I am a 36 year old fair skinned female who has suffered from this rash since grade school, it runs in the family. My father has two sisters who dropped out of highschool because they were to embarrassed to go to school everyday.
I can remember periods in my life where it has been disabling, keping me home from pursuing careers and other interests. But now I have tried to meet it head on. I have choosen to restructure my life following sept 11 and just live and not worry so much. So we blush, it sucks and we deal. It just means we have emotions and feel things deeply. People always tell me I care to much about others, animals the planet? Is this a common theme?
As far as dating and boys go. We all have issues, if yours is simply blushing, you are a dream! We are lucky because this problem teaches you empathy, and kindness. You want others to feel comfortable. A great trait!!! And guys don't always notice or care if you are blushing. I promise (from experience of being best friends with amazing successful beautiful women) everyone, everyone, is freaking out about their own imperfection (whatever it is), we just can't see theirs. One of the most comforting thing an ex boyfriend ever said to me when I said I was worried about it the blushing, he said most men are just wondering if you do that all over your body.
I have choosen to go back to school for the career I have always wanted but didn't have because it involved alot of putting yourself out there. Lots of presentations of my own creative work, all eyes on me kind of things. Day to day, I am in a crew neck with a collared shirt over it ( I break out on the shoulders and top of back too). If I have a presentaion I wear a mock turtleneck or sleeveless turtleneck with a light sweater. I live in the south and it gets wicked hot but it makes me feel comfortable to cover it up and then I just push through. Yes I sweat, yes I get red, but if I can block it out and just push forward I know it will fade and I will be okay.
Self tanner helps me, it does not alleviate but keeps the contrast down. Proms, weddings, etc. Tan, eat well, lots of water and lots of sleep. I have tried pills, xanax, clarinex, benadryl but feel like it is all in my head if I take the pills I will think I am protected and think about it less but have also broken out with the rash while on each of them.
I read an article about an actress who said she suffered from severe panic attacks and blushed alot and it held her back but she fought it so hard that it made her a great actress. I have always remebered this and felt that if I can push through and deal with this as an insignificant part of all that I am and do with my life I will have learned a great lesson and head to my next life to deal with my next problem, remember we all got something.
Sorry for the longest post ever....