I guess you could try convincing here, but thats about it....Sometmes you just have to play things out.

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I definitely know what that's like. My mum is white and my dad is asian, and now i'm in a relationship with a latino! Inter-ratial relationships are hard, but there's nothing that should keep them from getting married. Marriage is about love, not race. I honestly think you should talk to you sister about it, but if she still doesn't listen, there's not a whole lot you can do about it. I hope things work out for your neice and her man!

I would also talk to your sister about it, but let her bring the subject up. You don't want your sister going back to her daughter all pissed off for bringing you in the middle of this. I would tell her how you see the relationship and how you feel about it. I would also ask her what her biggest concern is and go from there I guess. If she still disaproves your niece should follow through with the wedding and just hope she shows up. You can't always let people run your life especially when it comes to love. If she doesn't understand why her daughter is marrying this person whe will someday, but it might take a lot of time. So talk to her, but overall let it play out.

Try talking to her about it. Good luck!

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gaby

I kno exactly where they are coming from. I say try convincing but u can only do so much of that.......Ive given up on trying to get my parents approval of raven b/c I kno its pointless.......Good luck hun and best of luck w/ ur niece ill keep them in my prayers!

These issues are rough....My dad reminds me of the mom...I dated a black man for awhile and he refused to talk to me....And every time I get aboyfriend he asks me if he is white within a second of me telling him about my guy....I'm sorry she has to go through this...Good luck.

The only way they will ever get over their racial problem is to be open to meeting them and getting to know them. There's a bad apple on every tree and you can't judge a race because there's always going to be people in every race that we don't like.

I'm sorry but I am sooo anal about this subject type people need to wake up to reality and see the world were living in and accept it. They need to let people have inter racial marriages, gay marriages, mixed kids, everything.... Seriously whos who to tell you who you can and cannot love geeze soo I am soo grumpy about it. Like my mom and I went to the gay pride parade for like 4 years straight just for fun! I dont think her mom should have a say in it really, well it would be amazing to have her approval and make it sooo much easier on their life. But her mom needs to realize that it is her daughters choice and life and she needs to accept that and try to compromise somewhere.... My mom has never liked anyone ive dated but shes learned to adapt.... They need to sit down and have a long talk with the mom and make her see how good they really are for each other... Truuust me I am whiter than white hahah east coasters would call me a valley girl alllllmost (which I am not) and when paul and I fell in love trust me it was nothing but uncomfrtable stares meeting his family I gripped his hand liek there was no tomorrow they are hardcore italian and I was nooootttt accepted... And now I can actually have a conversation with his grandma, I mean like it takes time but it does work!

yeah, I am trying so hard, but she is like it is her choice, don't bring her down because of it, but it hurts to see my niece so depressed.

I myself am in the same situation my boyfriend is neither indian or from the west indies and my family sometimes twist up their noses at him because his parents are hispanic and mulatto, but I see it as it is my choice , I realized no matter what you can't please people, so I don't even try to

Yeah talk to her about it! Tell her how much her daughter loves her and how much it would mean to her if she'd show up and be civil. Good luck!

Talk to her about it I hope things work out for her

shelley

well to make the story short, my sister is thinking about going to the wedding but she wants nothing to do with my sister and her boyfriend. ( I rather her not go because she will just give off negative vibes through-out the whole event) i've tried and I am done. Sometimes u just can't help those who don't want to be helped.

Race shouldn't change any kind of bond or relation between people. It's just skin color! >d are we not all human? Gheeeze, my parents are like that too sometimes. Except they only want me dating asians or americans. Any other spanish/african american race is just blah to them, 'cuz they think their "wild".

nippz I couldn't agree with u more, I have alot of people in my family that are racists in some way and don't even know it. I barely have any friends over here because (for example ) if u were to come over they would make comments like. So how do you cook dog and cat, how did lassie taste?, caca like that because of ur race. No matter if the person is white, african-american, hispanic or asain, there is always something about them they tend not to like.

My nieces fiance is the most sweetest man in the world. I admire and I adore him, but for some reason my sister feels that because he is white he is nasty and will cheat on her with a man. I mean come on. I barely talk to her now because of her rude comments and ignorant attitude.

I mean, it's going to be hard. My boyfriend is not indian nor west indian, and with their outlook on african-american men, im in for one hell of a ride. They feel in the long run he is only out there to do me dirty

Argh I know about that dog-cat thing. Like hello, my asian (filipino) race doesnt even cook dogs or cats so how about we get that straight. Just kidding, well I mean its not as major as others though. And it shouldn't even be a big deal to other people because hey I bet other's cook other type's of animals unimaginable too.

Wow I thought asians always loved american's because their "pure".

My parents wont even let me date outside of filipino's, thats worse than them not letting me date outside of asians. Hellooo.. Discrimination. Like I said, its just skin color ;\

that is their problem those on my sisters side feel that n e one who looks like this or that is that. They act like if it looks like a duck, sounds like a duck or walks like a duck it's a duck. You can sit down and tell them no that person is chinese, then they would argue with you , no she is japanese, look how big this and this is of theirs. Come on man it is not only ignorant it is embarrassing, I try to stay away from her and them. They rather teach and hate instead of learn.

One of my god friends are chinese and they are right next door and own a chinese store, my sister orders food from them and then makes rude comments about the food. I made them ban her , they don't deserve that.

I understand it is their and everyone elses opinion but don't come out ur face and say a african-american man is most likely going to end up in jail and caca. Knowing my boyfriend is 1/2 black. And telling him he is going to end up like the rest of his family.

They are very loud and out spoken about their opinions and that's what hurts the most. Not only is it affecting people around them, but it is also affecting me, and my outlook on life

Unfortunately, that's how life is. People are so freaking prejudious that it makes me sick. People look at the outside of people more than they look at the inside. I'm in an interracial relationship and I couldn't be happier. I will never understand why people feel the need to judge people based on skin color instead of personality and what's on the inside. Unfortunately, discrimination is learned... And if there are people out there who are still prejudious, there will always be discrimination! I hope that everything works out for your niece and her man. It's what's on the inside that counts... And as long as we know that, there's still some good in the world!

I think that the only reason that inter-racial relationships are hard is because people make them hard. Now if everyone decides to take a step back and use some intelligence all of us are most likely in an inter-racial relationship. And that is because we are all comprised of many things. I know that I am in an inter-racial relationship, but because both jon and I are part african american many people wouldn't think of it that way. If I were here I would just get married with or without my mom. I mean, if she was not supportive because the man that her daughter is with was of bad character, than I could understand. But just because they are of two different races, doesn't mean anything. But I guess that is just the way it is, and I know many people feel the same way as her mother, but just don't say anything. And that is just plain ignorance.

Honey I know exactly where you are coming from..Just elt it play out..Yeh you can try and talk some sense into them but with some people it really is no use..For some reason I date all black guys..Not beacsue color just beacsue thats what I prefer..Ironcially my babies dad is white..Lol but my mom took a while to get used to it but after a whiel she said she loves me no matter what choice I make:)


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marisa