Girls, I Need Help..i'm Breaking Down.

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Does anyone know about this 16 thing? I know a lot of people that moved out when they're 16..Does anyone have a webpage or something that they could show me?

Awww, honey, I know how it feels to be tired of everything. My parents got divorced when I was 11 and everything when to sh*t. I raised my 2 younger sisters (at they time they were 7 and 2) and basically ran the house. I attempted suicice 3 times in 5 years, and when that didn't work, I resorted to just about everything else. I'm doing well now... Thanks to my best friend and boyfriend. They saved my life. If you ever ever ever need anything, you can always call on me. And if all else fails, think of your son. What will he do if his mother is gone? Chin up... When you've reached the bottom, there's nowhere else to go but up.

And about the 16 year old thing, I don't think it's legal but I don't think your mother can get in trouble for it. It's not like she's kicking you out, right? You're leaving of your own free will. If it's consentual between you and your mother, I don't see a problem with it!

Girl don't give up, I know things may seem crappy right now but the only way to go from here is up and I know sometimes you just want to tear somebody's head off girl all you need to do is just let it out scream, kick, punch anything to help release the pain,. And i'm pretty sure you can get imanstipated especially at 16 and I agree with guitarjade if you and your mom both agreed on you moving out I dont think she can get in trouble

Nikki.....What size does alex wear? I'll have something in the mail to you by monday. What size is he in in everything. Clothes, shoes, everything.
I love you and I know things are tough....But you'll pull through. I promise that you will....You can do this! Calm down and take a break. And when you think of killing yourself..... I want you to think of kaitlyn (my niece). Think of the fact that she will never know her mother. Never see her mothers face. Never hug or kiss her mother..... Do you want that for alex? Do you? No. So come on. You can do it.

Hey huni im w/ chanda im like a couple hours from u what size does he wear in everything im serious I kno I dont have a lot but I have to pack that stuff up for tessa and I get paid on monday I can at least buy him a couple things alont w/ rivers things so tell me wat sizes he wears....Also if ur mom gives u permision to move out u can I would get emancipated ur mom has to give the reason why u want to move out and permission but this way u can get things in ur name instead of waiting till ur 18!! Huni im here for u caca we live close enough seriously if u need anything let me kno ok?

*hugs* I know that its hard, but you really are amazing nikki! Things will work out and you will be in my prayers.

Hey momma love! Anyways I am not too sure if its illegal or not considering parents kick kids out all the time. Though paul seems to think ts illegal to kick your kids out b4 18 but didnt say anything about moving out. But if your mom really is that worried you can always look into becoming emmancipated if you qualify and your moms okay with it and it wont become some huge court scandel... (qualify meaning you and your spouse/bf make enough money, can transport yourself, get medical help, and still attend school. ) are you still in school? Sorry i'm nosey I just really wanna help ya out. I know how parents can be.... Trust me I have the most difficult ones no matter what anyone says...

Anyways where do you live? How much is the cost of living out there? Apartment? House?

(oh and I would hoave replied earlier but I just saw this one -only viewed it once and am posting ) hahah

lemme know and i'll keep commenting

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Ita with what chanda said. It may be tuff but your baby boy needs you!

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gaby

Don't worry nikki!! It will be hard, but you can do it. Just keep on your mother. Make sure she knows that you are grown up and she doesn't need to be mothering you anymore. I know you will be fine! We are here for you!

Everything happens for a reason, and this will make you stronger in the end. Everything will be fine hunn :d

I moved into my own apartment when I was 16. I wasn't emancipated so my moms name had to be on the lease. I don't know your story, but if you're having moiney problems do you really think you should move out? Like I said I don't know your situation and you might be better off leaving, but i'd go where ever is cheapest so you can afford baby clothes and what not.

As far as I know if your parent(s) give permission for you to leave then it's ok.

I know everyone else has replied but I know deep down nikki, you can do this, one day you will look back and think"wow I did it" maybe even smile about how hard it was and how you felt. I know that day seems along way off, but time will pass so quickly.

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U sound like me a year ago. I always stress more than I need to. Even my fam tells me, if u dont relax ir gonna have a heart attack. I really feel u I do. K in 2001 my mom died, I moved in with my dad, had 2 jobs and was goin to school n everything was great. Then I met eric (no regrets) and moved in with him. I quit my job, stopped goin to school and was partying every night, his mom was a severe alcoholic and didnt work his bro didnt work and eric didnt work. I ended up gettin a job and his mom sucked every penny out of me. And when she was drunk,..... I was every thing in the book from a female part of the body to a ugly this, fat that health forum this I mean I was called every thing. I wanted to move out but had nowhere to go since I moved from my fam to be with eric they told me not to come back cuz I was rushing into things. Anyway to sum it up here I get preggy. Im supposed to be happy but im even more depressed cuz I dont know how im gonna do it especially living with a drunk. Anyway I moved into my own place with a lot of help from my sister and dad and I couldnt pay rent if it werent for eric but I am a hard worker and do whatever is needed to pay bills and have a smile on my face. Dominic is my motivation and when he is bigger ill go back to school. Anyway me and my mom used to fight like cats n dogs I used to lay in bed and think to myself, " I wished she died" now she is dead and I didnt realize how good I had it. I know there is not much of and age difference between u and I but im gonna be 21 on nov 21st. And I have definitly noticed a huge difference in my personality from when I was 17 . I think totally diff and u will too. I even used to be suicidal as in actually attempt things. Just take things one step at a time and u will get where u want. I wish I could give u somethin for alex but I dont have much for dom. Hes in 3-6 months clothin now and unless my family buys him something brand new which is rare, I go to used baby clothing store. I got him like 5 really good carter outfits for 10 bucks lol and I dont feel bad either, only a baby wore it u know? Im grateful they have places like that cuz baby's grow so fast. Im blabbing now but like I said it will be ok. Just look at ur lil boy im sure he can squeeze a smile out of u. I know we never really talked but here is my yahoo id if u need me. Erica1 121us@yahoo.Com take care

Nikki, I most definitely know how you feel. And I know that you think it will never be better, and that this is it, this is how your entire life will be. But believe me, I used to feel the same way, and you will continue to feel like this, until you decide you really don't want to anymore. I tried a few different times to commit suicide. One landed me in the hospital, where I had to have my stomach pumped, and then the hospital had me baker acted so I was in the psych ward for 4 days. I learned a lot there, they scared the hell out of me. Not only was it the scariest place I had ever been, but it was the cruelest. The nurses don't give a damn whop you are or what you think, you are just another brat they have to attend to. They taught me what a selfish brat I was being and how much I had to appreciate. When my mom came to visit I bawled my eyes out and was so thankful I had her. I got out and we got into it again, because I hadn't really learned a damn thing, except that eventually, things always go my way if I manipulate the situation just right. But thats not how life goes. You don't always get your way. I got my mom to let me move to kentucky with my grandparents. I ended up getting pregnant, and I begged her to let me move back. Of course she did. So I was still the same spoiled brat getting my way. Dewitt said he was going to be there for me and the baby and all those other great things, and when he wasn't, it broke my heart. This was pretty much the first time in my life that someone wasn't doing exactly what I wanted them too. So I do have him to thank for making me that much smarter. But what I am trying to say is, things are not always going to go your way. But I was in really bad shape, I got pregnant just a little over a month after I got out of the hospital. I was really depressed thinking I couldn't raise a baby and I couldn't be a mom and I just wasn't good enough for any of it, I made myself good enough. You are only as valuable as you think you are nikki. I think you are a great mom. But you are going to feel this way until you decide you want to feel different. I know you think you want to feel different, but deep down there somewhere, you just want to be upset and feel sorry for yourself for a while, and I do it too, I don't know a person who doesn't. But that will pass, then you have to decide if you want to be depressed and sulk, or if you want to get out there and work your ass off and give life a meaning. I wish I could get a job so I could support myself and my son, because sometimes, I honestly feel useless. And I feel really depressed sometimes too. Wondering how I went from being the parents little princess who got everything, to a single mom who has to work for her f-ing dignity. I get sick of people looking down on me saying im too young to do a good job being a mom because I dont know any better. And I bet you are too, so go out there, find a job and prove thos suckers wrong nikki. I know you can do it sweetie! Sorry if I babbled, but this is a bit of a pick-me-up for me also. I love you hun and I am here if you need to talk.

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It will be ok hun we under stand and we are all here for you to talk to we love you and dont want anything to happen to you :hugs:

shelley

Bd I dunno what ur referring too but i'm here to talk if you want? Ive been depressed alot since I moved out here....But I just smile it thru but thats me

i'm sorry love


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