Help Stoping Masterbationg Posted: 10-10-04 16:19pm
when I
was 11 I started masterbating, it was
something totaly new to me because I knew
nothing about sex at all and didnt even
know that what I was doing at the time was
a sexual act. Everyday I would go on
doing this for years.. Im now 20 years
old and my life is somewhat ruied because
of it. Ive been masterbating about 3
times a day. Sometimes it would hurt
around the 3rd time....But im so addicted
to it I continue. Im addicted to the
feeling of ejaculating. This has ruined
me. I cant think strait, I always feel
sleepy, depressed and fatigued, I have
muscle spazims, my face feels tight and
oily. Ive lost intrest in so many things,
ive become very nervouse. I could be
walking somewhere and if someone looked at
me...In my head I would start thinking
that there saying things about me. The
addiction has made me feel very
unatractive towards women and since my 3
year relationship with my g/f ended (
because of masterbation ) ive lost all
intrest in even trying to talk to a nother
girl. Even avoiding them at times because
how I felt and the oder that has oddly
surrounded my body
.
I just wish I could just stop. I actually
did stop for a week. Whenever the urge
came I would listen to music or make my
self goto sleep. This helped for about a
week. And after that I was right back at
it. Doing it like 3 times a day. My
stomach would hurt so bad and I just lost
intrest in so many things. I lost a free
scholarship in track n field back in
highschool because masterbating caused me
to loos intrest in it.
Friends think ive become wierd ...I just
want to be a normal person.....I want so
badly to jus go with out masterbating or
even think about it. My life would be so
much better. My confidence would sky
rocket and I wouldnt be so negative on
myself like I am all the time. And even
though I lost out on a lot of
oppertunities I feel that I might still be
able to do something with myself. Please
give some advice.
Are you sure this is all about
masterbation to
lose so many things is so sad. You really
should see a doctor if it is bothering you
this much.If not try to find some support
groups on the web. Good luck
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2ferano
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 23 Dec 2003 Posts: 3717
Posted: 10-11-04 22:32pm
Yeah, honey, it sounds to me like you have
some anxiety/depression issues to deal
with. Masturbating is not bad for you
mentally or physically and it will not
ruin your life.
Now, it can ruin a relationship if you
masturbate, but don't make love to your
lover, but that is another story.
It sounds like you have social anxiety
disorder and that has nothing to do with
masturbating.
Get some therapy or counseling or
something and go on meds if you need to.
But, definately stop blaming your problems
on masturbation.
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saxon
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 18 Oct 2004 Posts: 3
Posted: 10-18-04 08:12am
Hey, dude, been there, done that. Been
doing the same thing now since I was 14
and now i'm 41. But still have a very
active sex drive and have truly not lost
any desire for a woman.
I will admit that some of the problems you
will encounter is the inability to orgasm
during sex because you have conditioned
yourself to become pleased by yourself.
It's normal. Nothing wrong with what
you're doing, but will have consequences
later on.
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trap
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 18 Oct 2004 Posts: 65 Location: california
Posted: 10-18-04 17:28pm
Hold up everyone--there is nothing ---i
repeat nothing bad that will come from
beating off-not now not later-these other
problems you are haveing can no way be
linked to it-get help for the head on your
shoulders not in your pants
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doola
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 22 Oct 2004 Posts: 22 Location: south carolina
Posted: 10-29-04 20:04pm
Masterbating is a act of making yourself
feel good, and somtimes, one would think
it all about you. Get you a girl friend
and stroke her till you get yourself off.
Even try different postions to have and
orgam,
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user40
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 10 May 2005 Posts: 14
Posted: 05-17-05 22:23pm
Masterbating should not damage you
physically. But if you are addicted it
can make you life harder. Causing you to
lose focus. No offense, but I dont think
that is why you would lose your gf. But
if masterbation caused you to lose a
scholarship for track, you must be pretty
addicted. I would definatley talk to a
doctor or therapist. You seem to be
depressed. Therapy should fix your
problem. I have masturbated three times a
day before. I usually masturbate at least
once a day, every day of the week.
However, it has not ruined my life. I
still maintain a great social life,
compete in several sports, have a strong
sex drive, and do great in school. I dont
know if you should blame all your problems
on masturbation. I still recommend you
see a doctor/therapist for your
depression.
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ian_cana
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 28 May 2005 Posts: 49
Posted: 05-28-05 00:23am
My health teacher said that there is no
such thing as masturbating too often.
Except when it effects your life.. Ie
being late for school. I masturbate 1-2
times a day, mostly 1once when I turn out
my lights to sleep. I dont know who it
was, but he said that it will have
consiquences later on. That you are used
to pleasing yourself. Now, I have never
asked anyone... But I assume (like mine)
that most masturbation is relitivly fast
pased. And I think thats what that man
might be saying... That we would be used
to fast action that is unreasonable for a
vagina.... It would hurt her, would it
not? And I realy wouldnt want to do that.
So what would be a good idea? That 1...
Max 2 per day is alright or limit it to
4-5 a week.
On another thought. I have often tryed to
cut back.... To monday wednesdays and
fridays... But gave up on the tuesday.
I feel so out of control.
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spicy_devil
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 30 May 2005 Posts: 2 Location: California
Posted: 05-30-05 10:25am
Umm, I accualy have the same problem as
him, and some of the same side affects,
and I realiz when I dont masterbate for a
few days I feel way more confident in
talking to women, and I think straiter.
When I masterbate I feel really shy and my
hands feel really cold. The only time I
havent masterbated is when I am staying at
a friends house, where I cant do that,
this summer, I am planing to move into his
house. He is aware of my problem, and he
laughs at me for it, he tells me he
masterbates once a month, and he is very
outgoing, .
So here are a couple tips that I try to
use:
when ever I get the urge, go running.
And stay somewhere you wont be able to.
I hope this helps.
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dane211
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 23 May 2005 Posts: 124
Urges For Aunt Posted: 05-31-05 09:01am
Bigman16, don't worry about who you have
uges to have sex with, at your age, anyone
female will get your hormones racing.
This is the time though for you to fully
learn self control.
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liberace
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 22 Jun 2005 Posts: 1
Posted: 06-22-05 10:22am
Anything that is an addiction can be bad,
because it means that you have lost
control, and that something else is
controlling you. I know that it's
impossibly hard. But you definitly have
my support in trying to stop.
Ps: my boyfriend, who I am completly in
love with, has a problem with
masterbation. It would really hurt if
that caused problems during sex when we
were married. It would cause major
problems in our marriage and relationship.
Basically, it would come between us.
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ruixiangz
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 23 Jun 2005 Posts: 4
Posted: 06-25-05 04:21am
Masturbation does not hurts, it is the
addiction towards it that does...You need
serious help
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talondarkx
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 21 Jun 2005 Posts: 3
Posted: 06-25-05 22:19pm
I masterbate three times a day and it
doesn't affect me like it does you. I
think this is something else, man.
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midwest
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 15 Mar 2005 Posts: 96 Location: ,
My Comment Posted: 06-25-05 23:40pm
I think jerking off is normal, but jerking
off too much is bad for yourself mentally
and physicallly..
Dont beat yourself up because you jerk
too much.
when I
was 11 I started masterbating, it was
something totaly new to me because I knew
nothing about sex at all and didnt even
know that what I was doing at the time was
a sexual act. Everyday I would go on
doing this for years.. Im now 20 years
old and my life is somewhat ruied because
of it. Ive been masterbating about 3
times a day. Sometimes it would hurt
around the 3rd time....But im so addicted
to it I continue. Im addicted to the
feeling of ejaculating. This has ruined
me. I cant think strait, I always feel
sleepy, depressed and fatigued, I have
muscle spazims, my face feels tight and
oily. Ive lost intrest in so many things,
ive become very nervouse. I could be
walking somewhere and if someone looked at
me...In my head I would start thinking
that there saying things about me. The
addiction has made me feel very
unatractive towards women and since my 3
year relationship with my g/f ended (
because of masterbation ) ive lost all
intrest in even trying to talk to a nother
girl. Even avoiding them at times because
how I felt and the oder that has oddly
surrounded my body
to
lose so many things is so sad. You really
should see a doctor if it is bothering you
this much.If not try to find some support
groups on the web. Good luck