Well.... Like you all arnt familiar with me and my situations, but this is an easy question... By bf 21yrs old, virgin, (whom I sppek of so often in here) still can not stay hard enough for lasting sex, nor can he even masturbate in front of me to keep it or get it hard enough... He thinks his mind thinks its weird to have someone else around, or have some one or somehting else pleasure him, therefor he cant get hard, or even do it himself in front of me. Has he been doing it himself so long that he really might have to 'get used to' the tought of someone or somthing else being wble to satisfy him? And is it possible to be trying to often throughout the day to have sex and keep his penis hard? Or should we take like a week with no sexual activing at all then try? He just seems so used to his own hand!! I dont know how it is for male virgins espically of that age? And everyone has told me, 'well he needs to calm down and realx' but yea,i know that, and he tries but when we start to get into it, he looses it b/c he thinks to much.. But besided that issue... Whats the deal with his philosiphy on ' its weird that something else is being used to get my penis hard and ejuculate..." and that being a valid reason? Please help.. Its been 5 months and dont want it to be 5 more.