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Q: Help Stoping Masterbationg

asked by: Need2change on October 10th, 2004

New User

when I was 11 I started masterbating, it was something totaly new to me because I knew nothing about sex at all and didnt even know that what I was doing at the time was a sexual act. Everyday I would go on doing this for years.. Im now 20 years old and my life is somewhat ruied because of it. Ive been masterbating about 3 times a day. Sometimes it would hurt around the 3rd time....But im so addicted to it I continue. Im addicted to the feeling of ejaculating. This has ruined me. I cant think strait, I always feel sleepy, depressed and fatigued, I have muscle spazims, my face feels tight and oily. Ive lost intrest in so many things, ive become very nervouse. I could be walking somewhere and if someone looked at me...In my head I would start thinking that there saying things about me. The addiction has made me feel very unatractive towards women and since my 3 year relationship with my g/f ended ( because of masterbation ) ive lost all intrest in even trying to talk to a nother girl. Even avoiding them at times because how I felt and the oder that has oddly surrounded my body
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I just wish I could just stop. I actually did stop for a week. Whenever the urge came I would listen to music or make my self goto sleep. This helped for about a week. And after that I was right back at it. Doing it like 3 times a day. My stomach would hurt so bad and I just lost intrest in so many things. I lost a free scholarship in track n field back in highschool because masterbating caused me to loos intrest in it.

Friends think ive become wierd ...I just want to be a normal person.....I want so badly to jus go with out masterbating or even think about it. My life would be so much better. My confidence would sky rocket and I wouldnt be so negative on myself like I am all the time. And even though I lost out on a lot of oppertunities I feel that I might still be able to do something with myself. Please give some advice.

Replies(13)

2littlegirlz

replied on October 11th, 2004

Experienced User

Are you sure this is all about masterbation Question

to lose so many things is so sad. You really should see a doctor if it is bothering you this much.If not try to find some support groups on the web. Good luck

2ferano

replied on October 11th, 2004

Extremely eHealthy

Yeah, honey, it sounds to me like you have some anxiety/depression issues to deal with. Masturbating is not bad for you mentally or physically and it will not ruin your life.
Now, it can ruin a relationship if you masturbate, but don't make love to your lover, but that is another story.
It sounds like you have social anxiety disorder and that has nothing to do with masturbating.
Get some therapy or counseling or something and go on meds if you need to. But, definately stop blaming your problems on masturbation.

saxon

replied on October 18th, 2004

New User

Hey, dude, been there, done that. Been doing the same thing now since I was 14 and now i'm 41. But still have a very active sex drive and have truly not lost any desire for a woman.

I will admit that some of the problems you will encounter is the inability to orgasm during sex because you have conditioned yourself to become pleased by yourself. It's normal. Nothing wrong with what you're doing, but will have consequences later on.

trap

replied on October 18th, 2004

Experienced User

Hold up everyone--there is nothing ---i repeat nothing bad that will come from beating off-not now not later-these other problems you are haveing can no way be linked to it-get help for the head on your shoulders not in your pants

doola

replied on October 29th, 2004

New User

Masterbating is a act of making yourself feel good, and somtimes, one would think it all about you. Get you a girl friend and stroke her till you get yourself off. Even try different postions to have and orgam,

user40

replied on May 17th, 2005

New User

Masterbating should not damage you physically. But if you are addicted it can make you life harder. Causing you to lose focus. No offense, but I dont think that is why you would lose your gf. But if masterbation caused you to lose a scholarship for track, you must be pretty addicted. I would definatley talk to a doctor or therapist. You seem to be depressed. Therapy should fix your problem. I have masturbated three times a day before. I usually masturbate at least once a day, every day of the week. However, it has not ruined my life. I still maintain a great social life, compete in several sports, have a strong sex drive, and do great in school. I dont know if you should blame all your problems on masturbation. I still recommend you see a doctor/therapist for your depression.

ian_cana

replied on May 28th, 2005

New User

My health teacher said that there is no such thing as masturbating too often. Except when it effects your life.. Ie being late for school. I masturbate 1-2 times a day, mostly 1once when I turn out my lights to sleep. I dont know who it was, but he said that it will have consiquences later on. That you are used to pleasing yourself. Now, I have never asked anyone... But I assume (like mine) that most masturbation is relitivly fast pased. And I think thats what that man might be saying... That we would be used to fast action that is unreasonable for a vagina.... It would hurt her, would it not? And I realy wouldnt want to do that. So what would be a good idea? That 1... Max 2 per day is alright or limit it to 4-5 a week.

On another thought. I have often tryed to cut back.... To monday wednesdays and fridays... But gave up on the tuesday. I feel so out of control.

spicy_devil

replied on May 30th, 2005

New User

Umm, I accualy have the same problem as him, and some of the same side affects, and I realiz when I dont masterbate for a few days I feel way more confident in talking to women, and I think straiter. When I masterbate I feel really shy and my hands feel really cold. The only time I havent masterbated is when I am staying at a friends house, where I cant do that, this summer, I am planing to move into his house. He is aware of my problem, and he laughs at me for it, he tells me he masterbates once a month, and he is very outgoing, .
So here are a couple tips that I try to use:
when ever I get the urge, go running.
And stay somewhere you wont be able to.
I hope this helps.

dane211

replied on May 31st, 2005

Experienced User

Urges For Aunt

Bigman16, don't worry about who you have uges to have sex with, at your age, anyone female will get your hormones racing. This is the time though for you to fully learn self control.

liberace

replied on June 22nd, 2005

New User

Anything that is an addiction can be bad, because it means that you have lost control, and that something else is controlling you. I know that it's impossibly hard. But you definitly have my support in trying to stop.

Ps: my boyfriend, who I am completly in love with, has a problem with masterbation. It would really hurt if that caused problems during sex when we were married. It would cause major problems in our marriage and relationship. Basically, it would come between us.

ruixiangz

replied on June 25th, 2005

New User

Masturbation does not hurts, it is the addiction towards it that does...You need serious help

talondarkx

replied on June 25th, 2005

New User

I masterbate three times a day and it doesn't affect me like it does you. I think this is something else, man.

midwest

replied on June 25th, 2005

Experienced User

My Comment

I think jerking off is normal, but jerking off too much is bad for yourself mentally and physicallly..
Dont beat yourself up because you jerk too much.

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