Hi sunflower,
I am 32 and had a vaginal hysterectomy the 26th of september. I am doing great now. I have 4 children and when I came home form the hospital 2 days later, I could not handle being around my kids, they are busy. I stayed at my moms for a couple days and when I returned home was able to stay home. I did not find the pain bad at all, I took ibupropen and tylenol only for the first week. I also developed a kidney infection so that created unneeded pain. I am off work for at least six weeks, and am not allowed to carry a laundry basket for the first month. The stitching the surgeon uses can easily tear with pressure. I know it is hard to adhere to the advice given reguarding recovery but if you dont you greatly increase the risk of further problems and prolonged recovery. This must worry you, being a single mom. You will need to reach out to friends and family for support for the first couple of weeks it isn't easy. I was able to go to the grocery store for a few minute visit 9 days after my surgery, but I still get tired really easy, and notice my energy level has drastically decreased. Talk to your ex, let him know that this isnt a small ordeal, this is considered a major surgery and requires lots of rest and support to recovery healthily. I hope this doesn't sound horrifying, I just read your post and worry that you are not going to give yourself time to heal and that is so important. Take care and good luck! Furee :d

I hope your x will understand and help you out. If not talk to the school maybe a teacher or another parent will at least pick up and drop off for a while. You need to rest, or you will be down for longer and what will you do with your kids then.If you go to church ask around at church or ask your pastor I am sure someone could help. My surgery is set for nov. 5 and my friend is flying in from dallas to stay with me, and I have 4 dogs, my mother is going to take a couple and my son the others. Its gonna drive me crazy being at home because run my store,and I love my work but I know my butts gonna be on the couch because I know if I dont I will be down longer or really do other damage. So ask for a little help there are people out there that will care. Good luck. Toria

My surgery is this thursday. How exactly will I make it worse by driving the kids to school etc. I mean, I always thought that if you get up and move, you heal quicker. I do have backup, friends, church etc, but just assumed I could take the weekend and then resume some light activity. Is it really necessary to lie low for several weeks? Thanks, lucy

Hi sunflower,
i am 27 and I had a hyterectomy it took me several weeks to heal and I have two children and I am very active with them. I hope you took eveyone's advice and got yourself some help, I also hope that your recovery is going well.