The pill shouldn't make her want to avoid you. The pill can lower sexdrive, but only if they are a decade old. The pill these days are formulated to avoid weight gain, depression, low sexdrive etc. To the point that they actually help even out your mood. Go with your first instinct. There is an underlying problem that she is not talking about. Perhaps things are a little repetative in your relationship at the moment. And you two need to do somthing a little more sparatic before the boredom turns into a case of dumped. If both of you arn't putting in a obvious effort to help the relationship. Then perhaps you should look for somone else.

Obviously there is something she isn't telling you, whether it is depression, anxiety, or some other health issues (maybe mulitple health issues.) girls often act irritated and mean and rude when going through a major change in their lives...And it's up to you to find out what it is that is bothering her. Ask her...Ask her friends...Ask her parents? Another thing that you should recognize is that the people we love the most make us feel irritated the most. Maybe it is that you are irritating her also. Patience and support would probably work best if you want to keep up this relationship. If you break up with her, make sure you arent adding to the many "disasters" in her life at this time. You may have no idea what she is going through that is making her this way. Maybe it's worse. Then again maybe it's nothing. And you should just stop wasting your sweet time with this moody health forum. (by the way, I feel sorry for my boyfriend cuz I do the same thing to him. I am extremely mean to him. I realized i've been suffering from major depression, two anxiety disorders, and some other problems this past year. Ha, he gives me most of my anxiety. Is that what you do to her?)

good luck!

Teeny

Thanks for the replies! Just to clarify, she told me her dad and ex (6 years) were very unaffectionate and didn't treat her the best. During one instance her ex spit in her face! I realize the way she has been treated before may impact her greatly and she said she is not used to a guy treating her nicely like I do. But we have talked about it over and over again. It would be nice to see some progress. I just want the hurting to stop. It really does appear that nice guys finish last. Some common courtesy is all I ask. I just don't see her putting in any effort. What else can I do?

Have you told her everything about how you feel?
Given examples of what shes done to you?
Have you told her you may want to break up with her?
Just remember to be as nice as you can and do not look angry around her cuz she will be more prone to be doing the same

Thanks so much for your replies. I spoke to her about it yesterday and we are going to take a break, clear our heads, and try to work things out. She says she understands where I am coming from. Thanks again