I have this male friend of mine and i'm female. We've been friends for years and during our years of friendship we've had some sexual encounters. Every time we do something intimate together, it seems that he avoids all contact with me for about a week or so, then comes around again as if everything is ok. We don't talk much about our feelings for each other. We both value our friendship very much and would hate for anything to come in between it. Over the recent years, i've grown more attached to him and expressed my feelings to him both in writing and verbally. He feels similar, but persists that he doesn't want to pursue anything for fear of us not being able to keep our friendship in tact. We're both adults (late twenties-thirties) and I feel that we can handle a relationship and keep the friendship, but don't know how this can be done if he's so chicken about it. We are truly a seinfeld episode!