt isnt going to jail he will be austa-le-byebye.What he did was so very wrong.You should definitely tell your parents,you pretty much have little choice,and it will be hard but getting up the nerve will actually be the hardest part.If my daughter who is 15 came to me with your situation,I would be shocked and hurt and then when the tears were over I would do everything I could to help her make a wise decision that would be in the best interest of her and my grandchild.You are so young ,but the fact that you already show concern for your childs welfare shows that things look brighter already.I sure wish you the best!!!

hon, i am sorry to hear about your situation, but at least you are aware of your mistakes. i know it is easy for all of us here to say, but you do have to tell your parents...they are going to find out you are pregnant sooner or later...and believe you me, something like this will be hard to hide from your mom. you have all the pressure on you...and that is unfair. he knew what he was getting himself into...he knew how old you are, and now it is time he starts to feel a fraction of the pressure you are experiencing. just remember, it takes 2 people....and although you are much younger HE needs to take responsibility for his actions - knowing he got someone 5 years younger than him pregnant....and legally, he was not allowed to have sex with you. be strong, and start to share the pressure...don't you carry it all on your own shoulders. do you have an onlder sister/brother/cousin that you can tell? maybe they can be there when you tell your parents for support? or, if this dude is serious about you and his actions, make sure he is there when you tell your parents....don't go through the agony alone.

good luck

Hello, I really think you should look at what does he have to offer? Does he have a job can he provide a home for you and your baby? Is he reponsible enough to take care of you while you take care of the baby and go to school. I really think that you need to over look all those things and decide with your parents what would be best for you and your baby. I really don't recommend abortion. You seem to be smart enough to know how to have sex then you are smart enough to know what can happen when you have sex! I really think you should go and talk to his parents and your together and hopefully you will come to a conclusion. But don't wait anylonger so that you can get the proper care needed to have a healthy baby.

hey girl i'm 16 and i'm 5 monts pregnant by this guy that is 19. My rents found out we were seeing each other and freaked out but he was still 18 then so they got to know him and now him and my dad go fishing all the time...Well to much they are really close now. But when we told them I was having a baby my mom wouldn't talk to me but my dad he was okay with it. My sister had a baby and got married when she was 17, and her husband beat he when she was pregnant. But see my dad and chris started talking one day and they are like best friends now and my momma wont accept the fact that i'm having his babybecause he's 3 years older than me she wants me to get an abortion. And I refuse. I dont at home now. We have our own home and we are living a good life now.We both have real good job's too. My dad and his mom and dad come and see us everyday. So what i'm trying to say is...Maybe if you talk to you parents or maybe even him you all could work something out.

Does he want u to keep the baby?

Hey girl, I know what you are going through. I am 17 and my boyfriend got me pregnant and I am three months along (12 weeks) so far. I have the solution for you. If you do not believe abortion is the right thing to do, then don't go thru with it. If you decide to keep this child and he really loves you like he says he does, he will be there for you. Otherwise, you will have your family to support you and a beautiful child to care for and he will be stuck paying for child support.

I uinderstand you are scared, but do you really think your parents would put your baby's father in jail? My b/f is 19 and I am 17, we have been dating since I was 16. And he is sticking around and takinmg responsibility. If he takes responsibility and really cares, he's a real man. And you are lucky. I can also say abortion, hurts you emotionally, not just physically. Good luck and god bless.

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sami