What Do I Do With Him (please Help) Posted: 09-26-04 09:33am
I've know these guy for about fours. I
meant him in high school my 12th grade
year. Really didn't see him as anything
but an friend. Plus he had an
girlfriend. Well are second semister I
had an history class with him. He would
come sit behind me , ask me to the movies,
ask me questions about guys, give me his
number,get mad if I didn't call or
wouldn't, hang out with him, tell me he
told his family about me, sit with me at
lunch,gave me money, take me home, come up
to my job. And people started asking me
we,re we talking. ( mind you he had a
girlfriend) and everytime I corrected the
people saying we're just friends. And
then tell him about it he wouldn't say
anything. So after high school we still
we're cool talked on the phone for four
hours, went places, just cool. And I
began to like him and it was more
mentally then physically. But he was
still seeing his girl. But she was away
at college. He would always tell me he
wasn't, happy. So when they broke up I
told him I liked him. He said he liked
me too. And we started talking more and
our conversation changed from just general
topics to relationship topics. Even one
day when he called me while he was with
his boys I heard one say something about
us talk. He bought me a great b-day gift
, and was talking about what he was going
to give me for christmas. Anyways
around thanksgiving his ex got out of
school and came down for the holidays.
My intuition said it was going to be some
stuff, I had talked to him earlier, when
my sister and I we're heading to store.
Anyways I went to the store later then I
said and I saw him pulling up I parked
and watched him get out. And quess who
he was with him ex and i'm not trippin
like it was innocence they we're holding
hands. I was shocked I never thought I
would see this . I waiting and called
my friend on my cell so she could claim me
down. Went in their to look for him to
see how he would react to seeing me.
When I saw him he wasn't with her they
we're split up he looked at me and smiled
with his hands out for an hug. I walked
passed him an he said oh is it like that
I just kept walking. Well he and her
leave without buying anything, but their
were not even out of the store and he's
calling me on my cell. Asking me whats
wrong, and I keep hanging up, he keeps
calling back saiding talk to me ,it ain't
like that ,(mind you she's in the car
while his beggin to me) he called about 15
times. I gave him his gift back that he
bought me , he gave it back to me , with
notes, he kept write me letter asking me
why I was ending our friendship, so after
5 or 6 letter I decided to be back friends
and then I hear he asked my guy friend
were him and I messin around, and my
friends no , and he say well I think ya'll
is. So I end the friendship for good I
thought. He got back with his ex and I
started messin with some one. And you
would think it was done . But it's not
he's always asking my friends about me ,
calling my house blocked, has his friends
stared at me or speak, when he sees me in
public he tries to come up to me. Has
mutual friends give him info on me. We
talk on and off we we're friends once in
02 for 1 or 2 mos and then didn't really
talk anymore. Until 04 and when we did
he was trying to be deep saying he usually
does open up, he didn't have want he
wants(he kept saying that) . We are
o.O.K.. Right now but he's acting weird
if I call an tell him to call me he won't
and if he doesn't it's blocked and he
doesn't, say anything. He's only called
me maybe three or four times outta the 7
mos. I like him still, but I don't now
if I should. Please help.
Last edited by nobleview on 09-26-04 11:13am; edited 1 time in total
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PattyV
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 01 May 2004 Posts: 1103 Location: Chicago area
Posted: 09-26-04 09:51am
I know its hard when you love someone and
they do not act like they feel the same
way.Maybe he does love you ,maybe he
doesn't.I had a similar relationship
throughout high school and into my mid
20's.I was addicted to this man.He could
do anything to me and I always took him
back.I believe he loved me,but for
whatever reason,it was not a healthy kind
of love that can or should last forever.I
finally just kind of
disappeared.Movd,changed my phone
#,stopped going to the places he knew he
could find me.I did not leave the city I
lived in,just changed my habits as he knew
them.This allowed me some time to gain a
little perspective on the whole thing.I
realized that love alone is not enough to
keep a relationship alive.There has to be
trust,respect and the willingness to work
problems out.This I found in my husband
and I knew him for many years and only
thought of him as a friend until,he was
there for me during some tough
times.Please try to find someone who will
treat you as you deserve to be treated,not
play games with you.Good luck to you and
don't settle for less than the best!Patty
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nobleview
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 23 Sep 2004 Posts: 37 Location: michigan
Posted: 09-26-04 10:39am
You think this was doomed from the start I
just really wanna be with him, just call
him an dput my selve on the line and see
what he says I would hate to run out on
love