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paranoidfreak
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guess what I learned today??
Posted: 10-01-04 12:09am
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i learned that some people in this forum, people who you think are genuinely nice, supportive, and understanding, are actually just putting up a front and are really just laughing at and insulting you behind your back. I posted a concern of mine a few days ago ("in desperate need of some peace of mind") because I was truly concerned about something. Granted, my worry is a bit weird and i'm sure caused many people to ask themselves, "is she for real??"...But regardless, I was still concerned and so I came here for support and reassurance (because, lets face it, thats what a forum is for isnt it??) I received what I thought was just that: kind support and reassurance. I felt a lot better about my situation and was really glad that I signed up as part of this forum. That is, until I was looking through other categories under "health forums" and came across an interesting thread.
I will not say who started the thread because that would just be catty of me. But the person basically used my thread to make a mockery of me and my situation. I was laughed at, made fun of, and insulted. I never dreamed people here could be so cruel.
Ultimately, I want to thank the people involved in the thread (and you allllllll know who you are). I was becoming a bit too trusting with many people ive encountered lately, not just on the forums, but in life as well...And you have taught me to be more careful because many, if not all, people have two sides to them. And to those of you who are genuinely seeking help and advice on these forums, i'll simply quote someone who contributed to that wonderful thread: "think about medical questions before you post them". Because you never know who will stab you in the back and make fun of your genuine concerns.
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paranoidfreak
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guess what I learned today??
Posted: 10-01-04 12:09am
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i learned that some people in this forum, people who you think are genuinely nice, supportive, and understanding, are actually just putting up a front and are really just laughing at and insulting you behind your back. I posted a concern of mine a few days ago ("in desperate need of some peace of mind") because I was truly concerned about something. Granted, my worry is a bit weird and i'm sure caused many people to ask themselves, "is she for real??"...But regardless, I was still concerned and so I came here for support and reassurance (because, lets face it, thats what a forum is for isnt it??) I received what I thought was just that: kind support and reassurance. I felt a lot better about my situation and was really glad that I signed up as part of this forum. That is, until I was looking through other categories under "health forums" and came across an interesting thread.
I will not say who started the thread because that would just be catty of me. But the person basically used my thread to make a mockery of me and my situation. I was laughed at, made fun of, and insulted. I never dreamed people here could be so cruel.
Ultimately, I want to thank the people involved in the thread (and you allllllll know who you are). I was becoming a bit too trusting with many people ive encountered lately, not just on the forums, but in life as well...And you have taught me to be more careful because many, if not all, people have two sides to them. And to those of you who are genuinely seeking help and advice on these forums, i'll simply quote someone who contributed to that wonderful thread: "think about medical questions before you post them". Because you never know who will stab you in the back and make fun of your genuine concerns.
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Who made fun of her post.
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Who made fun of her, I dont understand, where did she post this??
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Chanda,
i'd rather not say who was involved in the post. But as you can imagine, stumbling upon that at 12:30 last night, I was pretty angry and I thought I would warn other people in the forum that this happened to me. Its a terrible feeling to have a true worry of yours be the butt of someone else's joke, and I would hate (in caps) to see that happen to other people, especially a scared, confused teen.
Oh and by the way - the thread has since been deleted! Go figure.
i'd rather not say who was involved in the post. But as you can imagine, stumbling upon that at 12:30 last night, I was pretty angry and I thought I would warn other people in the forum that this happened to me. Its a terrible feeling to have a true worry of yours be the butt of someone else's joke, and I would hate (in caps) to see that happen to other people, especially a scared, confused teen.
Oh and by the way - the thread has since been deleted! Go figure.
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I am aware of the issue and I apologize, but you must understand how we have some stupid people coming in here with the dumbest posts and obviously just ignorant people. Maybe you aren't one of them, but it's hard to determine who is and who isn't when we have this crap all the time! I'm sorry if you really were upset over this post. But this is a forum that is very supportive but sometimes we just get tired of the !**@!!
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| chandaloss wrote: |
| i am aware of the issue and I apologize, but you must understand how we have some stupid people coming in here with the dumbest posts and obviously just ignorant people. Maybe you aren't one of them, but it's hard to determine who is and who isn't when we have this crap all the time! I'm sorry if you really were upset over this post. But this is a forum that is very supportive but sometimes we just get tired of the !**@!! |
and I understand that, believe me. I know there are people out there who think they can get pregnant through oral sex or by kissing or holding hands. But i'm not a young, pre-pubescent girl with weird questions on what can and cannot get you pregnant. I am educated and I had a sincere concern. I admit it was an unnecessary worry, but it was still a worry nonetheless. And this is how my worry was treated.
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Paranoid freak, don't get on the I won't say who blah waffle.
I copied your post to where more teens would see it.
I did not make a mockery - I made one comment that sex ed should be bought back and it should.
I left it up to the girls of similar age to see what they had to say.
And as I stated in a reply to you, that if one person can learn from your post then it was worth it.
How many people do you think read these boards? How many read but don't post? How many wonder what you wondered? Don't you want others to benefit from it?
But as for the making fun of - I don't think so, post deleted? Why? People should be able to read that and learn.
If you didn't want people to read it why post it?
And there was never a case of hoping you wouldn't see it, I more assumed you would, and that the replies it received would back up what you already knew in your own heart anyway.
I copied your post to where more teens would see it.
I did not make a mockery - I made one comment that sex ed should be bought back and it should.
I left it up to the girls of similar age to see what they had to say.
And as I stated in a reply to you, that if one person can learn from your post then it was worth it.
How many people do you think read these boards? How many read but don't post? How many wonder what you wondered? Don't you want others to benefit from it?
But as for the making fun of - I don't think so, post deleted? Why? People should be able to read that and learn.
If you didn't want people to read it why post it?
And there was never a case of hoping you wouldn't see it, I more assumed you would, and that the replies it received would back up what you already knew in your own heart anyway.
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posted: 09-28-04 11:59am
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so is everyone else who's read this thread not responding because this is a stupid worry? Lol but I need people to tell me how dumb this is! It reassures me that i'm just a worrywart who's stressing over nothing. It makes me feel better. Please respond! I'd really appreciate it thanks!
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im sorry that u had people make fun of u and tell u how dumb it was but when u write something like I need people to tell me how dumb this is all that is is asking to be mocked at. So im not saying they were right by saying mean things but u also shouldnt have worded it like that if u didnt want to be told how dumb it was!!
paranoidfreak
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posted: 09-28-04 11:59am
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so is everyone else who's read this thread not responding because this is a stupid worry? Lol but I need people to tell me how dumb this is! It reassures me that i'm just a worrywart who's stressing over nothing. It makes me feel better. Please respond! I'd really appreciate it thanks!
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im sorry that u had people make fun of u and tell u how dumb it was but when u write something like I need people to tell me how dumb this is all that is is asking to be mocked at. So im not saying they were right by saying mean things but u also shouldnt have worded it like that if u didnt want to be told how dumb it was!!
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| cherriegurl wrote: |
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paranoidfreak joined: 26 sep 2004 posts: 14 posted: 09-28-04 11:59am ------------------------------------------ -------------------------------------- so is everyone else who's read this thread not responding because this is a stupid worry? Lol but I need people to tell me how dumb this is! It reassures me that i'm just a worrywart who's stressing over nothing. It makes me feel better. Please respond! I'd really appreciate it thanks! Back to top im sorry that u had people make fun of u and tell u how dumb it was but when u write something like I need people to tell me how dumb this is all that is is asking to be mocked at. So im not saying they were right by saying mean things but u also shouldnt have worded it like that if u didnt want to be told how dumb it was!! |
i wanted people to tell me that the worry was dumb, not that I was!!! Its one thing for people to say, "this is a dumb concern...You cant get pregnant from what you described, dont worry!" its another thing to have people call you "stupid" and a "person", especially when its done in a completely different forum, which leads me to believe they did this behind my back and they didnt want me to read their comments, otherwise they would have just posted their comments either in my thread or in that forum. Not to mention the fact that the post has since been deleted. If they were simply doing what I asked and reassuring me that my worry was dumb, why did they feel the need to delete the post once they found out I read it????
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This is actually pretty funny...I never thought that i'd come across a forum where people call innocent posters "stupid" and a "person" and make fun of their alleged ignorance...And that these people would be defended for doing so!!!! I mean ive heard of liberal forums and all but this is too much even for me!
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Thats why I said I was sorry and I truely am!! Good luck
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1) I didn't delete the post - I don't know who did.
2) more young girls read this forum - girls of a similar age who may have a similar concern
3) no one made "fun" of you
ps - I still didn't delete the post and didn't know it was deleted til I read this saying it had been deleted.
I stand by what I say - i'm not about to delete what I feel was an important post.
How am I supposed to know that you wouldn't look at all forums?
2) more young girls read this forum - girls of a similar age who may have a similar concern
3) no one made "fun" of you
ps - I still didn't delete the post and didn't know it was deleted til I read this saying it had been deleted.
I stand by what I say - i'm not about to delete what I feel was an important post.
How am I supposed to know that you wouldn't look at all forums?
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| kia_breizzze wrote: |
| paranoid freak, don't get on the I won't say who blah waffle.
I copied your post to where more teens would see it. I did not make a mockery - I made one comment that sex ed should be bought back and it should. I left it up to the girls of similar age to see what they had to say. And as I stated in a reply to you, that if one person can learn from your post then it was worth it. How many people do you think read these boards? How many read but don't post? How many wonder what you wondered? Don't you want others to benefit from it? But as for the making fun of - I don't think so, post deleted? Why? People should be able to read that and learn. If you didn't want people to read it why post it? And there was never a case of hoping you wouldn't see it, I more assumed you would, and that the replies it received would back up what you already knew in your own heart anyway. |
people should be able to read that and learn?? Am I the only one here who thinks its wrong to insult posters for no real reason?? I mean yeah, i've read threads where people ask "can I get pregnant by giving my bf oral sex??" or "can I get an std by holding hands with a guy??" and yeah, to me those questions are a little off...And to you, my question probably was a little off, as well...But I would never ever ever use someone's post to demonstrate how sex ed should be brought back in schools or to pretty much open the floodgates for insults and mockery! I mean, what did you think you were going to get by starting that thread? Even if you had the most innocent of intentions, did you honestly think people were going to respond with, "yes, youre right. Sex ed really should be included in school curricula." I mean, if people had responded that way, I honestly wouldnt have had a problem. But a child could have told you that thats not how people were likely to respond to a post like that. Of course you were gonna get people who would see that thread as an opportunity to make fun of someone's "ignorance" and insult them and call them names. And sure enough, thats what happened. And I dont appreciate it, considering that I had a legitimate concern and, although you may not understand why, I was worried out of my mind.
I mean for goodness sake, this is a health forum!! "forum" being the operative word. People go to forums for advice, support and understanding. Do you really think you and the other people involved with that thread were being supportive with your comments?
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Hey paranoidfreak, you know you aren't going to get us to change anything. Nothing you can say would convince us to change our behavior, so why don't you just drop it? You can sit here and yell at us and try to insult us all day long, but its not going to get you anywhere. You're just wasting energy.
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| cherriegurl wrote: |
| thats why I said I was sorry and I truely am!! Good luck |
thank you. I didnt mean to snap at you, and i'm sorry if I did. You did nothing wrong. I'm just very frazzled.
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When and where were "you" made fun of?
People gave their opinion of the post - exactly what you asked for
again how many other girls do you think read but dont post, how many of them think what you did?
And teenage girls are more likely to look in the teenage forum.
I can see you are embarrased but get over that bit, lots of people ask daft questions, but there are loads more who don't post them.
I would really love to know how many girls read that and realised phew their own fears were unfounded.
I did not expect replies regarding the sex ed being bought back into schools - that was my personal opinion - same as what everyone else gave
People gave their opinion of the post - exactly what you asked for
again how many other girls do you think read but dont post, how many of them think what you did?
And teenage girls are more likely to look in the teenage forum.
I can see you are embarrased but get over that bit, lots of people ask daft questions, but there are loads more who don't post them.
I would really love to know how many girls read that and realised phew their own fears were unfounded.
I did not expect replies regarding the sex ed being bought back into schools - that was my personal opinion - same as what everyone else gave
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| linuxchique wrote: |
| hey paranoidfreak, you know you aren't going to get us to change anything. Nothing you can say would convince us to change our behavior, so why don't you just drop it? You can sit here and yell at us and try to insult us all day long, but its not going to get you anywhere. You're just wasting energy. |
youre exactly right. Nothing I can say will get you to change. And if you consider it acceptable behavior to insult people and make fun of their concerns, then the only thing I can say is that I dont belong here. I belong in a forum where people are kind and understanding and receptive to others' questions, opinions, and concerns.
It was nice to have met you, those of you who were actually nice to me here.
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| who made fun of her post. |
no one made fun but someone (can't look post has gone) apparentl made a "personal comment" of stupid person
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I wrote "where did sex ed go wrong?!?!" because well it was an odd question that shouldnt have to be asked
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Exactly gaby, I bet she isn't the only girl to read these boards and think the same thing either.
Which is why I said sex ed should be bought back.
Which is why I said sex ed should be bought back.
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