Ok. Im 28 years old, and have been
sexually active since I was 16. I have
never in my 12 years of having sex had
premature ejaculation until 2 months ago.
I thought it was a one time thing, but it
happened the following two times as well.
I am in a relationship and made love to
her numerious times before this started
happening. This scares the me since I
have always had great reason to pride
myself on the pleasure I provide my
partner, and have always been able to go
until I wanted to stop. The last time I
had sex I only lasted about 1 minute. It
is as if when the tip of my penis enters
her I can feel it happening. About the
only things I can think of are:
- stess in the relationship, but this
hasn't been a problem with stress in other
relationships, so I don't know why it
would be in this one.
- or I got kicked in balls really hard
when I was wrestling around one with with
my nephew.
I haven't had sex in over a month because
our relationship has been a little rocky
lately, but I know there are times that we
could have engaged in love making, but I
didn't take it that far for fear of
disappointing her and myself. Anyone have
any ideas?
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Ed65
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 03 Oct 2004 Posts: 5 Location: Lakewood, OH
Premature Ejactulation Posted: 10-05-04 14:57pm
I have heard many times and from numerous
sources that masturbating an hour or so
before attempting intercourse can slow
down a man's ejaculation.
If you are in the habit of going a second
time with your partner, don't you
generally last a lot longer.
I've been around for 60 plus years and I
can tell you for a fact that when I was in
my early twenties I would go off sometimes
before I even got inside. I could always
get it up rather quickly afterwards and
the second time I could last long enough
for her to get off.
Try this out and see if it doesn't work.
Know, also that this is a fairly universal
problem.
Ed c
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JJNC
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 05 Oct 2004 Posts: 2
I Still Don't Get It. Posted: 10-07-04 09:55am
I realize what your saying, but that
doesn't explain why this just started
happening after 12+ years of 100% no
problems. I'm in my late 20's and have
had sex often since I have always either
been married or in a long term
relationship.
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2ferano
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 23 Dec 2003 Posts: 3717
Posted: 10-11-04 22:56pm
It does seem odd. I would see your
doctor. I mean, you obviously aren't the
type of guy to just accept this and move
on. You seem to actually care about your
partner's pleasure. So, ask your doctor.
Maybe stress is playing a role in this,
but you just don't realize how stressed
you really are. A lot of times we don't
realize how stressed we are until it
starts showing in our health.
Also, after it happened that one time, you
may just be so worried about it happening
again that it does. The whole mind over
matter thing.
You could try masturbating an hour or so
before you have intercourse, but how often
do we really know how to time those
things? You could also just go the
second time to please her, but as a woman
let me just say: I personally won't go
that second time if we both weren't
satisfied the first time. My reasoning
is... First of all I am just too turned
off from the first time of not being
satisfied, and secondly I don't feel that
my partner is enjoying it. I feel like
he is doing it just for me (and although
respectful and flattering) I cannot get
into it because I don't feel he is. Know
what I am saying?
I am not trying to be ignorant and offend
anyone, but so many people just say to go
a second time if you don't last the first
time and that just doesn't work for
everyone.
