How Can I Convince My Girlfriend to Go On Bc? Posted: 09-27-04 17:53pm
I feel really unsafe having sex with just
a condom, and I hate bringing birht
control up to her, cause I think she gets
offended, and always avoids the question,
and always changes the subject. We
obviously cant get our parents involved
with it, cause they would kill us if they
knew we were sexualy active, so money can
be a problem. We found a place that gives
birth control for free, but its quite the
bus ride once a month, cause I dont think
they give u anymore then a one month
supply.
So what are our options, and do u have any
tips???
First of all you shouldnt be having sex if
your that young. But your going to
anyway. It is your girlfriends body and
she has the right to not take medication
if she doesnt want to.Dont be so selfish
and let her make the choice when she is
good and ready. And by the way you can
still get pregnant on bc if it isnt taken
properly
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Chula616
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 15 May 2004 Posts: 36 Location: Miami, FL
Posted: 09-28-04 10:02am
I have a totally different opinion from
the post above.
Anyways... I do agree that it is
ultimately your girlfriend's choice, but
birth control is a great thing. I do not
think you are being selfish, because you
are worried about having sex with just
condoms, which is why I got on birth
control. Sometimes condoms would break on
me and my boyfriend, and buying the
morning after pill is expensive, so we
decided to get on bc. It is true that
birth control is not 100% effective, but
neither are condoms, especially when they
break. Just explain to her why you think
she should get on birth control. But do
realize that if she does get on the pill
her parents will probably find out at some
point, because it's hard to hide a pill
that you have to take everyday, especially
because you should take it at the same
time everyday in order for it to work
best, no exceptions, it doesn't matter if
you are siting on the dinner table, with
mom, and grandma when it's time to take
your pill, you have to take it. How old
are you and your girlfriend?
A womans body is hers and the choice is
hers. You should not go on bc for anybody
but yourself. There are many side effects
some of the are life threatening.
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wakkochic17
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 01 Mar 2004 Posts: 494 Location: South Carolina
Posted: 09-28-04 22:46pm
But then you should not have sex if you
don't want to take part of the
responsibility to prevent yourself from
getting pregnant. While you can't make
her go on the pill, you can say you don't
feel comfortable having sex anymore
without that extra bit of protection..
Which is a perfectly logical reason and
response.
Listen I had a mini stroke when I went on
bc to take "responsibility" for not
getting pregnant. So this is a huge
concern for alot of girls and they have no
idea that this can happen to them.
Not only that but you are not protected
from std's if you dont use a condom
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Kia
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Joined: 23 Jun 2004 Posts: 6594 Location: Planet Tampaxia,
Posted: 09-29-04 07:12am
2littlegirlz I am sorry to hear you had a
bad experience with birth control but that
is not a reason to advise against taking
it for everyone.
The guy who made the post is being
responsible.
Why don't you get a spermicidal lubriant
(make sure it is not oil based as this can
perish rubber/latex) that will help
destroy any little spermies that could
escape a broken condom.
Birth control pills/patch/shot are a great
back up to condoms - just in case
usually pills are given in 3 months
batches, most shots last 3 months and
patches last a month I believe but I think
you get given a 3 month supply.
Yes, it is her body and her choice, but
good on you for wanting to be responsible.
Personally if you don't feel adequately
protected, keep your willy in your pants,
hon
Personally I see it as a way to not have
to wear a condom. I work with young
mothers and a lot of them had the
convincing of the boy friend for bc. And
shortly after the condom was gone. Any
way im not advising not to take it im all
for it but it is up to her and pressure
from her boyfriend just makes it even more
difficult for her.
I know im gonna peeve some people off with
that post but I here it all the time.
Sorry if no one likes it I just want people
to be aware of the complications that can
arise from the pill
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callie8323
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 13 Sep 2004 Posts: 231 Location: nc
Better Off to Stop Posted: 09-29-04 09:50am
If your that concered best thing is to
stop no more worries wait till you both
are ready to face that pregnancy can
happen no matter what. I started when I
was 17 with all that I wish I could go
back I would have waited till I was ready
now im 21 and I realize how much worrying
causes me to be stressed I wish I would
have waited till I was older you don't
have to worry if you don't have sex
period. Birth contol has a lot of side
affecks I was always to scared to take it.
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Kia
Supporter
Joined: 23 Jun 2004 Posts: 6594 Location: Planet Tampaxia,
Posted: 09-29-04 11:23am
2littlegirlz, no you didn't peeve me off
lol.
I too had to try several different brands
before I got the right one, and in the end
the normal pill wasn't for me -
migraines.
I had the mini pill, which only contains
one hormone not 2.
I totally agree it is her body and for her
to decide what she wants to do, but it is
also nice to see a guy with concern that
just a condom may not be enough, which was
why I suggested spermicides as another
precaution.
While 2 condoms is bad news because the
friction between them is more likely to
lead to tears/splits, a condom and a
cap/diaphragm with spermicide will add to
the protection, if the condom was to
break/fall off.
I would never recommend stopping using
condoms because she is on b/c. However, I
did have to find hypo-allergenic condoms,
because I was allergic to the rubber/latex
in standard one's
so sore afterwards (tmi).
But yes, although unlikely for most
people, if you aren't prepared to accept a
pregnancy then abstinence from sex is the
only sure fire answer.
Even sterilisation isn't 100% - my mom
concieved my youngest brother (16 now)
after she had her tubes tied
Thanx kia I hate peeving people off its the last thing
I want to do especially here this is a
great place to help people. They can get
so many different opinions.
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Chula616
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 15 May 2004 Posts: 36 Location: Miami, FL
Posted: 09-30-04 07:26am
Hey everyone,
I do agree that it is ultimately
her choice, but a lot of the time the
reason why girls are scared is because
they are not well educated on what birth
control really is. Before getting on
birth control I went to the planned
parenthood, and talked to one of the
clinicians about everything I wanted to
know, in addition I did my own research
online, and got to know just about
everything I needed to know, before making
my decision, I decided to get on, I have
been on yasmin for 4 months and I have no
complaints it is great for me! So I guess
I am lucky. I just think that maybe gman
and his girlfriend should find out more
about the possible birth control methods,
and then she can make a decision based on
what she learned. Like I said before I
got on birth control because condoms did
break on me, more than once, and that is
just scary.
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Teenytoona
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 15 Apr 2004 Posts: 101
Posted: 10-06-04 13:34pm
Your girlfriend not wanting to take
hormonal birth control is a choice many
women and girls make. Hormonal birth
control is notorious for a long laundry
list of side effects not the least of
which include occurances like littlegirlz
had, but much more commonly occurring are
high rates of depression, major loss of
libido, weight gain, and other problems
generally associated with taking synthetic
hormones into the system.
Condoms on the other hand, when used
properly, are highly effective, and offer
no side effects that will affect a person
every
single day they take the pill, regardless
of sexual activity occurring that day or
not. In my opinion the trade off
is clear. Take a pill every single day
just in case you may or may not have sex
which makes you miserable and possibly
induces other problems, or wrap up the
jimmy at the time you have sex. If you're
worried about a back up method, maybe you
should look into a second barrier method
such as a diaphragm or a sponge. Besides,
condoms are the most effective protection
against sti's being passed around. Far
too many boys and men will forgo the
condom because she's suddenly on a
hormonal method, not at all thinking about
disease potential.
Besides, condoms are the cheapest bc
method out there.
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Kia
Supporter
Joined: 23 Jun 2004 Posts: 6594 Location: Planet Tampaxia,
Posted: 10-06-04 14:43pm
While this is true, many are having sex on
a regular, often daily basis.
And regardless of poor wording or anything
else, the original poster should be
rewarded for at least being concerned and
not wanting an unplanned pregnancy.
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Kelli_
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 23 Sep 2004 Posts: 46 Location: America
Posted: 10-06-04 22:06pm
kia_breizzze
wrote:
the guy who made the post is
being responsible.
true enough he is thinking responsibly.
However if he were behaving
responsibly he would not be engaging in
sex as a minor and with a minor.
My husband wanted me to get on birth
control and I opted not to. It's a good
thing as now I have so many allergies and
difficulties, those hormones would have
had me with one foot in the grave and the
other foot on a banana peel.
Quote:
tr>
yes, it is her
body and her choice, but good on you for
wanting to be responsible. Personally
if you don't feel adequately protected,
keep your willy in your pants, hon
excellent advice.
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Chula616
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 15 May 2004 Posts: 36 Location: Miami, FL
Shocked Posted: 10-07-04 15:37pm
I cannot believe how some of you are
acting, you are making it seem like bc is
the worst thing in the world. You need to
understand everyone is different, and
different pills have different effects on
people. Many people are happy on bc
sometimes you just have to try a few
brands until you find one that works for
you.
More surprising is how you guys are acting
about sex, saying that gman and his girl
shouldn't be having sex if they are so
young, yet no one here even knows how old
the boy is. And besides all of that you
guys really need to stop acting like you
were not having sex when you were young
too. Come on now, we are in 2004. I am
not saying that people should be having
sex at 14 but I mean we do not even know
how old the guy is. I am 19, and my
boyfriend is 23, we have been together for
two years, and yes I am sexually active
and yes I am being responsible by taking
bc, because I do not want to get pregnant
because a condom broke, that's just
stupid.
Once again I do agree that it is
ultimately her choice, but because a baby
will affect both of their lives I think
gman has every right to talk to his girl
about bc. It's not like he can shove them
down her throat if she says no!...
You girls really need to lighten up!!
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portybeauty
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 07 Oct 2004 Posts: 19 Location: ottawa
Posted: 10-07-04 16:21pm
Hey
when I was on bc I use to get bc for
6months
and I only had to pay 10 bucks for six
months
so mabey you should try that and ask her
ask her
if she would rather get pregnate and her
mom and dad killing her or take a little
pill everyday
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juniper
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 01 Oct 2004 Posts: 65 Location: Southern California
Posted: 10-07-04 17:11pm
If she is not comfortable taking bcpills,
you should probably drop the subject.
Personally, I don't think the pill is
completely safe, though there are many
advantages to it (reduced risk of ovarian
cancer being one). It's a huge shock to
the body to introduce such high levels of
hormones in a teen.
Might I suggest a diaphragm? It can be
much easier to use than condoms and rather
inexpensive over the long-term.
In my experience, the best birth control
method is the one you use without fail.
If you are used to condoms but are worried
about back up, might I suggest a little
spermicide in the condom? If the condom
breaks, it's much less likely to cause
pregnancy. I used condoms for 13 years
with my husband and we never got
pregnant.