Hi. I am a very worried 24 year old, who
is engaged to be married in 3 weeks. My
fiance and I have been together for 9
years. She is my first and vis versa. We
have been planning to wait for sex til
marrige but about 2 months ago we decided
we didn' want the wedding night to be
akward. So we had sex. The problem is I
got very little stimulation and could not
bring myself to orgasm or even come close,
and eventually I would loose my erection
after 45 min to 1 hour. I am extremely
worried that I will never be able to
orgasm from sex. Tried a few positions as
well.
Has anyone ever heard of a guy not being
able to? I am worried that its becauze my
penis is too thin. Could this be? Or is
it just going to take getting used to?
What will help.
Thanks
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southcoach
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 13 May 2004 Posts: 65
Posted: 10-10-04 00:22am
First off, don't panic. Sounds like you
are freaking out. 45 minutes to 1 hour
is a long time for a guy to last his first
time!! Before you jump to conclusions and
worry yourself ragged be sure there is
something to worry about first. My first
couple of times I didn't really orgasm
either. I have also not lasted very long
at all a couple of times. I think for me
I was reallllllly nervous at first and
this largely affected my performance.
What you have to realize is that sex,
orgasm, etc. Is largely affected by the
mind. It is very psychological.
Nervousness, etc., may majorly affect
one's experience. Just relax, understand
it was your first time, and rather than
freaking out, focus on why you are doing
it (because you love her) and how good it
feels. I am not saying there is nothing
to worry about, but lets not jump the gun
here. You have only had sex once. Just
relax. Best of luck.
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2ferano
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 23 Dec 2003 Posts: 3717
Posted: 10-11-04 22:49pm
Lasting 45 minutes, well, your fiance is a
very lucky woman.
You just really need to relax. It will
eventually happen, but you are both just
probably still extremely nervous. That
is all. It will all work itself out!
On your wedding night, just drink some
wine or something and relax.
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wazzywoman4ever
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 13 Aug 2007 Posts: 67 Location: texas, america
I Have to Agree Here Posted: 08-14-07 16:00pm
But let me add that practice practice
practice has its rewards how be it you two
may want to do all the practice as man and
wife ...yes relax it is ok to enjoy each
other in little bites .....congratulations
...wazzywoman
