Joined: 03 Oct 2004 Posts: 94 Location: Windsor, Ontiaro
Wan't a Baby At 19 Posted: 10-09-04 16:46pm
To give you a little background I am 19
and I always wanted a child some one to
call me mommy and someone who will need
me. I am in a relationship with a great
man whom I love. I was pregnant with his
baby 4 mos ago, but I lost it. I miss the
why I felt having something growing in
side of me. I don't know what I should do
to plane on have a baby?
Can you girls help me get ready?
We are going to start trying after new
years.
Your friend babyblues
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bellax0x
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 10 Jun 2004 Posts: 3572 Location: Jersey Baby!
Posted: 10-09-04 18:55pm
My advice: dont do it.
Unless you have good answers to these
questions:
1) where will you live?
2) what are you going to do about school?
Your boyfriend?
3) do you have a job? Do you make enough
to support a baby?
4) what if this bf of yours leaves? Could
you spport a baby by urself?
5) do your parents know? What do they
think?
<3
gaby
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littlepumpkin69
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 09 Oct 2004 Posts: 24
Posted: 10-09-04 19:22pm
You know I am 19 as well and I will be 11
weeks along tomorrow. I know that feeling
of having something living in you is a
great feeling. Trust me, I was pregnant
at 16 and lost it and it was horrible.
The only thing I really would like to say
is be sure he is the one you want to be
with forever. If you even have the
slightest doubt about him, don't have a
child. A child is a lifetime
responsibility. Do you want him some day
possibly trying to get full custody of
your child or having to pay you child
support checks or having to go back and
forth between parents for 18 years? I
sure wouldn't want my child going through
all of that. I am not saying don't have a
child with him, I just wanted to give you
something to think about, because when I
was 16, the guy I was with said he loved
me basically up until the day I said I was
pregnant and then he wasn't any more.
Guys seem to take longer at wanting to
have any responsibility in their life.
Take care!
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Isabel_Kitty
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 08 Oct 2004 Posts: 17
Posted: 10-09-04 19:51pm
I am 18. I wanted a baby. I got pregnant
the beginning of this year and lost it in
march. I am newly pregnant again. We
couldn't be happier. I waited till I
found the right guy, and we got married in
july of this year. I don't have an answer
to all those questions above, but I know
things work out for something you really
want.
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littlepumpkin69
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 09 Oct 2004 Posts: 24
Posted: 10-09-04 19:56pm
Hey I got married in july as well. That
is so cool! I am newly pregnant as well.
How are things going for you?
I am 20 years old and 17 weeks pregnant.
I couldnt be happier I dont know what I
would do if something happened for me to
miscarry. Like everyone else said, if he
is the right guy for you then go for it,
maybe a good commitment first though, see
I am not married although I am still with
my babys father and we love eachother very
much. We have plans to marry next fall.
I am confident in a way that if one day
we end up not wanting to be together he
will always be there for our child, but I
don't see us breaking up at all because
the baby has brought us so much closer
together, he is just as excited as me.
So make sure you have a man that take care
of you and that will be prepared to
support you and your future child.
