I Need to Relax But Don't Know How! Posted: 10-03-04 17:30pm
In therapy this summer, I came to the
conclusion that I need to give myself
permission to have down time and to relax.
This is hard, because when I have down
time, my mind begins racing about all the
things I should be doing. I've tried to
replace the word "should" with "can," and
give myself options rather than
requirements, but that's a really hard
thing to follow through with, especially
when I have responsibilities of
coursework, a course i'm teaching, my own
goals as a singer, a social life, an
apartment to tend to, and a long distance
relationship to care for.
My question is this -- what has worked for
you to allow yourself to relax into
relaxation, and let all the "stuff" go?
I feel like I need a hobby, but I also
feel like I don't have time!
I'm deeply perfectionistic, and that finds
itself being the worst in my coursework.
I had a prof the other day tell me, "do
'b' level work for me, would you?"
trouble is, I don't know how.
Advice?????
I know this is vague, but if this strikes
a chord in you, please reply!
Are you my twin my
poor kids couldnt even take out their toys
before I would start putting them away.
If I wasnt cleaning I was rearanging
things. I wouldnt be able to leave the
house without the beds made or I would be
panicking. Therapy and meds helped I was
on paxil, went off to have a baby. So its
back. I use a breathing tecnique when I
feel those anxious feelings come on.
Breathe through your nose for 2 to 3
seconds slowly, and exhale through your
mouth the same way. Do this a few times.
Good luck
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Kelli_
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 23 Sep 2004 Posts: 46 Location: America
Posted: 10-09-04 14:04pm
Well this thread hit home for me. I've
drivin myself practically nuts with my
perfectionism. It changed for me when
the babies came.
I had to choose between them growing up ok
or in total misery.
I began to utilize the breathing
techniques I learned in my lamaze classes.
Having to focus on something other
than everything around me that was wrong
allowed me to get my mind onto something
else other than pick up, sweep out, wash
down, put away...
someone was once bold enough to tell me
that I correct the outward things in an
effort to ignore the inwards things that
needed some attention.
Not sure if that's true for everyone but
for me it was. I took those words to
heart. I believe one of the secrets to a
succesful life is to know yourself.
my
poor kids couldnt even take out their toys
before I would start putting them away.
If I wasnt cleaning I was rearanging
things. I wouldnt be able to leave the
house without the beds made or I would be
panicking. Therapy and meds helped I was
on paxil, went off to have a baby. So its
back. I use a breathing tecnique when I
feel those anxious feelings come on.
Breathe through your nose for 2 to 3
seconds slowly, and exhale through your
mouth the same way. Do this a few times.
Good luck 
