I have a very big, very concealed problem: I think i'm developing feelings for another guy. And not just any other guy...But my boyfriend's best friend.

How do I know? Easy...This other guy (who i'll call "bruce") is just like my boyfriend (who i'll call "joe"), save for one difference: bruce is very much in tune with his own soul, while joe is not. This is a quality I admire in a person, especially in a potential lover. I think we see eye to eye on many things, and he's a very sweet person with a pure heart.

I became friends with him through my boyfriend, and some days when i'm visiting them I find myself staring at bruce, admiring his good looks (yes he's a cutie).

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I love my boyfriend with all my heart and soul, and i'd give my very life for him. These feelings for bruce are not intense enough to make me leave joe, but they're still haunting my mind.

I don't dream about bruce or have fantasies about him, but he just really strikes my fancy.

I'm attempting to do what I did to try and forget about my boyfriend before he asked me out: treat them like a friend and nothing more. I treat bruce like a friend - i've never made a pass at him or touched him in a more than friendly way. He's clueless, as is joe.

And besides, bruce shows nothing toward me anyway - I know he'd never want me. But I just fear i'm going to be thinking about him when i'm in joe's arms, or even call out bruce's name when i'm with joe.

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On a scale of love of 1 to 10, joe rates most definitely a 10, but bruce comes in at around a 5. So it's not a powerful infatuation, but more like a "school girl crush".

Like I said, i'm in no position to leave joe, but how can I block out my feelings for bruce?

Please help, someone. I do love bruce, but as a trusted and kind-hearted friend. And I love joe and I don't want to hurt him.

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Scaredbaka - stuck between a rock and a hard place