Adoption?

I honestly wont judge you all I have to say is that if you didnt think of the possible outcome while having intercourse you need to prepare yourself for any respnsibility ahead

I agree with jess, adoption would be the way to go if you absolutely cant have a baby, but then again why are you having unprotected sex if you arent prepared for pregnancy, im not at all judging you or coming down on you, everyone makes mistakes. If you have a normal cycle then you probably arent pregnant but there is always a possiblility.

a lot of the people here are trying or have tried really hard to get pregnant, some are here with planned pregnancies and then there's a lot that it happened to accidentally, but they have decided to keep it. So you would be getting a sort of biased point of view! I think what really matters is how you feel about it. There are a lot of people who think abortion is wrong, and pregnant women probably top the list. If you are dealing with an unwanted pregnancy, you need the support of people who really understand you and what you are going through. Adoption is not always a good solution for people, it doesn't stop you being pregnant when you don't want to be.

Adoption is the best choice....But first of all...I doubt you are pregnant...And getting on the shot without knowing if you are or not is not very responsible...Even though I applaud you for using bc. And for being concerned enough about this issue to come find all of us. Secondly...There are many many families who can not have children....It is my dream to be a mommy, and I have had endless doctors tell me I can't because I have endometriosis....Now, I don't believe them...But there are many women out there just like me who really cant get pregnant...And it is their dream to be in your position. Now, I will not judge you based on your concerns...I will not judge you if you have an abortion...But I will pray for the life that was lossed every night...Bc every child is intended for a purpose...Even if that child doesn't fullfil it. So. Thanks for searching out answers for your questions. I hope everything goes like you want it to.

Last year my husband and I lost our ten day old baby. We tried with him for several years. We are currently expecting for the fifth time (one son to show for it). I guess what I am trying to say is... I would give anything to have a healthy happy baby. A lot of other people feel the same way. Since deven's death I have tried to figure out why god would take or baby who would know love unconditionally and give one to someone who can't or don't want to take care of it. He does things for a reason and I believe it is what you do with it that counts. I am not religious but my advice is to put the baby up for adoption. You are being resposible by knowing that you can't care for the baby properly. You can turn something bad into something good. You could give someone a baby to hold and care for. Something they thought they would never know. Until you are on the other side of the fence... You will never know the importance of your decision. I hope you take a "bad" thing for you and turn into a "dream" for someone else. You will never regret your decision, trust me. Good luck! We are always here to listen.

Goodluck- hopefully you aren't pregnant so you don't need to worry. I would offer abortion as a choice for you. People who want a baby really ,really bad and can't have one always have one opinion. What they won't ever understand is what it is like to be pregnant and not want to be. I know- have it and give it up is always the advice.... Well sometimes that isn't possible. Don't feel bad if you need to go with the abortion.

it is wonderful thing...Giving adivice to someone who can take that advice and act on it...But before you tell someone that abortion is a good choice...Which is an opinion that I will not judge...Perhaps we should be telling her other ways to deal with this first...I know that people who can't have children are goin to have a very strong opinion on this issue...But perhaps that is what this girl needs...To listen to stories from these people. Abortion is not a form of birth control...It takes a life. I'm not saying that abortion is not sometimes needed...I'm not saying that it is needed...I'm simply saying that throwing out abortion advice is not particularly a good thing...Please please don't get offended...But this girl needs to understand that abortion is not a form of birth control...She is sexually active and if she does not want this child...There are many other options. And she needs to research all of these options first...Abortion last. Not first. How unfair to the unborn baby....At least give it a chance...And lastly...Get on birth control. Use condoms. Use spermicide...Know your cycles...Know when you ovulate...All of these things can prevent an unwanted pregnancy. Be smart....Think beyond your years and think in long run terms...If you were to have this child....And you gave him/her up...In five years for you there would be no difference than you getting an abortion except that you carried the child to term...In five years to a family that wants to love a child...And for that child...It will make a lifetime of differences....

I think she knows now all the things you said. She just wanted an opinion on abortion. She needs to know she isn't the most terrible person in the world if she does get one. I don't consider it a form of birth control either, but to bring an unwanted child into the world can also be considered cruel. There are so many children in the world already who need good homes.

I understand completley where you are coming from.

Ok - I understand where you are coming from too.

I understand... But this is not a perfect world. Kids are having kids, they aren't considereing the consequences ahead of time. This world is full of drugs, sex, murders, violence.......... I'm sure god didn't want all those things either. I hope you understand where i'm coming from. Your views and ideas are wonderful. It just isn't happening like that in the world today.

All I will say is that termination is not a method of birth control, but if that is the road you really want to go down then do it as early as possible and get it done professionally.

There are other options such as fostering and adoption, please consider them, this will be one lesson well learned

Ok peeps. For one thing just so everyone knows I have always used bc until this one time. So if everyone on here can tell me they are careful everytime then great for you, but I messed up, caca happens. Now I am educated, I don't have unprotected sex, and I am a smart kid. I messed up, like I said I am human. Now I thank everyone for their advice. For those of you who just gave me your honest opinion without criticism thank you. I don't know what I want to do, nor do I think an abortion is a form of birth control... I just posted this to see what others thinks. I don't even know if I am pregnant yet. I guess I will just keep you all updated. Thanks.

Hey,
I hope you don't think I was judging you...My favorite aunt had an abortion and I don't think she is a horrible person, even though I am soooooooooo pro-life. I just wanted you to know that as abortion is an option for you, so are other things. Good luck with everything. You are going to have a rough decision ahead of you...And I wish you all the best.

You asked for an opinion you got it. Don't get all tetchy because it wasn't the answer you were looking for.

I have had a termination, my reason, I was raped after my drink was drugged, the lesson learned- don't trust anyone with your drink,not even to go to the loo, make sure you have bottled drinks and that you see the drink opened.

In your case, the lesson learned will hopefully be that birth control is not 100%, that you have to be damn careful and that condoms are a bloody good back up!

I expected a lot more criticism then I got. I wasn't caring about what anyone said...In the end is doesn't matter. All that matters is what I feel in my heart is best. Following your heart and your head is all you can really do!

I really do appreciate the honesty. The only way to see all sides of a problem is to ask other people. Like I said, I will let everyone know how my situation works out.

I think adoption would be great. How old are you. Also I thought they did pg test before giving you the shot they do here in ky ood luck let us know what you find out

shelley

I got pregnant, and im 17. I thought of all of my choices, and I believe everyone should think of every option. I lost my baby at only 8 weeks and it still hurts. I had a lot, a lot, a lot of people tell me that im better off that I had a miscarriage (it was the hardest thing 2 hear), but you will be suprised how attached you will get 2 your child. You created it. Its yours and only you can make this choice.